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Who pursued whom (or was it a mutual attraction)?

Mrs. Sea Breeze - We met on a three week work trip where I was his client. While the sparks were undeniable, he was struggling to not cross any professional lines so it was me who finally had to say, “So… are you gonna kiss me or what?” Now he likes to boast about his exceptionally good “client relations” skills. Indeed!

Mrs. Bee - He knew he wanted to marry me after our first date, while it took a little longer for reality to set in for me. But it was a whirlwind, crazy fast, mutual attraction!

Miss Moonbeam - Hmm, since we met abroad and I had already experienced a horrible long-distance relationship in the past, I told him we could have a nice time in Italy, but that was gonna be it. He had to do some convincing (only a little bit) to get me to try out another long distance relationship. Thankfully, this one worked out beautifully.

Mrs. Bunny - I was the one who did the pursuing! After I suddenly fell head over heels for Mr. Bunny, I did my best to show him how I felt without actually saying anything to him. When we would go out, we’d sit next to each other and I’d slowly scoot over so our knees and elbows would “accidentally” touch to see whether or not he’d move away. I manipulated the situation so he’d have to drive me places. I sent him emails and Facebook messages in hopes of starting up a conversation. He forced me into telling him how I felt on New Year’s Eve. To be fair, though, he did kiss me first.

Mrs. Taffy - We had a very long game of cat and mouse! Our lines just kept crossing, making us both think that the other person wasn’t interested. It is pretty hilarious looking back! Luckily, some mutual friends talked some sense into us and we finally made it on our first date!

Mrs. Yorkie - Mr. Yorkie definitely initiated the process, and boy am I glad! I tend to be pretty shy in addition to being completely clueless when it comes to reading signs that someone’s interested. So yeah, it’s a good thing that he did the asking!

Miss Ramen - I’d say it was mutual attraction, although it was sort of like a game - we both gave each other varying signals. But he DEFINITELY did the actual pursuing; he took me out to dinner (he’d been trying to pay for me for a few weeks when we’d hang out), and initiated the DTR. I love being pursued. It still gets me flowers on occasion.

Mrs. Mouse - It was mutual from the beginning! We met one evening after our friend introduced us and pretty much couldn’t stop talking all night. What’s really funny about this story is that there was another guy who was talking to both of us almost the entire night. He had no idea that we were into each other until a couple of hours in! Neither of us really knew him, and he kept asking us how to get his girlfriend to be more interested in him. The Dude and I weren’t even really bothered by him at the time because we were so into each other—now we just look back on that night and laugh!

Mrs. Labrador - Oh geez. This is a funny one. Mr. Lab’s roommate was the SO (now hubby!) of one of my best friends (now bridesmaid!). All four of us worked together, and Mr. Lab and I had been innocently flirting for about 4 or 5 months. Finally, I told my friend that I was sick of it not going anywhere but at the same time didn’t want to make the first move (I ALWAYS make the first move and didn’t feel like doing it this time!). So I asked if she could subtly let him know I was interested since she hung out at their place a lot. Instead, she just flat out wrote a note on a stick it that said “Miss Lab likes you. Here’s her AIM screenname.” So instead of me avoiding the “cat” role, I indirectly initiated our first date. But 4 years later, I sure am glad I did!

Ms. Swan - He pursued me. When we got back from our first encounter in Jamaica, he actually called me the next day. I was still oblivious, but I was having some serious job issues so I think I didn’t even notice that this guy I barely knew called me just to say hello. He’d already asked me to go to a wedding that weekend, and I was already oblivious. As I mentioned before, I didn’t realize I was on a date until well into the wedding (like, right around dessert)!

Mrs. Sunbeam - I started the pursuit! One day a friend said to me, “Hey, you know, Mr Sunbeam is really cute!” And my response was, “You know what, he is cute!” We were in high school so I had my most trusted friends on it after that - asking him if he liked me, monitoring if he was dating someone or single. He did ask me on our first group date, but then left for the summer for an internship. The summer was spent mutually perusing each other via email and phone calls! One of his friends even hung out with me to “keep an eye on me” for him. Who kissed who first? Well, that is up for debate. We were on our group date, in the back of a car and Mr Sunbeam kissed my cheek. If I tell the story, I turned around to smile back and someone locked lips with me for the ride home; if HE is telling the story it was me who started smooching him! It’s hard to say who was the cat and who was the mouse!

Miss Lamb - We moved from friendship into more, so it’s hard to say. He definitely kissed me first, but I was always more ready to take the relationship to the next step. I was very firm about not saying “I love you” first. It took him a year and a half. Towards the proposal, I was feeling like the relationship had stalled and that he was just never going to propose. He then had to take the role of pursuer head on to win me over! Sometimes, looking back now, I wonder if his cat game was to make me think I was the cat… LOL.

Miss Dachshund - I definitely did the pursuing! We had been talking a lot while playing WoW, and then he just stopped logging in. He was going through a lot… he had a tumor on his leg that had to be removed, was working a ton of hours, and there was some drama with people in-game (LOL… internet drama?) that caused him to stop playing. I was kind of upset; at that point I was definitely crushing on him and I had no idea how to get ahold of him other than in the game.

So I Googled. I searched for his in-game handle, hoping that it’d lead me somewhere. I found an old Myspace that he hadn’t logged into in years, some various forums that hadn’t been updated for a long time, and then finally his profile on an online video game community, in which he was fairly active. I messaged him on there, trying my hardest not to seem like an internet stalker, and sent him a picture I drew of him with a bandage around his leg saying, “I hope all your hurty parts feel better soon,” or something like that.

Thank goodness it worked and he didn’t think I was stalking him.

Mrs. Hydrangea - Mr. H and I were actually becoming the best of friends when everything happened. We had become the single ones in our group of friends, so we naturally became comrades at all social gatherings. Eventually, that led to us hanging out alone and, the night before Thanksgiving, we both just knew. We were out with friends, he talked to a girl (I got mad) and I talked to another boy (he got mad)… by the time we got home, he kissed me and that was it. So I guess you could say, we both pursued each other at the same speed.

Mrs. Rainbow - Oh, lord… I definitely pursued Mr. Rainbow. Granted, I was 11 and he was 14. As soon as he found out my age, he was pretty much not interested (or at least he pretended that he wasn’t for morality’s sake). Through the years, I never let up and he would slowly, and very calculatedly, show his feelings towards me in small non-obvious ways. It was just little things he said here and there. I felt like he would say them just to give me something to hold on to, just so I wouldn’t give up hope. Whatever he did sure did work. I never gave up, and once I moved to Florida and sorted through some things, we reunited and it was like it was meant to be all along. It was just so comfortable and easy and perfect.

And just for the record, he told me he loved me first. So there.

Mrs. Snow Pea - As Dr. Phil says, there’s 3 sides to every story. His, hers and the truth.

His: I was playing hard to get.

Mine: He stalked me to the college cafeteria.

Truth: Mr. SP pursued me initially. After 2 years, I pursued him back.

Mrs. French Bulldog - Mr Frenchie found me on Match and “winked”. I found him incredibly cute and interesting too, so I “winked” back. After too many emails for my taste, I was the one to give him my phone number and tried to initiate the first date. He was being too much of a gentleman!

Miss Frozen Yogurt - Well, he definitely pursued me, and although I was interested, I had to play hard to get for at least a while. I knew that I liked him though, because I was supposed to go out on another date the night after I met him, and I called the guy to cancel. I told him that I met someone else and wanted to see where it went. I just made sure not to tell Mr. Fro Yo that for a while. I let him think I was just kinda interested, and it all worked out!

Mrs. Pinot Noir - It was mutual in the beginning, but Mr. PN ultimately made the bigger “move” by relocating to Minnesota (in February, no less!) to be with me while I was in school and he was looking for a new job after the campaign he was working on ended. We practically lived in an extended stay hotel for 2 months until he got a job in DC in April. Two months later I moved to DC to be with him and, as they say, the rest is history!

Mrs. Sprinkle - Mr. Sprinkle totally chased me down! After we met at a show he emailed and called me alllll the time until I finally gave in and returned his messages (I am horrible on the phone and it took me months to be comfortable enough to talk to him!).

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Who did the chasing in your relationship?