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Are you a night owl or morning person? What about your SO? How does this affect your relationship?

Miss French Fries - I’m more of a morning person and Mr. FF is more of a night owl. It really only affects us when we’re out on a Saturday night and I’m yawning at the table while everyone else is living it up!

Mrs. Beagle - Mr. Beagle has pretty much the same temperament all the time. I’m not much of a people person in the morning and I can also get pretty cranky if I’m up too late at night—it all depends on my energy level, which varies. Mr. Beagle balances me out in this respect. He’s very understanding if we need to call it an early night because I’m too tired, and he gives me space in the morning until I’m ready to socialize.

Miss Trail Mix - We are both complete and utter morning people… it’s not uncommon for the lights to be out by 9:30 in our house, sometimes earlier if it’s been a long day!

I can’t sleep in no matter what, which means that sleeping in until 7:30 is a late morning for me.

Miss Hamster - Mr. Hammy and I are both night owls - so there is no real effect on our relationship, except that we both use the snooze button way too much.

Mrs. Mary Jane - I was just thinking about this the other day: What is it called when you’re really neither a night-owl or an early-bird? Neither of us likes to get up terribly early, but we don’t stay up very late most nights either. Occasionally we’ll be up until one or later (if we’re out on a special occasion, or if a really interesting game or movie has us engrossed), but generally we’re in bed by 11. On the weekends we usually rise between 8 and 9 - earlier on the weekdays (for work).

Miss Frozen Yogurt - Oh, I’m definitely a morning person and he’s a night owl. Like Miss Trail Mix, I can NEVER sleep in. I’ll go to bed at 2 AM, but it doesn’t matter, I’ll be up by 7:30. Ugh. He’s not really cranky in the morning, but we can have an entire conversation in the morning, and I’ll ask him about it later in the day and he’ll have no memory of it whatsoever. So, we save all important conversations for later in the day.

Mrs. Cowboy Boot - We are morning people by default. Since we spend our days doing active things like mountain biking, hiking, rafting or skiing, we tend to be snoozing by 10 pm. During the week, I still like to be asleep by 10 but Mr. CB wants to stay up until midnight watching TV and the only TV in our house is in our bedroom. That’s our current point of contention. Ugh.

Miss Lamb - I love sleeping - so an ideal night of sleep for me would be from 10 PM to 7 AM (yes, 9 hours!). Lambster loves sleeping too, but he’s more of a midnight-to-whenever if he HAS to get out of bed person. I’m much more of a morning person (after about 30 minutes of being awake). It affects our relationship in that I can get frustrated when I want to start the day and get things accomplished and he wants to sleep. Sometimes he gets frustrated when I want to go home when he’d rather stay out longer.

Miss Rainbow - Mr. Rainbow is a total night owl. He likes to sleep in on the weekends as much as he can (god forbid I wake him before 10:30!), but at night he’s totally wired. I think it’s so bizarre. How can someone be tired all day and then as soon as the sun goes down, they’re wide awake!? I think he’s a vampire.

I, on the other hand, am a morning person. Nighttime and I don’t get along; it just totally drains me. I was the annoying girl that would go to a party and pass out on someone’s couch at 11 PM and then wake up in the morning, pull the curtains, and loudly proclaim, “Morning Sunshine!” I’ve gotten much better about that, but my fiance pretty much hates my guts in the mornings.

Mrs. Penguin - I am… both? Is that weird? I get up really early and stay up really late. I have really bad insomnia, but since I work at home it’s not really a big problem (for me) but it’s a HUGE problem for Mr. Peng, who really enjoys at least 8 hours of sleep (I usually exist on 5). He’s more of a night owl if he had a choice, but since he works a normal schedule, isn’t really much of either… but on the weekends if he happens to wake up at 8 AM for whatever reason, he’s pretty mad about it. He likes sleeping in!

I look forward to every morning, so I like waking up early and having a cup of coffee, even if I didn’t get much sleep. I do think it makes me a little crazy, though (both the coffee and lack of sleep). I have to watch at least 2 hours of TV before going to sleep, and Mr. Peng doesn’t exactly love the TV noise, but he says he’s gotten used to it over the years. We only recently got a TV in our bedroom, and before we did, I’d sleep on the couch… it’s not exactly newlywed behavior to sleep apart, is it? But I need TV at night… it shuts my brain off!

Mrs. Cherry Blossom - Pengy: It’s not weird at all, I was thinking the same.

I am definitely both. My body automatically wakes up super early in the morning (harder to wake up on work days) but on the weekends, my sleep-in time is 9:30 AM at the latest, even if I’ve stayed up ’til 3 or 4 in the morning just watching TV or surfing the net. Mr. CB would sleep in as much as he could or wanted, but being that we don’t like to waste our weekends, he normally gets up by 11 AM at the latest these days. If he’s still in bed and I’m up in the morning, it’s the best time for me to be super proactive and get tons of cleaning and stuff done while the place is nice and quiet. I love getting up bright and early, it makes my days that much longer and enjoyable and I feel accomplished.

Miss Potato Chips - If I could, I would sleep until noon every day. No exaggeration, this past day off I had to SET MY ALARM FOR NOON so I wouldn’t miss a 1:00 appointment. I am a BEAST in the mornings and it’s been my long-time goal to become a morning person. I gotta say… it’s not looking good.

Potato Head, however, has conditioned himself to jumping out of bed when his alarm clock goes off (what? No snoozing for an hour??). He’ll do laundry, the dishes, clean the kitchen, go for a run, eat breakfast, watch the news, shower and get ready for work… while Ms Lazy Chipz is snoring away.

However, he falls asleep the moment the TV turns on at night.

Mrs. Mouse - We are both complete night owls, which makes it impossible for us to go to bed at night and get to our respective jobs on time the next day! When my MIL was down for the wedding, we were talking about this, and she said that the Dude has been this way every since he was a kid. I have, too! I can remember staying up ’til dawn when my brother and I had friends spending the night (I’m talking pre-junior high age), cleaning up the kitchen, mopping the floors, etc. until my parents would wake up in the morning and be MAD that we hadn’t slept. Ah, my bad habits started early. There is just something naturally programmed in me so that I want to stay up all night and sleep all day. Maybe we’re vampires?

Mrs. Sprinkle - We are both morning people, although it hasn’t always been that way. A few years ago when we were still in school and doing the long distance thing, we would stay up half the night talking on the phone… now we are in bed by 9:30 on weeknights, and up by 6 AM every single day!

Mrs. Bear Cub - we’re both night owls (um. hello. ASTRONOMY.), but Mr. BC is WAY better at getting up before 8 AM than I am.

I just work better on 8 hours of sleep. So Mr. BC lets me sleep in a little every morning while he does the dishes, then brings me tea to wake me up.

Miss Moonbeam - I’m a night owl and he’s a morning person. Sometimes he gets kinda bummed out that I’m not going to bed at the same time as he is, and I wish we’d sleep in more on the weekends, but I usually end up enjoying our morning activities.

Mrs. Bee - We’re both total night owls. Since we work on the computer, it’s just a lot easier to get things done at night when it’s quiet and you aren’t getting emails and IMs and phone calls.

We’ve never been morning people, but Mr. Bee’s mom has a saying that’s changed my way of thinking:

“Every hour before noon is worth twice as much as every hour after noon.”

And she’s right! Whenever I wake up early, I get so much done! I’d like to be a morning person, but I can’t remember ever not being a night person… it’s just my natural tendency.

Miss Ramen - I am naturally a night owl. Not so much as I was in college, but I am most effective later in the day. Mr. Ramen just likes to sleep! It probably doesn’t even matter when. Sleep seems like such a waste of time to me - like, I just can’t take naps. I have a hard time falling asleep in general, so once I’m out, I need several hours to be refreshed. And I am definitely not a morning person. UGH. I prefer to keep to myself in the morning - and I’m a pretty gregarious person, naturally. Mr. Ramen would probably sleep in, and then take a nap every day if he could. I on the other hand, stay up late, try not to sleep in, and never take naps.

Mrs. Snow - I am a major morning person and have been all my life. That said, I often go to bed at grandma-o’clock, much to the ridicule of Mr. Snow and all my friends. I’m great at killing a party by conking out on the couch at 10:30. I don’t know why I do this, but it happens frequently.

Also, I completely fail at sleeping in and will develop a headache if I don’t get up when my body’s ready– I’m really really sick if I sleep past 8 AM. Once, we stayed up until 5 AM in Las Vegas, and even with the special sleep-all-day curtains, I was grumpily wide awake at 8 AM.

I rarely stay up late or pull all-nighters, but I frequently get up at 3-4 AM to start work. I love the pre-dawn hours.

Mr. Snow used to be more of night owl, but the 8-5 work week has forced that to change. He can still sleep in like a champ on the weekend.

Mrs. Cupcake - If I could stay up till 2 AM all the time and not be a slug for work, I would. As it is, I go to bed around 11 or so, wake up at 7:30 (or 6:30 to work out if I can force myself to), and get to work at 9. I still have to be dragged out of bed at 7:30, which is late for some people.

Mr. Cupcake LOVES mornings. He wakes up at 5 AM, gets ready for work, eats breakfast, maybe takes a nap (yes, really) and leaves for work at 6:30. He likes to go to bed early because of this, but it works out okay for me because I usually like my “me” time to watch trashy reality shows and blog at night when he’s already in bed.

I am a morning person and Mr. Ducky is a night owl, in general. He usually sleeps in on the weekends and I use that time to catch up on my reading. There are a lot of nights that I fall asleep on the couch if we are up late watching movie. But I’d say for the most part we can keep similar hours and he’ll get up early or I’ll stay up late if there is something special going on.

Miss Parfait - We’re both night owls. I’ve always been able to pull all-nighters with ease (must’ve been all that practice from slumber parties as a kid), so Mr. P is usually the practical one who says it’s time for bed.

Mr. P is very routine about sleeping a little during weekdays and a lot during weekends. I go through unpredictable phases of loving sleep (like 10+ hours a night) and hating sleep (3 hours a night). The latter is usually when I have a ton of stuff to do and can’t fall asleep ’til it’s all done!

Mrs. Labrador - By far, I’m the night owl! He’s not necessarily an early bird, but it’s MUCH easier for him to get up and at ‘em in the morning then fall asleep at night. I’m so nocturnal; I’ve been accused of having insomnia. I just function better when the sun goes down or with a looming deadline (hellooo, reporter over here!). Mr. Lab gets frustrated with my crazy sleeping schedule. I don’t sleep all day because I usually have work or class, but that just means I sacrifice sleeping hours. I’ll stay up until 2 AM with a 6:30 AM report, work/attend class all day, then night falls, and I’m wide awake until 2 AM again. Then, I catch up on sleep on the weekends. I can easily kill 10-14 straight hours in bed, and Mr. Lab can’t stand that I do that! I like to think that when I have a normal life schedule (i.e. REAL hours at work instead of ones that change constantly coupled with classes and wedding planning), I’ll settle into a healthier sleeping routine. We’ll see…

Mrs. Deviled Egg - Mr. DE stays up about an hour or so later than I do, so he’s more of the night owl. I’m also not much of a morning person (my favorite feature on my alarm clock is the snooze button!), but I wouldn’t really label Mr. DE as one either. I think his later nights keep him from being completely alert in the morning. We both value sleep, so as long as we are both getting what we need, we are OK. I don’t think any of this affects our relationship unless a lack of sleep makes one of us a little crabby.

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What about you and your SO? Are you night owls or morning people, and how does this affect your relationship?