Auf Wiedersehen!

In true Type-A Rainbow form, I migrate towards the details before I take care of the big things (like, uhh… the dress?). My “detail du jour” is currently the send auf (heh). I have witnessed the good send auf—a beautiful bride running thru a sea of rose petals, the bad send auf—bubble bursting in groom’s eyeball, and the ugly send auf—tea. stuck. everywhere. Tea?! Whose idea was that?

Anyway, I’m currently weighing my options, whilst hoping my send off will be on the good side of the spectrum. Here’s what I’ve got so far:



Rose petals. Simple, classic, and easy. The only downside is that I always feel like rose petals detract from the exit picture. You see the rose petal on the grooms forehead? Hmm, how about something a little more… transparent?



Bubbles. I love seeing pictures of the bubble send off. The way they catch the light, they’re just so ethereal and whimsical. My only concern is the bubble-in-eyeball senario. I’ve seen it happen, and it ain’t pretty. Next up:



The ribbon wand, which I so lovingly stole.. erm, borrowed… from our very own Miss Fro Yo. I love how festive and colorful the ribbons are! I’m not exactly sure how gender-neutral flailing a ribbon around is, though. I’d much prefer something that the guys will feel comfortable with… like fire.



Never mind that I have an irrational fear of my dress going up in flames. Sparklers are so freakin’ glamorous and fairly inexpensive. My two favorite things! Plus, I feel like it’s something special just for my dad, who is a pyro in denial. He once caused our neighbor to call the fire department because they thought our house was on fire. They came screeching down the road: big red truck, fire hose, the whole nine. But our house wasn’t on fire at all. It was just my dad… burning a huge heap of pine straw in the backyard. Apparently that is illegal. I love my dad. laughin02 I’m definitely leaning towards the sparklers, but I’m not sure if it’ll be dark enough outside post-ceremony to get the full effect.

Traditionally, when is the send off? I’ve seen it done post-ceremony, post-reception, and sometimes after both. What are you using for your send auf?


Mrs. Rainbow

October 01
Wedding Date:
May 2010
Relationship Series: TV
Two Halves of a Whole
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  1. frozen yogurt Member
    frozen yogurt 2600 posts, Sugar bee @ 5:06 pm

    Hey thanks for the shout out. :) I’m pretty sure we’re going the ribbonwand route, and we’ll do it after the reception, but I have seen it done at several different times.

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    Lizaan 107 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:12 pm

    I like the bubbles idea. Never thought about the bursting in the eye thing. How often does that happen?

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    Mrs. Mouse 5771 posts, Bee Keeper @ 5:14 pm

    I think traditionally, it’s post-ceremony, but we did ours at the end of the reception since our ceremony and reception were in the same place.

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    bearcub 1561 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:15 pm

    My mom arranged bubbles (without me knowing!).
    If you decide to go that route, make sure people know when to stop blowing the dang bubbles! I couldn’t even see with all the bubble madness. People were chasing me and trying to shove that soapy happiness in my face!

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    10.10.10 118 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:22 pm

    I want sparklers, but I don’t think my venue is going to allow it. If I can’t get them to budge, I guess we’ll go the bubble route. My ceremony and reception are at the same place, so our send off will happen post-reception (if it happens at all – I don’t want to miss one second of my party). My father has also had the fire department called on him (more than once) for burning limbs/leaves/straw in the backyard. Too funny!

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    labrador 1823 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:24 pm

    Haha, oh…that story about your dad reminded me of my dad and fire. We were clearing 5 acres of wood once and he decided to make a bon-fire. Doused in gasoline. Big enough that he had to make medieval-looking torch to throw at the pile to light it and run away before the heat burned his skin off. Dads and their “manly” stuff. Geez. lol

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    labrador 1823 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:26 pm

    By the way, I’m doing bubbles at the ceremony and sparklers later that night. We just have to make sure the sparklers are displayed outside the building per contract details. Historic building + fire + open bar = potential disaster!

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    tea 2414 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:30 pm

    i’m not sure if we’re doing a send off. i love all the pretty pictures but the thought of a clean up, especially if it’s post ceremony, has me leery of the idea.

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    krissycake 4160 posts, Honey bee @ 5:35 pm

    We’re doing bubbles, but not as a send-off, per se, because we’re not doing one, but rather during the recessional =)

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    jtg, Guest @ 5:43 pm

    I’m doing a send off after the reception mostly to make the clear statement, “Hey. Party’s over. Go home,” so that the assistants in charge of take-down have sufficient time to clear out before our reservation on the venue ends.

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    hamster 4047 posts, Honey bee @ 6:43 pm

    I love that sparkler picture!

    I don’t even know if we’re doing a send-auf. We’re staying in the same venue for the night, so would our guests just send us auf to our room? A little awkward, lol.

    BTW, send auf? AUF!! Loves it!!!! :)

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    tbk041710 217 posts, Helper bee @ 6:56 pm

    We are doing our send off after the reception. I know our venue provides a bubble machine, and I’m pretty sure sparklers too… I need to go reread my contract. Anyways, we are going to go the sparklers route because it will be dark and you wouldn’t be able to see the bubbles.

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    scissors 7343 posts, Busy Beekeeper @ 7:09 pm

    I still don’t know what we’re doing. Bubbles can stain, my mother is convinced everyone will light themselves on fire with sparklers, and they don’t want anything that they’ll have to clean up since we’re doing the reception at their house. We shall see.

    And I’m totally a details-before-big-picture doer. I have such a tendency to do that. :p

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    caszos 3882 posts, Honey bee @ 7:39 pm

    You can make bubbles with tear free baby soap!!

    Sparklers are hard to get everyone to light at the same time and then get back to the area to hold over your heads.

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    parfait 1755 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:47 pm

    Such cute pictures! People will be throwing coins after our ceremony…but hopefully not directly at us!

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    scissors 7343 posts, Busy Beekeeper @ 9:17 pm

    @Miss Parfait: Lol! Getting pegged with coins would probably hurt a lot if they were aiming for you. :p

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    RecessionistaBride 5018 posts, Bee Keeper @ 9:48 pm

    I haven’t really thought about this… I love the look of bubbles though! It’s so whimsical!

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    MexicanGirl 724 posts, Busy bee @ 11:18 pm

    our send-off was after the ceremony, and we used rice! because of a change of plans, we couldn’t use petals, so rice it was! it hurt, it went in our hair and almost inside our ears! hehe our pictures are really funny ’cause we are cringing and smiling at the same time!!

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    CapeCodBride 4 posts, Wannabee @ 12:09 am

    We are doing bubbles after the ceremony, and sparklers at midnight at the end of the reception. I wanted to incorporate sparklers, but thought it would look better in the dark, and I think it’s more fun to do both!

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    BaghdadBride 352 posts, Helper bee @ 2:36 am

    I always answer this question when asked, but it’s b/c it was one of my favorite parts of the wedding. We used streamer throws. So much fun, so colorful, great pictures, and easy clean-up b/c they stay attached to the throwers hand so churches and other places don’t get all freaked out by them.
    We did the exit after the ceremony on our way to the reception. Mainly b/c we were staying the same night at our reception sight so it would have been odd to have a “grand exit” to some place we weren’t leaving.

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    nhlchick4 258 posts, Helper bee @ 8:27 am

    I am not sure what we’re doing, we may do bubbles after the ceremony. Our reception is at the hotel we’re staying at so I agree with Miss Hamster, a little awkward lol.

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    Sage 728 posts, Busy bee @ 9:24 am

    Most of the send-offs I’ve seen in my area have been post-ceremony, though I think it makes more sense post-reception! (But who am I to say?) I personally love the sparkler send-off so much… SO MUCH!!!

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    Jenniphyr 3426 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:49 am

    I love the idea of bubbles! : )

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    alishaneva 2152 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:52 pm

    I love the sparklers look! They’re so great! I’ve traditionally seen the send off post-ceremony – but I’ve heard of plenty of post-reception send offs, too!
    And tea?!?!? Seriously?!?!

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    dille_dalley 72 posts, Worker bee @ 10:42 pm

    I love love love the sparklers idea. But yeah, the darkness factor is important. And if children are involved, that may be an issue too. But let us know what you decide. :)

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    moonbeam 1711 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:15 am

    If you want a more manly version of ribbon streamers, maybe they could do those poppers. The ones that people do at New Year’s and emit tiny streamers.

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    argyle 2519 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:50 am

    We can’t throw anything…so I’m thinking of something like streamers or pinwheels for the ceremony exit. We’ll see!

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    beexiong 194 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:48 am

    I am thinking of doing bubbles as we make our way back up the aisle as the new Mr and Mrs, and then having a sparkler send-off at the end of the reception. Hopefully it’s not too much, but I really want to do sparklers since we are getting married July 4th-weekend.

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    mrspaetz 3812 posts, Honey bee @ 1:13 pm

    We did sparklers at the end of our reception because it was like, 11pm at night. Then we all traipsed off for the after-party. Awesome-tastic :)

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    perfectrose 6 posts, Newbee @ 11:25 am

    My sister went to a wedding last year that had a sparkler send off. ATTN BEES: Wind and sparklers do not mix with alcohol and lazy fingers.

    Some guy lost control of his sparkler and it landed on my sister’s shoulder. Burned through her clothes and caught her hair on fire! She has ugly scars from a second degree burn on her neck and collar bone all from a tiny sparkler. Her first thought was to phone me and tell me the whole story…because of my upcoming wedding. “Can you imagine that thing landing on your dress?!” Nope, no sparklers for me.

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    Rebecca, Guest @ 10:00 am

    I really really really really don’t recommend the sparkler route. Everyone at the end of the night had obviously been drinking a bit and when the sparklers were lit, several people almost caught on fire. In addition, one of the groomsmen decided to light an entire pack of them and it practically exploded in a crowd of guests. You may think that your guests are mature enough to handle the sparkler thing, but accidents do happen and when people are waving fire wands in a crowd of people it’s just plain dangerous…

    I Really love the ribbon wands. It’s so cute, and safe!

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    Rebecca, Guest @ 10:01 am

    @Rebecca: Oh p.s. it wasn’t my wedding it was a friends wedding so I myself almost caught on fire when a lady was waving her sparkler two inches from my head

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    voomie24 101 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:57 pm

    We actually did glow necklaces in our wedding colors purple and copper (orange), but they have all sorts of colors. It was sort of a last minute decision but it turned out awesome. We felt like rock stars running through a tunnel of people holding them up. I can’t wait for the pictures.

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    voomie24 101 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:59 pm

    This is the company we used

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    msgiraffe 4248 posts, Honey bee @ 11:42 am

    I love bubbles! I think we’ll be doing that 😀

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    smiles1979 574 posts, Busy bee @ 2:16 pm

    Love all the awesome ideas here for the send off…and good to note the possible reprecussions to these awesome ideas too! :)

    I’m finding I’m a ‘details before big picture’ person/brid too! :) Glad that I’m not alone in that…

    As for me…hmm..haven’t quite thought about that one…esp. not b/c we’re probably going to have ceremony/reception inside in the same room at the hotel venue…where most of these lovely ideas can’t happen…though really liking the streamers/poppers/glow stick ideas. 😉

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