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Mrs. Beagle, Austin Age and Occupation: 26, Electrical Engineer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Finance Engagement Date: July 12, 2008 Wedding Date: October 2009 Venue: Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House About Me: I am a true, but rare, Austinite---I was born, raised, and continue to live in this great city! Although I am an engineer by day, I feed my inner creative side through crafting, sewing, and obsessing over Martha Stewart. I love coffee, my mister, NPR, and exploring all the nooks and crannies of Austin. I can't wait to share my adventures in DIY and wedding planning with all of you!
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The Burdens of Technology

October 21st, 2009 @ 2:55 pm by Mrs. Beagle

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I know we are all too familiar with the cheesy “silence your phone” commercials during movie previews. Practically everyone owns a cell phone today, and while most people are used to silencing it during meetings, church, etc., I think it is important to remind people that a wedding is also the occasion to “unplug”.

In fact at one wedding that Mr. Beagle and I attended, the church was going to charge the couple an extra fee for every cell phone that went off during the ceremony. Thankfully, no annoying ring tones were heard throughout the ceremony and fees were avoided.

The other technology item that may cause disturbances during the ceremony is the digital camera. Of course practically everyone owns one of these too. I wouldn’t have even thought to mention anything about cameras if our church coordinator hadn’t said something to me at our last meeting. She told me that flash photography is frowned upon during the ceremony… even from the professional photographer. I actually understand where they are coming from. As valuable as the photos from each moment are, sometimes the photographer/camera can detract from the present moment—the union and marriage. This may not be as strict in another setting, but since we will be getting married in a church, I really wouldn’t expect anything less.

I was going to originally make mention of this somewhere in our programs, but then I forgot to include it *doh!*. The next best thing I’ve come up with is to make a small sign that will sit beside the guestbook and program basket that will say something along the lines of:

“Please remember to silence your cell phones and refrain from taking flash photographs during the ceremony. Thank You, Mr. & Miss. Beagle.”

Have you thought about the burdens of technology at your event? Are you reminding your guests about the proper etiquette concerning phones?

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17 Responses to “The Burdens of Technology”

1.
Miss Broadway
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Miss Broadway (message)  54 posts, Worker bee

Being a photographer myself, I knew about the flash during the ceremony, but I had completely forgotten about cell phones!

Thanks for the reminder, I will be sure to put it in my programs.

 
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fiftyfootbride
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fiftyfootbride (message)  3,683 posts, Sugar bee

I’m definitely going to have some subtle reminder for people not to use flash photography (or anything to screw our photogs up… lol) and nixing cell phones. Even vibrate makes too much noise on a lot of phones. I think a little sign next to the guestbook might be even better than ones in the program, cause then it’s not so in your face? Perhaps?

 
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completelyrandomsally
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completelyrandomsally (message)  155 posts, Blushing bee

I work at a very large church (17,000 members). We have a sign outside of every wedding ceremony that says “Please silence your cell phones and no flash photography during the ceremony.”

It’s a soft, beautiful design with a rose.

However, originally we wanted it to really make a statement so the graphic designer put a bride in boxing gloves as the image with the statement. I found it to be hilarious, but we didn’t use it since not all brides would have our sense of humor. :)

 
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Mrs. Mascara (message)  771 posts, Busy bee

A phone definitely went off during our ceremony. And THEY LET IT RING! Like 10 times. It even gave the voicemail sound at the end of it all. Luckily we were too happy to care at that moment…

 
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Mrs. Mary Jane
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Mrs. Mary Jane (message)  1,516 posts, Bumble bee

I totally understand the photography thing, flashes are disruptive and some are actually loud. But I hope there’s enough light in the room and/or anyone a couple has designated as a pro photog has a tripod/other proper equipment to get those special photos. I’m terrified to shoot my friend’s upcoming wedding - they asked me to be the photog, but the church is “no flash photography” and it’s DARK in there! The rule might as well say “No clear photos.” Sigh.

@Mrs. Mascara: OMG! Wow!

 
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Miss Rainbow (message)  305 posts, Helper bee

Hahaha, ohmygosh! This post made me think of my future brother in law’s wedding.. he was at the altar saying his vows and his phone went off IN HIS POCKET. It was pretty cringe-worthy, but SO hilarious! Pretty sure his wife was pissed.

 
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alishaneva
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alishaneva (message)  1,524 posts, Bumble bee

You know what’s funny? I wouldn’t have thought about that at all … I’m glad you brought that up - something good to remember when the time comes to look for venues/something to ask.

 
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ms tofu
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ms tofu (message)  237 posts, Helper bee

le sigh.. i’m not sure if the officiant said it, but it wouldn’t have mattered either way. ONE phone went off during our ceremony - front row, my DAD, which was promptly followed by my mom hitting him to turn it off.

 
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fiftyfootbride
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fiftyfootbride (message)  3,683 posts, Sugar bee

@Mrs. Mascara: Are you serious? Did they even flounder around to try to turn the thing off?

 
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kosstobe
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kosstobe (message)  231 posts, Helper bee

my brother was a groomsman in a wedding this past weekend and his phone rang during the ceremony, and since he didn’t turn it off or silence it after that, the missed call and voicemail notifications beeped too! He’s pretty sure the bride and groom were a leeeettle bit annoyed with him.

So yeah, I’m considering a little sign at our wedding.

 
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LovestheBear
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LovestheBear (message)  875 posts, Busy bee

I went to a wedding two weeks ago where someone’s phone started ringing during the vows. It rang a couple times and then the man picked up the phone and walked out of the church! I hope he is a doctor or something…

 
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Miss bliss

I’m a scrapbooker and love to take photos, but this year I found myself distracted by all the people taking digital photos during a wedding… I don’t think it is bothersome during the walk down the aisle, but the service is a solemn and holy event… Joyful yes… but the cameras were bothersome…

 
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tea
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tea (message)  2,616 posts, Sugar bee

i think what’s worse than a phone that goes off are the non-attempts at silencing the ringer. it’s like, instead of admitting you forgot to turn off the ringer, you’d rather just let it be disruptive and let it ring so you can pretend to be disgusted like everyone else. sigh. just turn it off. you never know, that person who’s calling might just hang up and try again!

 
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mrspaetz
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mrspaetz (message)  1,707 posts, Bumble bee

we had travel themed invites, and on the “boarding pass” i had a struck out cellphone icon that said “Pls switch off your electronic devices during the flight” — where ‘flight time’ = our ceremony time.

guests thought it was pretty funny. we didn’t have any cellphone issues, and because it was a small wedding, the flashes weren’t too bad.

 
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ColorCoated
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ColorCoated (message)  951 posts, Busy bee

Our guests are not allowed to take photos during our ceremony. I’m not sure how to let them all know.

 
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Miss Poodle
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Miss Poodle (message)  3,020 posts, Sugar bee

Ohh! Thank you so much for showing me the light! hehe

I think I’ll include that on our programs now! So thank you!!!!

 
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RecessionistaBride
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RecessionistaBride (message)  3,150 posts, Sugar bee

I’m definitely including this in our programs… its incredible to me the lack of phone etiquette.
I was in a church service & someone’s phone went off– AND THEY ANSWERED IT! They sat their talking in the middle of the service until the priest asked her to leave. Grrr. People.

 


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