… Minutes, that is, since we’ve been married. What’s changed in the last two years?
1. We bought our first home! Thanks to Obama and Schwarzenegger, we were able to take advantage of some first time home buyer tax credits to purchase a 2BR/2BA condo in downtown SF. Nevermind that we are too broke to furnish it. Ignore our ghetto “drapes”, i.e. the faded bed sheet we attached to our window with painter’s tape. We have double sinks! Do you know what that means? I can ignore the nasty, hairy shaver “sand” around Mr. Eggplant’s sink! And I’m finally near public transportation so I have an excuse to leave work early; “Sorry guys, gotta go catch my ferry!”
Mr. Eggplant looks terrified during a walk through of our condo. His expression is likely due to discovering my wish list of new furniture.
2. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Mr. Eggplant decided to pursue higher education. So, along with a full time job, he is going to school part time at night. The transition has been both difficult and easy. Difficult because we don’t spend quality time together anymore, our budget is extra tight (tuition is expensive!), and worst of all, Mr. Eggplant transformed my craft room into his man-study, complete with a talking Transformers figure. The horror! On the flip side, we appreciate every last minute we are together. Oh, and I now only have to cook two nights a week!
3. I’ve discovered a passion. Thanks to Weddingbee, I’ve become enamored with gorgeous photos and I’ve taken up photography as a serious hobby/potential future business endeavor. Mr. Eggplant bought me my first DSLR for my birthday last year, and it’s been attached to me ever since. Although I’m not quitting my day job, I’m concentrating on becoming the best photographer I can be, without the pressure of building a business.
And after two years, some things never change:
1. We still bicker about money and chores. I spend too much money, he does too little chores (I have a feeling this argument is here to stay).
2. We’re still a good team. We went through a lot during our second year of marriage: family illnesses, family deaths, house buying, moving… but we did it as a team. Sure, I lifted more heavy boxes than Mr. Eggplant. He read more contracts than me. We aren’t perfect, but somehow, we fill in each others’ gaps and make it work.
3. Marriage is still 149,265,109,298 times better than the wedding. The wedding was fabu, but being married is indescribable. There’s something life changing when another person thinks you’re beautiful on your bad days, when you’re five pounds bloated with no make-up and haven’t shaved/showered in a week. I love the daily ups and down of marriage. I love how real the moments are; like when Mr. Eggplant always makes me laugh the very instant I’m trying to be pissed at him. I love that we can fight for days–-weeks, even—yet I ultimately know that we will make up and our differences can never outweigh our affection. Weddings are fabulous, but marriage is incredible.
Happy anniversary, Mr. Eggplant! Here’s to the memories and many more to come.
Wedding photos taken by Apertura Photography