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So, I’ve made lots comments to Mr Pretzel: “I won’t do __________ when planning our wedding.” “I won’t be ‘that girl’ etc.” He always chuckles and says, “If I had a tape recorder!” As a way of keeping me honest and grounded I think it is important that I document these and update when I break them 
. LOL… Mr Pretzel: correct me if I miss some!
What about you? Have you made a mental or physical list of what you want to keep in mind during the wedding planning process? Have you stuck to it? What are some of the top items on your list?
Great list. My big one is:
I will not allow this to become another project that stresses me out. I will keep my expectations within in reason and let go when something is becoming too much (effort, time, $ etc).
I said we wouldn’t waste much money on cut flowers… we didn’t… but I kind of regret it!
I also said I’d get everything finished a week before the wedding (DIY wise)… FAIL!
I didn’t have a keep in mind list — only the singular item of ‘keep it reasonable’. I agree with krissycake, your list cracks me up!
“I won’t let the budget get out of control and keep adding and adding and adding.”
And yeah - he holds me to it. Even if it’s my money I am trying to throw in. Things can add up FAST and it’s important to have a partner who helps keep you grounded. “Come back down to earth with the rest of us, hunny”. “Do you really, REALLY honestly need that?”
But it’s true, when I stop and think, he’s USUALLY right. 
No I don’t need it. I just want it.
I’m a big giant FAIL on the wedding dress and the expensive Tiffany’s ring. There’s not much I can do about the ring. What can I say, I love my beautiful ring, and I got just want I wanted. I’m spoiled like that. On the dress front I am definitely going to try to sell my dress afterward to recoup some of the cost…
I love your list! I might need to print it out and post it in my closet (where he never goes) so I can remember to keep it simple and remember what it’s really all about!
That is a good list, I just wanted to make it reasonable, like Mrs. Perfume.
Love this post! I didn’t make a list because I knew I would FAIL everything on it!
@Miss Hamster: I’m trying hard, but I know I might have some minor Fails along the way. And Mr Pretzel signed up for a Wedding Bee account so you know he’ll keep me honest and call me out when I FAIL! 
lol.. he cracks me up!
Yes, yes, yes, Miss Pretzel. We are totally kindred. When I started, there were some definite mental “will nots” that I had, but I’d also never planned a wedding before…turns out, some things I thought I didn’t like make a lot more sense for sanity and budgeting.
I hope you’ll really try hard not to FAIL on some of these though–some are pretty hard to keep up (for example, “I won’t do anything just because someone expects me to”), but there are others that I would say are more manageable, and important to keeping the process enjoyable (like making time to connect!). Don’t let yourself be defeated by past FAILs!
@West Coast Bride: I am doing pretty good, and yeah there are ones that I am pretty confident that I won’t fail on. Mr P and I are real good at keeping each other honest and on track.
Aww, man - that’s a hard list.
I won’t just throw your silly ideas such as walking down the aisle to the imperial march to the side.
Haha - that’s one I’d have to add. Man, I love me some star wars … but I’m still having trouble being completely convinced I can handle that (it just sounds soooo ominous)!
my list is very close to the same. many fails, but also many successes (so far- 7 months to go).
I’ve failed at some of my “I won’ts” too. They were pretty unreasonable though. Like, I won’t ever buy a wedding magazine, etc. lol.
Not spending too much money on a dress? Complete fail. There’s just no saying no to the one that feels so right. Even when it’s triple your budget. You can find ways to take money out elsewhere, though.
I said I didn’t really care about the flowers — but then I realized that peonies were in season in June…and, well…I started to care. A lot. We have very similar lists, though!
love that list. i should make one too. although, my-old-self and my-newly-engaged-self have some very different ideas about what constitutes a *fail* over a *score*
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Mrs. Pretzel, Seattle Age and Occupation: 32 Learning, Training, and Development Specialist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28 Manufacturing Engineer Engagement Date: September 2, 2009 Wedding Date: July 2010 Venue: Catholic Church & The Engine Room at Georgetown Studios About Me: I’m just a thirty-something girl who never dreamed of weddings, poofy dresses, or ritzy receptions. I am a rabid knitter, except recently, wedding projects have replaced my yarn and needles. I’ve been fiercely independent since the age of 2 and 30 years later I think my family and friends had given up on me settling down and getting married. Ironically, I had to go all the way to Seattle to find a boy from Purdue. We fell in love over Seattle Beers and cooking together. I love NASCAR, he loves Legos. I can talk like a Muppet and he can fit a whole McDonald’s cheeseburger in his mouth. We are a two reception couple, currently planning a brewery inspired bash.
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