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Was your SO your first real love? Do you benefit from being in love before (or having never been in love with anyone before)?

Mrs. Mouse - My husband was not my first love. I was in love once before, but the relationship was all kinds of wrong. Looking back, it’s nice to know that even though I loved my ex, the Dude is so much more right for me in every possible way. I don’t have any regrets.

Mrs. French Bulldog - Mr Frenchie was the first boyfriend I ever said “I love you” to. I’d thought I was in love before but never exchanged “I love you”s. When I met Mr Frenchie I knew I’d been wrong about the others—he was the one. I’m glad I dated other guys, that way when I met Mr Frenchie I knew what love really was/is.

Miss Moonbeam - Hmm, he wasn’t the first one I told I loved, but when looking back and seeing what this love is like, I have a hard time believing I truly was in love with those others. I think it was more of that youthful enthusiasm. It has definitely been nice to see what positive differences there have been between those earlier relationships and this one.

Mrs. Bunny - No, Mr. Bunny is not my first love. My first love was my boyfriend during my second year of high school. My second was the guy I dated during college.

I agree with Moonbeam that the love I have for my husband is worlds different than what I felt for either of those two guys. I know Mr. Bunny WAY better than I knew my last boyfriend and I am much more secure in our relationship. I’m glad I had those other two experiences to compare my current relationship with because they show me how much Mr. Bunny loves me!

Mrs. Peep Toe - I was in love before Mr. Peep, but I knew that relationship wouldn’t last. But like others have said, making a commitment together is a total game changer in the game of love (for the better, of course). I can safely say that I am Mr. Peep’s first love. In fact, it makes my heart warm when I think about it.

Mrs. Mary Jane - No, Mr. Mary Jane was not my first love, and I was not his. Looking back on our other serious relationships has taught us a lot about what we value in a partner, I think. Our previous experiences really helped us to understand what a mature, lasting relationship needs to have. As Miss Moonbeam and Mrs. Bunny said, looking back, the comparison of the past relationships and present is barely even worth making.

Miss Ramen - Mr. Ramen is my one and only. I’m his too! I know it’s cheesy and sappy, but we get to experience every single first and grow with each other, we have nothing to compare each other to, we have nothing and no one to be jealous of, and have no pasts/baggage to drag us down - I know that I can give Mr. R my entire heart and that I have his entire heart with absolutely no reservations.

Miss Dachshund - Mr. Dachshund is not my first love, but I am his. Like Mrs. Mouse, my one previous “big love” was so wrong for me. We brought out the worst in each other, he made me miserable, but for some crazy reason, I loved him.

Having been in that relationship taught me to appreciate everything about Mr. Doxie. He and I are perfect for each other, we lift each other up when things are going badly, and, in general, we make each other feel confident and loved… something that I had to get used to after coming out of my previous relationship.

I love that I’m his first love, though; it makes me feel so special, knowing that I’m “his only.” Sometimes I wish that Mr. Doxie was my only, too. But then I remember that the people whom I’ve loved in the past have made me who I am today. And without my ex, I never would have started playing Word of Warcraft, where I met Mr. D!

Ms. Swan - I don’t think we are each other’s first loves, but we met later in life. I think we both agree that we would not have been able to appreciate each other’s qualities if we had met earlier. I know that I learned a lot about how to value relationships before I met him. It made me value him when I realized that we had something special.

Mrs. Sunbeam - I’m with Moonbeam. I would say Mr Sunbeam was most likely my first love. I say most likely because we started dating at a young age and before him I had feelings that I thought were love for someone else. But then, at that age it was most likely a love-like crush! I never dated that guy, so the only benefit was that I was free to date and fall in love with Mr. Sunbeam when the opportunity arose! Since we started dating in high school we were saying I love you really early on, but I think our love grew up alongside us and we got to learn about and reevaluate our feelings for one another along the way (we broke up several times, but of course always came running back). Our love definitely became something more than it was ten years ago in high school when we first uttered the words, and it is nice not having to even think about Mr. Sunbeam having loved another.

Miss Frozen Yogurt - Mr. Fro Yo was not my first love, but he has definitely been by far the best partner I have ever had. My previous love was all wrong for me, as many of the other bees have mentioned. I think I needed to grow up a little, experience life, and truly be open to dating someone like Mr. Fro Yo. It’s funny because we talk about how if we knew each other in high school, we would have never been friends. I went to, and organized every school function and he avoided them like the plague. But he is such a genuinely sweet person, and is unlike anyone I have ever been with. I feel very lucky

Mrs. Hydrangea - Mr. Hydrangea was not my first “love.” I say that in quotations because I was so young, I really didn’t understand love. I had been on and off with the same boy for years, allowing him to walk all over me while I followed him like a puppy dog. The funny thing is, Mr. H ended up being my best friend and I completely ignored any attraction to him, and then, all of a sudden, it showed up out of nowhere. I know that our love will evolve over time, but it is most definitely different then my “loves” prior to him - and I attribute a large part of that due to the fact that we grew to know each other as friends first, above all else.

Miss Star - Mr. Star and I have both had serious relationships before and exchanged the “I love yous” and such, but we’ve both talked about how we had no idea what love was until we found each other. It’s just worlds apart.

Mrs. Hot Cocoa - I was a serial monogamist even in high school, but Mr. HC was the first person to whom I said “I love you” and really thought I understood what that meant. Of course, that was when I was 16 and he 17, so I wasn’t as wise as I thought I was! LOL.

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Was your SO your first love?