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One of my favorite things to do is to declare that I’m going to grow my hair long, then chop it off a month later. A year ago, SistahChips threw a “I’m turning 30—Let’s Wig Out!” party and I donned this realistic looking beauty:
I’m the one on the right, in case you couldn’t recognize me in such subterfuge.
I fell in love with that $15 iparty wig and quickly decided to grow out the bob I’ve maintained since Katie Holmes-Cruise cut her hair off. But my hair grows very slowly and I am very impatient. It’s just now shoulder-length and beginning to look not-as-awkward.
In the midst of my Great Hair Grow-Out, we got engaged and “You’re growing your hair out for your wedding, right??” became a common question (Why? I don’t get it!). I’m ambivalent.
On one hand, I could grow it out and have a gorgeous jumbly chignony updo:
Or I could cut it short, and be one sassy Chip, like this beauty:
Either way, the idea of maintaining a hairdo(n’t) for the next seven months that is based solely for the purposes of a darn/special day doesn’t appeal to me. But I suppose that’s the reality of it, huh?
So I turn to you, hive, because my friends and Potato Head are sick of my “Cut it short or grow it out? Cut it short or grow it out???” questions.
Cut it short? Or grow it out?
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Honestly, you are one of the very lucky ladies of the world that look great with both long and short hair! Which hairstyle would YOU like better?
I agree, you look great with both! I really like your hair shorter… but you’ll make a great choice regardless!
SHORT!! I’m a short hair gal, personally, and thing the shorter do really compliments your bone structure.
You could let it grow out until you get closer to the wedding and have a firm idea of what hairdo you are going to go with. You can always cut it before the wedding, whereas the reverse is more difficult (extensions, etc.)
I think it looks great either way, but which one do you like better? I’d go with the short hair, especially if that’s your normal style.
You look great with both lengths! Lucky 
my only thought is - do you ever wear your hair up, normally? Because if you don’t it might be uncomfortable to have it up for 8+ hours at your wedding. I love the look of the jumbly chignon but if you prefer to wear your hair down, definitely go short, it’s a great look on you!
Like others have said, you look beautiful with either hairstyle but I think you should wait until it’s closer to the wedding to make a decision…Do a hair trial and put your dress on and see if the long hair feels right and if not, you can chop it off!
Which, btw, is totally awesome, I had really short hair all through high school so I heart short-haired chicks
I’ve tried growing out my hair super-long twice, and regretted the chop both times, even though my normal hairdo is short. I’m growing my out for the wedding so I’ll have more to do with it, and it looks great once it gets past the awkward stage! (I’ve had glimpses.)
Anyway, if you’re getting antsy about your hair but want to grow it out, why not try some highlights, lowlights, or (small) layers? So you’d get change, but not sacrifice length.
Do what you love!! I think you look great with short hair! =) If you want it long, just go with clip in extensions. Thats what I did - they looked fabulous and no one knew the difference.
The short hair is sooo flattering on you! I vote for chopping!
I think you look great with both, but I’d stay with short hair. It suits you!
Ooh, I’m not usually a big fan of short hair, but your’s is so cute! I say short!
I love how sassy you are with the bob, but I really loved my curly chignon updo thingy, so I’m on the fence with you!
since 6th grade I’ve had an a-line chin length bob. I’ve been growing it out for about two years now, which is shocking and oh so hard! it’s thick and takes forever to blow dry, but now it is finally a few inches past my shoulders. so i’m a huge short hair fan and want to chop it off every time i see a cute bob, but i feel like i need to stick with this. i figure i need to give it a real chance before i cut it off again. so when it reaches the bottoms of my shoulder blades, i’ll re-evaluate. so give it a chance long, because you can always cut it off, it’s the growing out that is painful.
Man, I am usually attached to long hair, but you look FAB with that short cut! So cute!
What does your FI want you to do? And I think we need a pic of what your hair looks like up to consider the bob vs. the updo thingy! You are also tanner and more put together in the shorter-hair-do-pic, it’s clouding my judgement! lol
I am totally guilty of the I’m Growing It Out For The Wedding. I chopped my hair a year ago and love it, but want more to work with. You look FAB with short hair as well! I vote short
I vote grow it out, only because if you later decide to go short before the wedding you always can, but if you stay short you won’t have the long option later if you change your mind. But you look great both ways!
I’m with you pchips. Here’s my thinking:
If you hit the point of “I WANT IT ALL GONE…NOW” (I’ve been there many times), chop it!
But if you can tough out the in-between stage of a grow-out (I rarely can), you might really like the results.
You look lovely with both short and long hair, so if you can stick out the grow-out, I say do it! (You can always chop it, but you can’t regrow it…)
ahhh! I’ve been in the same boat! My hair is at that awkward length and I really prefer it short, but FI likes it long and the wedding’s coming up… I’m waiting to chop mine until after the wedding.
I think you have to figure out if it’s important enough (to you, to your FI) to have it long for the wedding. If it’s not, then chop it.
I second/third etc what alot of folks have said-get a hair trial with the long hair (maybe early in the morning, so you can see what it feels like for 8+ hours)-and if you hate it, chop it. It’s pretty easy to cut it closer to the date, but you can’t make it magically grow back if you change your mind.
chop it! be careful listening to me though - I went from nipple length (hehe… I can’t think of a more appropriate way to describe it, sorry!) to a messy crop about four inches at the longest (the sweepy bangs), and haven’t looked back since. I’m trying to grow it out into a bob in anticipation of going out of the country and being away from my every-3-weeks-trim hairstylist though, and the inbetween is killing me too!! I also am tired of the questions about whether it’s for the wedding - I’m planning on chopping again long before then!
I wanted to add that getting trims at least once a month can make it grow faster–I heard that somewhere but I don’t remember where or why!
I like them both! But I’m partial to short hair myself and when my hair starts to get long, I start questioning my hair ambitions like you–I usually chop!
I would do whatever makes you feel like you. If you’ve always had short hair and like your short hair, why grow it out just because the WIC says you need a big updo?
I have crazy curly hair and I’m for the most part wearing it down because that’s what feels like me. But I am going to at least have the front swept out of my face in a halvies do.
I have the same dilemma. I always like my hair short. But I’m growing it out. Then if I don’t like or feel comfortable with the long hair and the hairstyles that go with it, I’ll chop it about a month before the wedding.
I’m biased towards a chop, and you look so good with it short.
Long hair is definitely more versatile, I would vote for growing it out. Like people said you can always chop it closer to the date if you want!
You look great with short hair- if I looked that good I would definitely chop!
i think you look great with short(er) hair. i don’t know why everyone considers something that isn’t shoulder length short. c’mon now people!
I LOVE the shorter hair on you! It looks more mature and natural and more importantly- it fits your personality (or at least what I perceive your personality to be!) I can totally see you rocking that at your wedding!
U look beautiful with short hair! Longer hair is more versatile but growing it out is a fuss.
I agree with kjpugs u look more mature with the short hair and may I add more sophisticated.
So for an everyday style I would say short but for your wedding its 50/50 so I would say keep it short and if you decide for a long hairstyle get extensions just a thought.
Either way you’ll look lovely.
I think many people are saying they like the short hair better because you have layers there, whereas in the long-haired picture you don’t.
If you had a long style, with layers, I think you would like AMAZING!
But I agree with the others who are saying you should wait until closer to the wedding, because it is always easier to cut it off than to get extensions.
Good luck.
I think you look great with the short hair. But, here’s an idea…why don’t you grow it out and once you are closer to the wedding you can make your final decision. If you really want it short for the wedding, then you can just cut it. If you decide you want the long hair, then you’ll already have it and won’t have to pay for extensions or anything like that.
i think you look adorable with a bob! i agree with what most of the girls are saying though… maybe wait a few months and see what you think then… maybe you’ll be ready for the chop & maybe you’ll have found the perfect updo- a reason to keep it longer!
I’m usually a long-hair fan, but the short looks really good on you ! I agree with the other posters - you can always give it a few months and see how you feel!
You look fab with it shorter and it looks like a more mature you. I say you will look awesome with it short and down for the wedding like the girl above your photo…you can rock that!
If you were in my chair doll, I’d talk you back into the short hair. It suits your facial features better… but you already know that!
I like the length in the picture on the right. It’s chin length (not short or long). I think it flatters your face. It’s a good length and there’s plenty you can do with it for your wedding. At chin length a good hairdresser can get it up and into a classy updo. Just my opinion…good luck.
I’m a long haired girl so I’m going to keep the growth up. However, I don’t think I would grow my hair for the sole purpose of the wedding. Your bob looks really good in that photo but I don’t think it’s a fair comparison because you are not planning to wear long hair down. Have you ever had an up do before that you liked, prom hair? as a bridesmaid? Show us what it looks like long and up.
you know, i think you look better with your hair short. The shape of that haircut emphasizes your heart shaped face better than the long locks. They don’t drag you down, you look good, but I think you look better with the short hair. Maybe a compromise with long layers would be better, if you were really interested in growing it out!
I’m growing mine out, too. But, just because I get bored looking the exact same all the time, not b/c of the wedding
You have such a pretty face, I think the short hair frames it so well and brings attention to it! IMHO.
in my honest opinion, the short hairstyle framed your face in such an incredible way all of your facial features just pop, plus it would be uber sassy and chic for your wedding. your hair also in the two photos in the shorter do it looks like it has much more volume naturally.
Thanks for the feedback, friends! I appreciate the honesty. I am going to give it until February-ish and then re-evaluate!!
I looooooove the short hair! Its beautiful! The long hair is nice to, but I think the short hair is just cute and adorable- not something everyone can pull off.
I like it short on you better, actually! But then again, there’s the updo thing. I think either way you’d look great, tbh.
I’m in the middle of a Katie-Holmes-bob-grow-out too. I feel like it has stalled. lol
As a fellow chopaholic I am so ancy wanting to cut my hair! Its just past the shoulders now and I am not getting married for nearly two years… You look so beautiful either way, but the short hair frames your face fantastically! It really brings out your eyes and smile! And also, There are always extensions!!!
I love the short hair - you have the right face for it! My hubby (then fiance) said the same thing….and wanted me to wear my hair down for the wedding. Let’s just say it doesn’t curl, and I was miserable that I had it down the entire time(the front pieces were brought up halfway to keep it out of my eyes)! I love the look of having it down, but an updo would have been much more convenient!
I like you in short hair! You’re so lucky to be able to pull it off. If my hair is too short, my face looks like a cabbage patch doll !
You’re so cute either way, but I think I vote for the short haired look. I love how it frames your face! I suppose you could always grow it out and then chop if you change your mind closer to the wedding.
I like both — but I agree with others…wait until a little bit closer, and then make the decision.
I love the shorter hair on you! unless youre set on an updo…chop away!
Definitely short! You’re fairly petite if I remember correctly? I know the long hair would make for a great updo but in everyday life up until then the long hair will consume your petite figure! I love the short cut in this pic by the way, it’s super cute! I envy brides who can pull of the short hair look and I think you’d be perfect for it.
I hear you on this! I usually have a cute little inverted bob, much like yourself…but I immediately started growing my hair out for the wedding since I want to be able to do something with it (Florida heat at the end of May = really nasty looking hair if it is down)! If you like your hair the way it is, then chop away! I have seen so many cute ideas for short haired brides out there…there are still fun clips, etc that you can use!
Aw I think you look cute with both! I, too, agree that you should grow it out and then decide closer to the wedding! That way you have more options, and you can see which looks better with your dress!
This seems to be the question that people keep posing to me too! In fact, I cut my ends last week and when I told DF that I was thinking about cutting a few more inches off, he quickly asked, “Do you think it’ll grow back in time for the wedding?” What’s up with that?!
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Ms. Potato Chips, Boston/Narragansett RI
Age and Occupation: 29, PhD Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Personal Trainer/Business Owner/Physical Therapy Assistant
Engagement Date: January 1, 2009
Wedding Date: June 2010
Venue: The Narragansett Towers
About Me: A semi-professional bookworm, if I could be a literary character I’d be a cross between Jo March and Jane Eyre, only better accessorized and much lazier. My hobbies include sleeping in, seasonal brews, running, Trader Joe’s, and watching Unwrapped and Good Eats with Mr. Potato Chips. I harbor an irrational fear of tulle, crafts, things that are fussy, and overuse of the phrase "Your Special Day". After a year or seven together, down the aisle we go, slouching toward adulthood and planning a Rhodie party with equal parts whimsy, cheer, and pizza.
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