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Do you ever feel like you don’t take enough time to actually focus on your relationship? Maybe because your days and weeks are muddled with wedding planning, working, home remodeling, etc. Or maybe because things become “routine” and you fall into your patterns. OK, this is starting to sound like an infomercial, only I don’t have a wonder product to sell to you.
But seriously, sometimes I feel disconnected from Mr. Fro Yo.
It’s not that we don’t talk everyday—we do, several times a day. Then we go home from our respective jobs, take our dog for a hike, maybe do a little P90X, make dinner together, curl up on the couch together where he often plays with my hair as I lay in his lap, and then go to bed and read together for a while before finally falling asleep. But sometimes it feels like we’re two people taking part in activities while in the same room, but we’re not really “together”.
So, I’ve decided to stop taking all these sweet little moments for granted and really appreciate everything we have with each other.
The truth is, whenever I have something that prevents me from making dinner with him or curling up on the couch with him, I’m sad and I really miss it. I am so lucky to have an amazing partner and I don’t want to just live my day to day life and forget that. I will stop making excuses about being tired, or stressed with work (though both of those can be true at times) and just enjoy this exciting time in our lives. I think sometimes it’s important to step back and reconnect and just tell your partner that you love and appreciate them. That’s what I plan to do tonight. 
What do you do to reconnect with your partner?
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Oh my gosh, I know exactly what you mean. While we were wedding planning, especially in the last few months, we were disconnected. About two months before the wedding, we high-tailed it to the beach for a day, and plopped our blacket as far from everyone as possible, and just spent the day listening to the water, eating whatever we wanted and talking. It was nice. It helped a lot, but once we got back, after a few days, we were disconnected again.
Sure enough, once the wedding was over, we were completely back to normal.
Man, try not living with your SO. I hate feeling a day go by when we haven’t really “connected” in some way, but I also hate feeling like it’s forced. I can’t wait until we’re married and living under the same roof, so we will at least have more of those “same room, but not “together”" moments to try and cherish.
This was us for about a month before the wedding. I missed a lot of fun with our friends this summer since I was pretty busy with MOB and MOH planning.
He was really supportive, but refrehsed when planning was over.
We made Fridays our date nights. No wedding talk/planning, no Facebook. Just me and him! 
It worked for a few weeks, then he forgot that Friday was date night. Go figure! 
Im glad to hear this because some times I feel the same way. I feel like I complain too much about being tired or stressed out and then I realize what a wonderful and amazing partner he is. Just being with each other at night relaxing or taking a walk. This summer we went on a little weekend trip to visit his aunt in MD but we went over to VA and West Va as well. It was our first time at a Bed and Breakfast and it was the best vacation we’ve ever had with each other. The other night we watched “The Proposal” together, what a funny, emotional, sexy movie! It was a great night!
This post is so great and I totally feel the same way sometimes. It’s so hard after working along day to not just zone out when you get home and hang with your guy. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I need to connect with him also.
I know just what you mean-it was like that quite a bit at the start of the planning process, but we have been reconnecting more by getting into our favorite tv shows like Mad Men (yay!) and taking time to talk about something else other than the wedding. 
I know that as we approach the wedding day, it will be harder, but I vow to keep trying.
It’s definitely comforting to know that you all understand! I wrote that post thinking, oh man, people are going to be like, you lost it fro yo, but it’s what I was feeling, so why not share?
its been happening to us even though we are not planning a big wedding anymore…we realized it was taking over our lives..(so we decided to elope, and thats what we are doing next year!) we still live our own lives and do things together but it feels like you are not even together sometimes…so our way of reconnecting is taking our little pup for a long walk along the river valley..it gives us time to talk about everything and even make future plans, also it is a good work out.
Going away or clearing the schedule for a weekend and staying home together is a great way to reconnect. I always feel a lot better after we’ve spent a weekend doing nothing but watching the Cosby show or football. Date night really helps to. We must start doing date night again.
I totally know what you’re talking about. I get so smothered in school, planning, trying to not be a land-monster, and just keeping it between the lines that I know I don’t pay enough attention to our relationship. The best thing for us is just turning off phones, banishing laptops, no video games unless we’re playing them together, and just being together. As disconnected from the rest of the world as possible.
Sometimes we will both be on our computers, and we will literally say nothing for hours at a time! I feel the same way, that I hate wasting time we have with each other like that. We reconnect by watching It’s Always Sunny together, or going to dinner.
Great post. Somedays it definitely takes that extra effort to rise above the stress and connect. I always try to tell him I love him and appreciate him at unexpected times, which helps us connect even when I am working on grad school homework.
Wonderful post - you’re not the only one that feels that way. We both are so exhausted after work that it’s sometimes challenging on the weekdays to really connect. I find that for us, really making the effort to carve out time for each other is integral.
I feel you on this one - my husband has a new job, and although it’s a huge promotion and I’m happy for him, he needs to travel and be away from home a lot more..and when he’s home the blackberry is always going. At this point I look forward to the nights here and there when we are able to eat a meal together.
I know there are other bees who are completely separated from their SO for months at a time, so I shouldn’t complain, but I just really miss him. I didn’t realize how much I would miss laughing while making supper and doing the dishes together, even just watching tv on the couch, until we stopped doing it.
I think that with email, facebook, work, weddings, life - it is too easy to have that disconnect. We’ve agreed that unless there are extenuating circumstances, we can only play on the computer, text, etc until 7pm. After that, it’s sit down dinner at the dining room table, even if its pizza, and compromising on tv so we can at least watch, cuddle, and talk until it’s time for bed.
I think actually sitting down at our dining room table together to eat dinner is my favorite part of the day!
I think this is one thing we’re actually really good about (amongst a million things we’re bad about). He’s got alot going on right now, and I’m just waiting around til it gets done, but he always makes time for just “us”. Our coworkers used to make fun of us for scheduling “date night” every week but really, we didn’t have any other choice. With our schedules so opposite we weren’t seeing enough of each other until we made it a priority.
Great post Fro Yo With school taking over my life right now, I’ve been trying to do the same thing. It’s nice to be reminded I’m not alone
we didn’t experience that until after the wedding, but definitely feel like it is important now. Part of the big adjustment that marriage is!
I know we’re so busy that sometimes I feel like we hardly see each other–even though we live together. We actually started eating dinner together every Sunday at our dining room table. We usually eat together during the week, too, but we’re usually sitting on the couch watching House Hunters instead of talking. THis way, I feel like we’re actually having a real conversation and concentrating on each other.
totally understand. it was hard being long-distance and i was dealing with putting the wedding together very much on my own. it’s important to always reconnect and keep each other close!
Thank you for writing this post Miss Fro Yo. We’ve been feeling like this lately too, and I didn’t quite know what it was until you articulated it so well!
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Miss Frozen Yogurt, Dallas
Age and Occupation: 28, Special Projects Coordinator
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Equity Trader
Engagement Date: March 19, 2009
Wedding Date: April 2010
Venue: Marie Gabrielle, Dallas
About Me: I was born and raised in Texas, and have lived in several of the cities across the state, but I currently reside in Austin. I went to college in Boston and have a special place in my heart for the Northeast. I love reading, shopping, wine, reuniting with college friends that are scattered across the country, reality TV, trying out new recipes, and attempting all the DIY projects that come along with wedding planning. I'm a "bleeding heart, save the world type" and thankfully my job allows me to work on legislation and policy to help out those in need. I met Mr. Frozen Yogurt in a bar, though he doesn't even drink! And now we are planning a modern yet vintage wedding in Dallas while dealing with the trials and tribulations of first time homeownership.
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