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Miss Poodle, Santiago, Chile/San Bernardino, CA Age and Occupation: 27, Industrial & Web Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Firefighter & Mountain Patrol Engagement Date: February 25, 2009 Wedding Date: January 2010 Venue: Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch About Me: I’m a Chilean girl who's crazy about nature and swimming. I enjoy carving, drawing, reading and sewing; I drool over computers, fabric, pretty paper, purple and patterns. To me, chocolate should be one of the seven wonders, right next to lemon pie. I never thought an exchange work experience program was going to change my life forever, but while working in California, I met Mr. Poodle, and ever since my days are better and brighter. We are two goofy souls that, after finding each other, couldn’t help but want to be together forever. It has being a long and sometimes hard road, since we have to deal with such a long distance between us, but we are now facing the last stage of our Fiancé Visa, and soon we will be together. You know the best part? We will be married! So I’ll be blogging from Chile until just a few months before our “green and purple” wedding.
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A Bump in the Road

October 9th, 2009 @ 4:53 pm by Miss Poodle

I thought this week I was going to write the post I’ve been waiting to write for 221 days. I though last Monday we were going to have our visa approved and I was going to be thrilled to announce that I was going to be reunited with Mr. Poodle in just a week. Well, that is not happening, and we won’t be reunited in a week.

Maybe my expectations were too high, but there was a no reason to get any answer but an approval, and even though we were not rejected, after the interview, I felt like we were.

Trust me, I’ve done major research about every aspect of what they ask during the visa interview, so I was pretty confident about it. But to my surprise, I got the answer I was not ready to hear: we have to keep waiting, waiting to know if we get approved (in my head I was screaming at him, saying, “Are you kidding me???” Is 221 days of waiting not long enough or something?).

I was so frustrated, sad, mad, and I felt like my heart was breaking, but I kept my head up, took a deep breath, smiled, and ask him about how they’ll contact me. Later, when I was home, I had to let everything out and I broke to tears. I felt our wedding plans were being trashed away by an Immigration Officer, and more than ever I wished I knew how to build a machine to teleport myself into Mr. Poodle’s arms.

So, yeah… after hours feeling like it was the end of the world, I realized how much of a baby I was because:

  • Yes, this adds some extra weeks on to our long awaited reunion.
  • Yes, it’s going to take longer to move to CA.
  • Yes, I will need to put some of my DIY projects on hold.
  • Yes, I probably wont see Mr. Poodle as soon as we thought I would. But, hey! I will be sharing the rest of my life with him, so every single tear of frustration over this process is so worth it if at the end I’ll walk down the aisle to the man of my dreams, right?

Each little bump in the road makes me appreciate Mr. Poodle more and more, and I know I will never take him, our love, or our relationship for granted because we have being fighting to be together for so long. And every single time things got tough, he was my rock. He always gave me the energy to raise my head up again, to look beyond the gray cloud, and to realize we have a wonderful future ahead of us. Our love keeps growing, and all of this will just make us and our relationship stronger.

We had everything so well planned, that it was a timing masterpiece. But I now I need to let it go, relax, and focus on the half-full glass. Sometimes in timing out a wedding, things don’t go as planned.

Have you faced a sudden change in your wedding timeline? What have you done to keep a positive attitude about it all?

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42 Responses to “A Bump in the Road”

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shelliduke
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shelliduke (message)  222 posts, Helper bee

Oh, Miss Poodle, I’m sorry. I am so impressed by your great attitude. I haven’t had anything nearly so major go wrong, but I am such a planner that every time something does not go the way I envisioned it in my head, I get frustrated and disappointed. Your waiting and difficulties really puts things in perspective for me. I can’t wait to read the post about you being reunited with your honey!!

 
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jaymugirly
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jaymugirly (message)  52 posts, Worker bee

I’m so sorry to hear this!! We look forward to hearing about your reunion!

 
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Jenn R

Poor thing. I’ve been through the immigration wringer and it sucks. Nothing has made me more nervous than putting our future in some immigration officer’s hands. Don’t worry - it WILL work out and probably sooner than you expect. Once it’s over you will be so relieved and will forget about all of this stress. I promise. Hang in there!

 
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Miss Frozen Yogurt (message)  865 posts, Busy bee

Poodle, I’m so sorry! I know that it will all work out and I’m so glad that you’re able to have a positive attitude about it.

 
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myrene

hi ms poodle, my future bubby and I were supposed to get married next year and it was supposed to be a destination wedding but we found out his mom was diagnosed with cancer…again…she’s been in remission for close to 15 years now. what a heartbreak for my future hubby, he and his mom are super close and to find out she’s sick again was devastating. we moved up the date and now we’re having our wedding locally but it is really hard to be happy and plan a wedding while his mom is battling cancer and having to deal with surgeries, medicine, and chemo. we’re just taking it day by day and like you-we’re looking at the bright side. we pray and hope she’ll be OK and even though we won’t get to have the ‘destination wedding of our dreams’ we’ll make the best of it and at least we’ll be mister and misses in less than 2 months. so just keep your head and up and soon you’ll be in mr poodle’s arms…where you belong. when that day comes, all this trouble and waiting will all be worth it. good luck to you and yours :)

 
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JG

I am sorry to hear your frustration. It sounded like immigration is giving you a migrain and a half. Hang in there!! While I have been lucky enough not to have to face your problem, I am really familiar with visa issues. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

 
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tea
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tea (message)  2,616 posts, Sugar bee

i’m sorry to hear about the delay! that must be killer! but you’re right; you’re spending the rest of your life with mr. poodle. just keep focusing on that! good luck!

 
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Miss Chick (message)  218 posts, Helper bee

I’m so sorry to hear that! I’ve also had to go through the visa process…they are THE WORST!! Don’t worry, time will go by faster than you think and everything will be great! Go get yourself some cookies and feel better!

 
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froggy518
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froggy518 (message)  56 posts, Worker bee

Miss Poodle, you are a woman far above your circumstances, and your composure in the midst of such an awful predicament is nothing short of marvelous. Stay strong, keep your sight set on your wonderful future, and know that the hive is sending lots of good vibes your way! Take care, and keep your chin up! We’re rooting for you!

 
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Mrs Moose
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Mrs Moose (message)  77 posts, Worker bee

Miss Poodle,
I’m so sorry to hear this! It must be heart-breaking at what should be such a special time in your life… being reunited with your FI before your marriage! I know it will come, just with a few weeks delay, but I’m so sorry to hear it.
My then-FI, (now hubby,) moved to Canada to be with me from England, and luckily, our immigration isn’t nearly so strict. Thinking of you. Good luck! We are all cheering for you and crossing our fingers.

 
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ColorCoated
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ColorCoated (message)  951 posts, Busy bee

Oh Poor Poodle! The immigration business sounds like a pin and half, but good for you for picking your head up. Hang in there!

 
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Miss_Carmel
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Miss_Carmel (message)  317 posts, Helper bee

I love your great attitude girl!

 
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Mrs. French Bulldog
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Mrs. French Bulldog (message)  6,063 posts, Bee Keeper

(((BIG BEE HUGS)))

 
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llc2011
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llc2011 (message)  458 posts, Helper bee

oh no! I’m so sorry Miss Poodle. But I love your positive attitude knowing that you will never take your love for granted.

 
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julesann
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julesann (message)  79 posts, Worker bee

Ahhhh…..Yes, I guess this makes you realize just how lucky you will be when you guys are finally together. :) I guess…on the positive side….enjoy lots of girly things….and no video games/sports on tv every second….etc. ;)

We changed our wedding date from July 2010 to Nov 14, 2009! And we changed it this Aug! So yes….quite a change….but we are excited to be doing the wedding our way….A small wedding in our city. :)

 
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ms.pascua
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ms.pascua (message)  197 posts, Blushing bee

Miss Poodle, I’m praying for your reunion to be soon and totally fulfilling. I’m super impressed by your strength of will. I hope that everything goes smoothly, here on out.

 
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Ms. Mojito
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Ms. Mojito (message)  230 posts, Helper bee

Miss Poodle, I am sorry to hear this, but with your very positive atitude, I know you will make it through. I am also impressed by you and will be praying that you can be with your Mr. soon.

 
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D.Marie
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D.Marie (message)  1,372 posts, Bumble bee

Im sorry about your little bump in the road but as always along with your style and DIY projects your attitude and personality are awesome as well! You two will have a wonderful reunion and it will be even better now. What a great person you are and a great couple you must be.

 
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evelinej
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evelinej (message)  364 posts, Helper bee

I’m sorry to hear about this. Hang in there. You’re positive attitude makes you stronger :o) Best wishes in hearing from them soon. ** hugs **

 
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RecessionistaBride
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RecessionistaBride (message)  3,329 posts, Sugar bee

Miss Poodle: Your FI should contact his congressman! They can usually get these things sped up.

I’m sitting here crying for you… I am going through the K1 visa process & I feel like all visa brides are in this together. My heart aches for you because I can understand 100% what you’re dealing with. I’m sorry…

 
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KMSull
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KMSull (message)  2,652 posts, Sugar bee

I’m so sorry. I can’t even imagine how heartbroken you are. The grace you’re handling this with is amazing!

 
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lcneiny
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lcneiny (message)  170 posts, Blushing bee

I’m so sorry Miss Poodle!! Keep your head up, you have an excellent outlook though and you are exactly right, you will be with him for the rest of your life and once you get through this it will be much better.

 
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celery (message)  59 posts, Worker bee

I’m sorry to hear that Poodle! I’m hoping that good news will come sooner than later! All the best!

 
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jhguba (message)  239 posts, Helper bee

Aww, the US government sucks, poodle. Unfortunately, you just got the raw end of the deal this time. : (

 
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Lauren611 (message)  52 posts, Worker bee

I am so sorry to hear that! Your great attitude will help you through and it is a great reminder to other brides to not stress out over something insignificant. If you can stay upbeat through something major, the rest of us can handle the teeny tiny bumps in our roads!

 
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Miss Poodle
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Miss Poodle (message)  3,020 posts, Sugar bee

Thank you so much for the kind words and support :) means a lot.

@myrene: OMG thats quite a story, I am sending all the good thoughts your way! I hope you have a wonderful wedding, I can’t imagine how hard this must be for the both of you. you, your FI and your FMIL are in my prayers :)

 
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Chistar
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Chistar (message)  27 posts, Newbee

Miss Poodle, I totally feel your pain! We were due to get married in September but had to postpone the wedding when in August we still had not heard back from the Home Office in the UK about his visa.

It can be really hard because people don’t really understand what you’re going through, if they have never had to experience immigration issues.

It is also so frustrating knowing that your life is in the hands of an Immigration Officer, someone who doesn’t know you or know your situation.

It was really sad not to get married when we should have. But what the whole process is teaching us (yes- it is still not over) is that our love is stronger than any immigration decision. We love each other A LOT and have been through A LOT but both know that when we do say our vows, they will mean so much more.

Good luck girl - everything will work out!

 
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mrspaetz
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mrspaetz (message)  1,707 posts, Bumble bee

*big hugs* i’m sorry to hear that, but hey, they did not say you were rejected right??

don’t give up hope. maybe you just need to submit some additional documents or something.

Buena suerte!

 
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realeastcoaster
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realeastcoaster (message)  476 posts, Helper bee

So sorry that you’re having such a difficult time - I hope they contact you soon!

 
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RAllise (message)  438 posts, Helper bee

Wow, not good, I am so sorry. You have auch a positive attitude, someone we really learn from. Thank you, stay strong.

 
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pmerr
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pmerr (message)  1,184 posts, Bumble bee

I’m sorry!!! I’m glad you have a positive attitude! I know I wouldn’t! It’ll happen soon enough!

 
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Miss Kitty Cat
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Miss Kitty Cat (message)  23 posts, Newbee

HUGS!!!! Keep positive :) I’m keeping you in my thoughts.

 
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Miss Cloud (message)  587 posts, Busy bee

You are one brave little bee! I don’t know if I could possibly be as strong as you are if we were in the same situation! I’m sending lots of big bee hugs, prayers, and crossed fingers your way! Hang in there :)

 
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alishaneva
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alishaneva (message)  1,524 posts, Bumble bee

*hugs hugs* It all will definitely work out in the end - it’s nice to see that you’re willing to share with us your heartache as you wait the grueling days to see Mr. Poodle and then your disappointment when it doesn’t happen … then your unending optimism that it will all work out for the better!! Good luck - and we’re here to cheer you on (just tell mr. immigration officer to give a call to weddingbee and we’ll atest to your love)!

 
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Mrs. Espresso (message)  1,064 posts, Bumble bee

oh I’m so sorry Poodle! I can’t imagine everything you must be feeling right now. But your positive attitude and determination is inspiring. Everything will work out and we’re here for you!

 
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Mrs. Mouse (message)  3,301 posts, Sugar bee

Aww, Miss Poodle, I’m so sorry things aren’t going as planned. I really hope you and Mr. Poodle get to be together very soon!

 
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MaPo
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MaPo (message)  312 posts, Helper bee

Kudos to your super admirable attitude!

 
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fiftyfootbride
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fiftyfootbride (message)  3,683 posts, Sugar bee

:(

I’m sorry, Poodle. That’s so frustrating.

*hugs*

 
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FlipFlopBride
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FlipFlopBride (message)  1,305 posts, Bumble bee

Sorry you’re dealing with a delay, Miss Poodle. *Hugs* to you.

But I totally admire your attitude about it all! I hope this delay is a short one!

 
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Miss Parfait (message)  588 posts, Busy bee

I’m so sorry, Poodle. Sending you hugs and happy thoughts~~

 
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Annui
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Annui (message)  314 posts, Helper bee

I’m so sorry.

 
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Miss Poodle Miss Poodle, Santiago, Chile/San Bernardino, CA Age and Occupation: 27, Industrial & Web Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Firefighter & Mountain Patrol Engagement Date: February 25, 2009 Wedding Date: January 2010 Venue: Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch About Me: I’m a Chilean girl who's crazy about nature and swimming. I enjoy carving, drawing, reading and sewing; I drool over computers, fabric, pretty paper, purple and patterns. To me, chocolate should be one of the seven wonders, right next to lemon pie. I never thought an exchange work experience program was going to change my life forever, but while working in California, I met Mr. Poodle, and ever since my days are better and brighter. We are two goofy souls that, after finding each other, couldn’t help but want to be together forever. It has being a long and sometimes hard road, since we have to deal with such a long distance between us, but we are now facing the last stage of our Fiancé Visa, and soon we will be together. You know the best part? We will be married! So I’ll be blogging from Chile until just a few months before our “green and purple” wedding.
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