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Miss Pretzel, Seattle Age and Occupation: 32 Learning, Training, and Development Specialist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28 Manufacturing Engineer Engagement Date: September 2, 2009 Wedding Date: July 2010 Venue: Catholic Church & The Engine Room at Georgetown Studios About Me: I’m just a thirty-something girl who never dreamed of weddings, poofy dresses, or ritzy receptions. I was born and raised in New Hampshire, went to undergrad and grad school at Purdue University in Indiana, had my career take me to Wisconsin, Atlanta, and then finally settled in Seattle. I am a rabid knitter, except recently, wedding projects have replaced my yarn and needles. I’ve been fiercely independent since the age of 2 and 30 years later I think my family and friends had given up on me settling down and getting married. Ironically, I had to go all the way to Seattle to find a boy from Purdue. We fell in love over Seattle Beers and cooking together. We love Chuck Taylor All Stars, holding hands, clever t-shirts, bacon, KEXP Radio, craft beer, buying local, cooking from scratch, gardening, mastering our new Gocco, and of course, each other. I love NASCAR, he loves Legos. I can talk like a Muppet and he can fit a whole McDonald’s cheeseburger in his mouth. We are a two reception couple, currently planning a brewery inspired bash.
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Keeping Miss Pretzel Honest!

October 30th, 2009 @ 11:07 am by Miss Pretzel

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So, I’ve made lots comments to Mr Pretzel: “I won’t do __________ when planning our wedding.” “I won’t be ‘that girl’ etc.” He always chuckles and says, “If I had a tape recorder!” As a way of keeping me honest and grounded I think it is important that I document these and update when I break them :-). LOL… Mr Pretzel: correct me if I miss some!

  • I won’t make it all about the Wedding and forget the Marriage
  • I won’t spend a HUGE amount of $$ on a wedding dress
  • I won’t become wedding obsessed *FAIL!*
  • I won’t do things just because someone expects me to
  • I won’t cry because he hasn’t proposed *FAIL! See Bathroom Tears!
  • I won’t leave him out of wedding planning
  • I won’t demand a fancy ring *FAIL! I fell in love with a Tiffany Ring- be it a simple design with a reasonable sized diamond- it was still a Tiffany ring and after I saw it, I had to have it!
  • I won’t overwhelm him with wedding stuff * Almost a FAIL—I’m trying really hard—but I am sooo excited
  • I will not plan the whole wedding/DIY all my projects/buy all the items in the first 2 months of being engaged—even though I want to
  • I will make time for us to connect, even in the thick of wedding planning
  • I will take his ideas into consideration and compromise when our ideas are different
  • I will tell him how much I love him on a regular basis
  • I will have fun with the whole process
  • I will keep a budget and work within it

What about you? Have you made a mental or physical list of what you want to keep in mind during the wedding planning process? Have you stuck to it? What are some of the top items on your list?

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23 Responses to “Keeping Miss Pretzel Honest!”

1.
krissycake
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krissycake (message)  2,085 posts, Buzzing bee

lol, your list cracks me up!

 
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sf_carrie
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sf_carrie (message)  236 posts, Helper bee

Great list. My big one is:

I will not allow this to become another project that stresses me out. I will keep my expectations within in reason and let go when something is becoming too much (effort, time, $ etc).

 
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Mrs. Penguin
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Mrs. Penguin (message)  2,148 posts, Buzzing bee

I said we wouldn’t waste much money on cut flowers… we didn’t… but I kind of regret it!

I also said I’d get everything finished a week before the wedding (DIY wise)… FAIL!

 
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Mrs. Perfume (message)  1,632 posts, Bumble bee

I didn’t have a keep in mind list — only the singular item of ‘keep it reasonable’. I agree with krissycake, your list cracks me up!

 
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shesgotchutzpah
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shesgotchutzpah (message)  129 posts, Blushing bee

“I won’t let the budget get out of control and keep adding and adding and adding.”

And yeah - he holds me to it. Even if it’s my money I am trying to throw in. Things can add up FAST and it’s important to have a partner who helps keep you grounded. “Come back down to earth with the rest of us, hunny”. “Do you really, REALLY honestly need that?”

But it’s true, when I stop and think, he’s USUALLY right. ;) No I don’t need it. I just want it.

 
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skibobrown (message)  260 posts, Helper bee

I’m a big giant FAIL on the wedding dress and the expensive Tiffany’s ring. There’s not much I can do about the ring. What can I say, I love my beautiful ring, and I got just want I wanted. I’m spoiled like that. On the dress front I am definitely going to try to sell my dress afterward to recoup some of the cost…

 
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KMSull
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KMSull (message)  2,585 posts, Sugar bee

I love your list! I might need to print it out and post it in my closet (where he never goes) so I can remember to keep it simple and remember what it’s really all about!

 
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Miss Moonbeam (message)  1,328 posts, Bumble bee

That is a good list, I just wanted to make it reasonable, like Mrs. Perfume.

 
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tea
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tea (message)  2,616 posts, Sugar bee

haha, i like this list. i might have to adopt it for my own!

 
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Miss Hamster (message)  1,078 posts, Bumble bee

Love this post! I didn’t make a list because I knew I would FAIL everything on it!

 
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Miss Pretzel
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Miss Pretzel (message)  333 posts, Helper bee

@Miss Hamster: I’m trying hard, but I know I might have some minor Fails along the way. And Mr Pretzel signed up for a Wedding Bee account so you know he’ll keep me honest and call me out when I FAIL! :-) lol.. he cracks me up!

 
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Miss Snow (message)  159 posts, Blushing bee

Yes, yes, yes, Miss Pretzel. We are totally kindred. When I started, there were some definite mental “will nots” that I had, but I’d also never planned a wedding before…turns out, some things I thought I didn’t like make a lot more sense for sanity and budgeting.

 
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West Coast Bride (message)  672 posts, Busy bee

I hope you’ll really try hard not to FAIL on some of these though–some are pretty hard to keep up (for example, “I won’t do anything just because someone expects me to”), but there are others that I would say are more manageable, and important to keeping the process enjoyable (like making time to connect!). Don’t let yourself be defeated by past FAILs!

 
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Miss Pretzel
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Miss Pretzel (message)  333 posts, Helper bee

@West Coast Bride: I am doing pretty good, and yeah there are ones that I am pretty confident that I won’t fail on. Mr P and I are real good at keeping each other honest and on track.

 
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alishaneva
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alishaneva (message)  1,524 posts, Bumble bee

Aww, man - that’s a hard list.
I won’t just throw your silly ideas such as walking down the aisle to the imperial march to the side.
Haha - that’s one I’d have to add. Man, I love me some star wars … but I’m still having trouble being completely convinced I can handle that (it just sounds soooo ominous)!

 
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alohababy28
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alohababy28 (message)  192 posts, Blushing bee

my list is very close to the same. many fails, but also many successes (so far- 7 months to go).

 
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fiftyfootbride
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fiftyfootbride (message)  3,683 posts, Sugar bee

I’ve failed at some of my “I won’ts” too. They were pretty unreasonable though. Like, I won’t ever buy a wedding magazine, etc. lol.

 
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Mrs. Cowboy Boot (message)  259 posts, Helper bee

Not spending too much money on a dress? Complete fail. There’s just no saying no to the one that feels so right. Even when it’s triple your budget. You can find ways to take money out elsewhere, though.

 
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Miss French Fries (message)  732 posts, Busy bee

I said I didn’t really care about the flowers — but then I realized that peonies were in season in June…and, well…I started to care. A lot. We have very similar lists, though!

 
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jeaninelovesyou
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jeaninelovesyou (message)  71 posts, Worker bee

love that list. i should make one too. although, my-old-self and my-newly-engaged-self have some very different ideas about what constitutes a *fail* over a *score* :)

 
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Miss Parfait (message)  588 posts, Busy bee

Haha, I also didn’t want to become wedding obsessed. I try not to talk about the wedding with my family or friends, so they don’t get annoyed with me.

 
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Kathy

It is great to keep your prospective when planning your wedding. It is all about the marriage and not the wedding.

 
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Miss Poodle
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Miss Poodle (message)  3,020 posts, Sugar bee

I was 99% sure I will never become wedding obsessed - Look at me now!!!! Shame on me! :P

 


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