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A week already! Time really does fly when you’re getting married. So fast that I didn’t even get around to writing my “signing off” post. 
(BTW, big congrats to my wedding date twin, MRS. Cloud!)
I have looked forward to my wedding day for not only the past 11 months, but also my entire life. I was definitely that little girl who grew up dreaming of her perfect wedding day. Very few details in my actual planning process differed from what I had always imagined my wedding day would be as a little girl…
That is, with one big exception: the way I feel now that it’s over.
You see, I wasn’t in love with my wedding.
I never once felt like a bride or really let loose and enjoyed my day. I was extremely stressed out, tired, and focused on not being a bridezilla to my friends, family, and vendors. And now every free moment of mine is spent obsessing over all the things that went wrong or what I could have done to prevent them from going wrong.
I know that a lot of people misuse terms like OCD, ADD, etc. to describe how they feel or act when it comes to all things wedding. But I truly believe I may be suffering from PWD: post wedding depression.
Before I go any further, I want to clarify something. I DID have bright moments throughout the day. Like watching Mr. Lab trying his damnedest to hold back tears when he saw me for the first time (only to fail miserably). Or listening to my pastor’s homily and feeling giddy as he announced me as Mr. Lab’s wife. And even the few minutes we spent alone eating dinner. I cherish those moments and am grateful that they are my favorite parts of the day. They should be my favorite because they are the most important. A wedding is about the marriage. I definitely don’t need to be reminded of that. And no one can expect a perfect day. I totally get that.
But that doesn’t excuse the fact that I poured my blood (literally, I cut my hand while working on one of our lantern centerpieces), sweat, tears, time, and money into 11 months of planning this wedding and had certain realistic expectations of not only the final product, but of the people involved, that were not met. And because of that, I spent most of my day focused on the wrong things no matter how much I tried not to worry about them. I would repeatedly be taken out of a promising moment because something went wrong or someone did something disappointing.
The full blow of my PWD didn’t hit until the night after our wedding. I know the impact was exaggerated due to our lack of a honeymoon. Having to leave our wedding city early and travel 4 hours back home to jump back into school and work really gave me time to absorb all our wedding’s shortcomings. I was ill because I had been running on empty for weeks and was laying in my bed when the tears finally came. I called for Mr. Lab and as soon as he entered the room, the dam burst.
I felt horrible as I described how I felt, thinking the whole time that I must sound like an ungrateful bitch for feeling that way. Many people had busted their asses and checkbooks to help us pull off this wedding and I didn’t want him to think I didn’t care about that, let alone make him think that what should have been the happiest day of our relationship thus far was a complete failure. I wanted him to know I was extremely excited that he was finally my husband, but still get across the need for me to get this soul-draining feeling out of me and into the open. There was no way I could go back to school and work (or even the hive) and “face the music” without addressing how I truly felt to someone first.
Just like a loving husband, he was extremely supportive. It was our first “test” as a married couple and I’m glad he was there to listen and just hold me as I cried.
I have since shared my feelings with a couple other people I’m close to, including my matron of honor. She actually confessed to me that she anticipated my phone call. She knew how much I had put into this wedding and was very aware of all the things that went awry (that’s probably because she was one of a just a handful of people working their asses off to make sure we had the best day possible).
To make matters worse, I feel as though the blows keep coming. I realized a couple days ago that our cake flavors were completely wrong. I didn’t catch it at the reception because I only tasted the cake quickly after the cake cutting. Then I went to get a slice of it at home and made the discovery that our two-tiered/two separate flavors-wedding cake was actually just a white cake all the way through. It’s as though every day brings another little disappointment instead of acceptance and a chance to move on.
I think the thing that upsets me the most is that I never really knew about the “realness” of PWD. I anticipated going into a bit of a funk after the wedding because I’d no longer have DIY projects or deadlines for vendor contacts or the excitement of a looming big day. But I never in a million years did I think I’d long to go back and opt for the simple courthouse wedding over ours. Let’s face it, PWD just really isn’t out in the open quite yet. No one wants to poop on your parade of sunshine and lollipops when you’re planning a wedding. And then people like me don’t want to admit how they really feel when asked that oft-dreaded little question: “How was the wedding?”
I’m just hoping that my PWD will help someone else out there, whether it be a newlywed or a bride-to-be. I’ll probably have a post or two that goes into a bit more detail on exactly what went wrong in the days leading up to our wedding and the actual day with tips on what I would have done differently to keep from feeling so helpless afterward (like putting my foot down and having things done OUR way). My hope is to get all of the negativity out so my recaps won’t be Debbie Downers because I know that years from now I will have worked though the way I feel about our wedding day.
Who knows, maybe because our wedding day was full of mini disasters, my marriage is destined for greatness? I’m off to watch a particular Sex and the City episode to remind me of that and maybe cheer me up a bit in the process.
How are you/did you prepare for the fact that your wedding might not live up to your expectations?
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You are so amazing for being SO honest. It cant be easy and hearing you talk about the PWD etc gives me a more realistic image of what it will could like after the big day. Hang in there, let it all out so we can help you laugh about the little things, and just think that the most important thing, marrying your SO, was accomplished.
Thanks for your honesty!
Awww, kitten, I’m sure you’re one of many woman before you who have experienced this. My advice to you is to take a step back and understand that this is just one day of many in your lifetime, albeit a big one but still just one. It sounds like you have lots to look forward to: graduation, building your new life together which may or may not include house buying, childbearing, etc. Stacked up against those things, the fact that your wedding cake was only one flavor vs. two will seem very minor. Have you gotten any of your pictures back yet? Maybe those can help remind and highlight the positives of your wedding day vs. the focus on the negative.
Oh, and I think you and your new hubby should take a mini-moon even if only for one night where it’s low pressure and focused just on the two of you.
It will get better.
I’m so sorry that your day wasn’t all you hoped it to be. Please don’t feel pressure to sugar coat things or write anything other than exactly how you fee. You’re right… no one talks about the bad stuff that can sometimes happen and your posts will probably really help give a real view of the fact that weddings are not always *perfect*
Mrs Lab I am so sorry to read that your wedding didn’t go very well. Honestly, I felt similarly after our wedding… as our day progressed I kept noticing little things 2 of my vendors did wrong. Every time I turned around the venue had effed up or my florist had done something wrong. I remember how I felt even a month after my wedding and it sounds like more went wrong w/ yours. I am so sorry, but I can tell you it will get better. Especially when the being married to Mr Lab part sinks in more and more. I really do love Mr Frenchie more and more each day and that makes me love my wedding more and more 
(((BIG BEE HUGS)))
i really appreciate posts like this. It’s honestly refreshing to get this sort of candidness instead of “it was the most spectacular wonderful day of my life, etc.” Not that that doesn’t happen too but many times it doesn’t and brides do need to think about all possible outcomes.
And I think sometimes the wedding shows, magazines, and yes blogs can contribute to the depressing feeling b/c you do see all these outwardly fantabulous weddings, you never see things that went wrong, and soon you think you are the only person on earth who had a wedding that wasn’t martha stewart perfect. And it’s just not true.
I feel the same way. There was a lot that didn’t happen the way I had hoped. It’s hard to accept that “that was it” and you can’t go back and do it over. My way of dealing with it is to try to force myself to not even go there. if I start down that path of thoughts…I make myself stop. I know I will be upset. I know I could get REALLY depressed if I really let myself..and it scares me…and I know that I can’t fix what was….so I guess my way to cope is pure denial. haha!
I am so sorry that your wedding didn’t go as planned. I seen (via the weddingbee) all your hard work that you put into your wedding. However, at the end of the day if you and your husband are happy that is all that matters. Wishing you the best in your marriage!
Thank you so much for your openness and honesty. This is something that isn’t talked about much and I’m glad you brought this up. I felt that way after my wedding, and still do even though it’s been a year later. All I can say is that time makes it hurt less and less. (((BIG HUGS!)))
This was such a great post in its honesty. I’m so sorry that your wedding day was so stressful and not quite as you planned it. There were one or two big snafus in our day that I wish I could go back and fix (you’ll hear about it in recaps, unfortunately!), and I’m still beating myself up for them. But what helps me is to not dwell on the little details that went wrong because on that one day, those details fade away for everyone but the bride and what really matters is the overall feeling of the day. I’m sure this will hurt less as time goes on, and I think we all deal with some PWD, even if our weddings were fabulous.
Awwww thank you so much for sharing your feelings with us Mrs. Lab…you are such a sweetheart and definitely don’t sound ungrateful at all. I’m sorry that things didn’t go the way that you planned because of all the hard work that you put into your planning. This post will definitely help me to keep things in perspective and not feel so alone when/if I feel the same way after my wedding (we have to jump right back into school/work too).
I hope that you and Mr. Lab are having a great time as husband and wife
((((HUGS))))
Thanks for sharing, Labs, I’m sorry your day wasn’t all you had hoped it would be…I think your marriage will be everything your wedding wasn’t and more! Still looking forward to your recaps tho, I bet your wedding was still gorgeous!
I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with PWD. **HUGS** But thank you so much for sharing this with us all, and bringing it out into the open. Can’t wait to see your recaps, and hopefully once you digest them and get to look back, you can focus on the positive!
I enjoyed reading this post, and I felt the same way. I got married last May and I also got the dreaded PWD. And as time went on my mind stopped thinking about all the things stressful things and things that went wrong. I have been doing great but once in a while like this morning, I was tidying up in the room with my wedding binder and other misc. items that I haven’t found a place for and all my frustration came back! One day I will get over it I hope but it is so easy to think back on those things that get under my skin about my wedding. I know it is natural and reading posts like these I know I am not the only one. Just focus on the positive when those thoughts creep in I swear it helps!
Thank you for expressing this to the hive. I felt the same way following my wedding. I spent most of the day exhausted, and the following weeks with regret with how the day went. I’m sorry you are experiencing this but your not alone. It’s been over a year since my wedding and while PWD still gets to me, you will start to focus on the positives before long and eventually THAT’S what you’ll remember. Congrats on your wedding and becoming MRS. Lab!
Mrs Lab, your honesty is so helpful! Thank you for sharing this with us and ***BIG HUGS***
Aww Mrs. Lab! I am sorry things about your day upset you! I am glad you were open with the hive, and I hope you know you have a lot of support here. I am sure many of things that you notice were not noticed by others…and in some small way I hope that helps. *hugs*
*hugs* Thank you so much for being honest about how things didn’t go as planned. I am so, so sorry. In the end, the desired result (getting to marry Mr. Lab) was achieved, but I know how heartbroken you must be to have it go so very wrong!
Thank you for being honest and not sugar coating it. I know that I felt sort of down after my wedding because things weren’t as I wanted them to be but yours sounds a lot worse. I hope that it is like the Sex and the City episode where the worse the wedding the better the marriage.
One of my favorite posts ever on Weddingbee, Mrs. Lab. Life is not all rainbows and sunshine, all the time! Thank you for this.
I’m really sorry your wedding wasn’t all you had hoped it to be. =( But your life with Mr. Labrador WILL be! =)
MRS. Lab, I am so so sorry things did not go as expected. There are a couple of things that did not go as I wanted on my wedding day (including being the ugliest day of October, a frustrating limo drive with family that my fiance is not close with, but wanted to make the effort, making for some awkwardness, and some hair things I would have done differently.) I replay these things in my mind, and yet? everyone else had a great time. Overall I had a great time, and most importantly, I married the husband. You have so much to look forward to, and from all you’ve said, it looks like you’ll be looking forward to it with the help and support of a pretty great job.
Congratulations! I mean it. Also! get thee a minimoon!
Hope the Sex and The City episode worked its magic. Sorry to hear about things not turning out exactly the way you want.
Aww, Mrs. Lab! It hurts me to see one of my bulldawg sisters down so bad. I was *thisclose* to going down the road of PWD, and I don’t think delaying our honeymoon helped. It gave me plenty of time to think about what went wrong with the wedding, to feel the let down from big day to everyday, and to start sending out some “Per the terms of service …” email. After our short US honeymooon I came back ready to forgive, forget, and move on (dead flowers, bad hair, evil MIL doing very bad things to the decor despite my polite nos, and almost none of the special touches I thought about/paid for/ made actually were put out there!). This is a long way of saying: Take a minivacation; you and your man deserve it! You might surprised by how some of the awful stories will have turned into funny stories by the time you get back!
Thank you so much for your honesty. I felt exactly the same way after my wedding…I never had that moment where I went out of stress/preparation mode and into bride mode. I was exhausted the entire time and at the end of the reception just had a sense of, that’s it?
BUT, I will say that getting my pro pictures back helped me SO much. It helped me appreciate all the details I didn’t have time to enjoy the day of, and seeing the smiles on our guests faces made it easier.
Hope you’re starting to feel a little better. And congratulations on being a MRS!
I’m so feeling this right now, the owner of our reception venue is ruining my week. Thanks for sharing. It’s hard to tell people you feel bad about something they think you shouldn’t. But it happens, and probably a lot more often than we think.
I’m so sorry. I’m glad you’re able to remember the good things, and the best fact of all: you’re married! You have a wonderful husband now!
I’m sorry your wedding wasn’t what you wanted. I know how hard you worked! Thank you for being so open and honest with all of us!
I’m sorry your wedding didn’t go as planned, but I am glad you posted this. I don’t think enough people are upfront about PWD - we put so much emphasis on how perfect every detail has to be, that we forget what’s important. It’s hard to put so much emphasis on one day, and then just let go and enjoy it, especially when things are not going smoothly as they should.
I’m still in the planning phases, but it was so refreshing to read your post. I feel like reality checks like this help me to realize that I need to stress less on the details, and focus more on my FI, and the reason we’re getting married. That’s what’s important!
so sorry to hear about this. I hope that sharing the wedding’s shortcomings, will help you feel better. Glad you are keeping it in perspective while still acknowledging your feelings. I think my mom foresaw the likelihood that I would be one of the PWD brides (and perhaps with the premonition that she would not be around), many years before I will be getting married (and years before FH and I even started dating) she gave me a book called the Conscious Bride. It is kind of a book of preparation for brides as they go through the process, and how to deal with feelings, before during and after. It may not help you since the day has past. On the other hand it may be a way to get you thinking about the things that upset you, and how you can move past it. Good Luck, I hope you are doing okay!
Mrs. Lab, I’m here to tell you that this feeling will go away!
After our wedding, for the first month, I did nothing but wish we could go back and do it over again. I obsessed over all the details that didn’t go well (my bouquet was not what I wanted at all, and I made myself literally sick to my stomach amid all the excitement that I didn’t eat any of our amazing food all day). I wish my bangs had looked better, and sometimes, I even regret my dress.
BUT, all that goes away. It goes away when you have a day with your husband and you just look at him and think, “God, I’m MARRIED to this guy. I’m so lucky.” It goes away when you see the first wedding picture from a random guest that actually makes you look good and amazing and happy. I think I felt (kind of) bad about our wedding at first because it went by so fast, and I felt like I didn’t get to enjoy it as much as I should have. I also think that it’ll go away when we get our pro pics back from our photographer because they’re the ones that captured almost every second of joy that I’m sure radiated from you that day.
I’ve been married almost two months now, and I no longer have hat constant regret I had about our wedding. We’re waiting for our pro pics to come in, and I know for a fact that’ll make me completely at ease about everything.
Ride it out, Mrs. Lab! These are natural feelings, and they go away over time! Thank you so much for sharing and being honest.
Thank you for being so honest with us! I am so sorry that your wedding didn’t turn out the way you wanted, but Congrats on being married!!
Lab, I’m so, so sorry. I know that things will get easier as time progresses, but I do think it’s so important to vent and tell people about how you feel/felt. We are all hear to listen. I know you are married to a great man, and I can only imagine how gorgeous you looked on your wedding day.
*hugs* I know exactly how you feel. My wedding isn’t for another two months, but a few months ago I was feeling very depressed in anticipation of being very depressed. You know what got me out of it?
I figure, even if the wedding sucks, and I don’t remember a damn thing about it, all the people I love will have been there with me that day and had a great dinner and a good time and that’s all that really matters. Distant relatives will be happy to have seen eachother once again, or maybe for the first time, maybe for the last time. The little kids will forever remember me walking out in my big, poofy dress and think, wow, I want a wedding like this some day. Everyone will remember the beautiful room, the yummy food and how awkward we looked dancing our first dance, lol.
There could be a huge snowstorm that day, I could get the flu, I could forget to drink and pass out during the ceremony. The things that go wrong just make the story of the day more interesting and more memorable.
So don’t stress. Years from now, you’ll look back and wonder how you ever had any bad feeling about the wedding at all.
I’m sure after I’ll still feel the same way you do now, but at least I don’t have pre wedding depression anymore.
Aww, Lab - I’m so sorry your wedding didn’t go the way you planned. I always hear that “It’s okay, no one else knows how it was supposed to be” - but when you put so much of your heart and ideas and effort into the day, YOU know how it was supposed to be. I hope you are feeling better, and I’m really looking forward to reading your recaps, which I know will be beautiful.
Lab, I’m sorry the day wasn’t everything you hoped and dreamed it would be. You are so brave to put all that out there in cyberspace.
I doubt it will help, but your wedding was BEAUTIFUL!! Try to remember that the little details that we as brides stress about, no one notices if they aren’t there. I would never have known the cakes flavors were wrong if a BM hadn’t told me.
Just remember that it’s one day. The end result is the same. You married your best friend (and y’all are so cute!) I’m so sorry you are having to go through this. You know where to find me if you need someone who isn’t so involved to talk to! <3
I’m so glad you ladies are so supportive. I always knew the hive would understand. I’m actually looking forward to my recaps now for the first time because I know by the time I get to them you girls will have helped me through the worst of my feelings! Thank you so much!
At my wedding we had to call EMS for my husband’s grandmother, shot one of our guests with a firework, and one of our guests vomited on me (I have so many other “wrongs” I could list)… I would have taken an all white cake
It was difficult for me at first (I actually went on our honeymoon stressed worrying my parents were pissed at me because my Aunt-in-law who acted as our DOC tried to steal 2000 dollars..) but it’s a funny memory now.
My favorite part of the wedding day was the part where Mr. Bunny and I were finally in the hotel room, relaxing on the bed after a LOOOONG day and the wedding was O-V-E-R. The next morning, I woke up and smiled because I was married and I would NEVER have to go through that again. Big hugs to you, Mrs. Lab. I think many more brides deal with disappointment that admit to you. Thanks for your honesty!
I’m so sorry to hear your day had so many dissapointments. Thanks for sharing with us soon-to-be-brides. Any advice or insight you have for preventing day-of miss-haps would be much appreciated.
Oh Mrs. Lab, thanks for your honesty! PWD is something I worry about since it is more common than I knew.
But think of all the positives at your wedding! I just checked my favorites and I have about 10 of your posts as inspiration for my wedding and I know some of them had to turn out WONDERFUL!!!
Chin up, breath deep and remember, at the end of the day, you married the man of your dreams!
Oh Lab that does suck and I’m sorry. Thanks for your candor and like a poster above noted, that SATC episode is indeed magic. Replay as needed. Hugs.
I also appreciate the Usher title. At least your chick on the side doesn’t have one on the way.
@Ms Potato Chips: Oh, I soooo needed that LOL. Very glad that isn’t the case! haha
@Ms Potato Chips: @Mrs. Labrador: I’ve been singing Confessions all night since I read this post!
also, Lab, glad you are starting to feel better about the bumps in the road. sometimes it IS hard to hear things like “everyone thought it was beautiful, no-one noticed things went wrong” when all you can think is “yeah, but I noticed!!” here’s to hoping that this post and your subsequent recaps are cathartic for you!
@jesssr: Yeah, that’s exactly what I DIDN’T want to hear. I knew at the end of the night that NONE of the guests noticed what was wrong. And that made me feel okay, but not better. I knew what was missing/wrong and unfortunately they were some of the things I spent a lot of time on and really wanted there. That’s why I know WB is one of the best places to turn to because other brides GET IT. Wedding guests and family and friends who haven’t gone through it just don’t.
Mrs Lab,
I wanted to say thank you, more than you will ever know, for your honesty in this post.
I got married in August, and I totally feel for you… I experienced something very similar, and I wasn’t prepared for it, at all. I thought that after the wedding I would be feeling nothing but relief and joy and happiness that the wedding was over and that we were just married, (the last few months of planning were extremely stressful, for a multitude of reasons,) but after the wedding, I just felt a sense of heartache.
By all accounts, I had a beautiful wedding. And I too am so grateful for the people close to us that helped make it happen. Many of our guests told us what a great time they had, and that has helped a lot. And our photos are stunning.
The problem, for me, is that I never had that FEELING, you know? Yes, that feeling of being a bride, but more than that… the overwhelming joy and giddiness that I thought I would feel while getting married. I think I was too sleep-deprived, too stressed, too *aware* of everyone else’s feelings and also trying not to seem Bridezilla… 
I was trying so hard to chill out and be the perfect, gracious, loving person that I think I should have been honest about how sick to my stomach I was feeling, (had never experienced anything like that before,) not worked so hard in the morning, (we set everything up and worked for at least 6-7 hours,) and spent more time soaking everything in…
I will say that I feel so happy to be married, and to call him myhusband, and that really has felt amazing … Having lived together for a few years, I didn’t think it would feel different, but it does, in just the most sweet, simple and content way. And that made everything worth it.
What I’ve ultimately decided is that on our one year anniversary, or within a week of it, I want to put on my wedding dress again, walk out to the spot we got married, and say my vows to my husband again… Just him, me, and an officiant, (or close friend to fill in.) And I think, that with that, I will finally get that feeling.
You know in Runaway Bride, the movie, where at the end Richard Gere and Julia Roberts say their vows alone in the field? I recommend it… It might take away the hurt, and leave just the happiness.
Wishing you hugs. I can’t wait for the rest of your recaps. Thank you for being honest. It’s time this was brought to the open.
Congratulations on your marriage. And if it’s anything like Charlotte’s, it’s going to be one heck of a successful one.
So sorry to hear your wedding didn’t live up to your dreams. My wedding was 6 months ago and it took me a few months to stop thinking about the things I wish I would have done differently, or planned for better, or the things I’d focused on that I really didn’t need to while in the planning process. We ran short on time, didn’t receive help from certain family members that we’d been counting on (which contributed to being short on time), in general I found myself not absorbing the day and everything that it meant because I was too busy dealing with mishap after mishap. What I can tell you six months out is that I’ve decided to look at it as a learning experience, and an opportunity to help others. I have a few friends getting married over the next couple years and I’ve been able to gather key pieces of advice to pass along to them so that maybe they can avoid some of the let downs our wedding had. You’re in a very good position as a bee to pass along your advice in your recaps. Perhaps things didn’t go well and you can’t go back in time and change them, but you do have the ability to impact a future bride’s wedding.
Big hugs!!
Mrs Lab,
Thank you for your honesty in this post. Just remember, it isn’t your fault. The whole wedding industry builds this up to be your “perfect day” but as we all know…there is no such thing. Right?? I’m sure you’re guests enjoyed all of the beautiful details of your day that you so graciously shared with us here. As you write your recaps, I would LOVE it if you would continue to be just as honest about what happend and what you may have changed. I’m getting married in May and am still struggling with things like hiring a DOC, chosing the right vendors and it sounds like your experiences would be extremely helpful in that area!
Hi Mrs. Lab,
Thank you so much for your post.
I was married in February and have continued reading WB because of PWD. Our day was great, but the things that went wrong just make me so sad. I inevitably think about it every day. Only brides can understand that that doesn’t mean I’m crazy!
Do you know how rare it is for someone to speak about PWD? Already, you have offered comfort in a “been there” way to so many of us. Please do continue your honesty in your recaps. The hive is ready to grieve with you (and celebrate all that was good about your wedding and ours, if we’re married already).
By the way, I found this horror wedding story a while back. There’s solace in this bride’s reflection: http://www.aboverubies.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=713:wedding-stories-the-wedding-of-my-dreams&catid=137:wedding-stories&Itemid=400344
Oh, Mrs. Lab, I am sorry to hear this…I was so looking forward to your wedding (since your date was so close to mine) and I have loved the journey of your wedding planning - though, it is nice to know that your blog has remained the same throughout - optomistic with lots of realism. You will always have the ‘bee and the community here and I am glad you can look past the day with reflection, but the right attitude for the future.
Unlucky wedding….lucky marriage.
Almost 15 years ago, I sounded just like you. The day fades…….the pics remain….and you get to celebrate each anniversary.
So let’s get planning the anniversary. Throw out the wrong cake and get one that you love for your anniversary. And girl plan an honeymoon already - it’s time!
On my wedding day, there had to be so many mishaps, I poured so much energy into it, but you know what? It was the best and happiest day of my life, all 15 members of my family flew in, except my bro’s son, no small feat, my hubby’s family all flew in, I was in my beuatiful gown surrounded by the love of my hubby, friends amd family and they were all there to celebrate with me, and believe me, despite all the mistakes, believe me there were quite afew, it was the best day of my life, I look bakckwith happy memories, my friends and family tell me its the funnest wedding they have ever been to
so I say cheer up, look at what it was meant to be you are married to your husband and that is all that matters in the end
in addition, the best moment had to be my wedding vows with my husband, and that again is the most important part of the wedding, the magazines and wedding industry builds up the day far too much with all that preparation and details something is BOUND to go wrong, I say to all the brides, enjoy it no matter what happens,
you only get your wedding day once!! mine went far to fast
I loved every minute of it, mishaps and all
PWD can creep up even when things seemingly go well at your wedding. I was married last week in Savannah, too (it was a popular day for brides all around town!)
Our wedding was fun and meaningful and all that stuff, and I have to say that I’m in a serious funk afterwards. There is disappointment that it’s over, there are regrets that I don’t look as good as I thought I should in photos, there are concerns that people within my family feel alienated after the wedding…
I don’t know how true any of it is right now, but I’m trying to redirect my energy away from the wedding for a little bit and towards something positive. Not quite sure what that is yet, but by the end of next week, I’ll either have a new hobby or a new project to focus on. Might as well take all those skills I learned through the wedding planning process and put it to good use around the house or in my career, right?
I’m so sorry to hear that this happened, and I know that PWD is a very real thing (I often slump into depression after major events I have been looking forward to for months - I can’t imagine what it’s going to be like post-wedding).
It is true, that as time goes on, hopefully the love you felt for your now husband (!) will be what remains, and not sticks out, and I hope that, with the support of allll the bees around here, we can help you out from this slump. We’re totally here for you, and we totally understand. Thanks for being so honest and upfront with us.
PS Charlotte & Harry’s wedding? Totally my favorite.
Thanks for your honesty, Mrs. Lab. I wanted to put a thought out there that we haven’t really talked about too much on the boards. Is looking at wedding p0rn actually harmful? I mean our expectations are probably skewed by all those beautiful magazine spreads and style me pretty weddings we obsess over. But in reality, most of us do not have the money or talent to pull off those amazing fetes. That is why I love weddingbee, we get to see REAL weddings, warts and all, not “real weddings” magazine features.
Thank you for sharing with us Mrs. Lab. I can imagine that it was not easy. It really make me wonder… Does having a DIY wedding more likely to lead to PWD? A DIY bride is aware of details, details, details. We love details because it’s what we think will make our wedding stand out or make our day more special, but I realize it makes us a lot more invested in our wedding. So when several things go wrong we notice a lot more that the day we envisioned isn’t playing out the way we want. Bagdadbride had a good point. She said we look at magazines and blogs for inspiration and start to think of these amazing weddings as what is normal. I wonder if being a carefree bride with the basics and not too much detail would have a more stress free day? I am a little worried now that, as a DIY bride, I will be more likely to have some PWD. I hope your posts on your wedding will help me to be less worried.
Mrs. Lab Im sorry to hear this. Ive read so many of your posts leading up to your wedding day and couldnt wait to see recaps and hear about your wonderful day. I think I agree with Charm bracelet about a DIY bride. You did so many DIY projects for your wedding that you were aware of so many details and you worked so hard that it was difficult to relax and enjoy. Thats why Im letting a florist put together our flowers it would just be too much for me and too stressful. I hope when you get your photos back that it becomes more of a better day to remember and Im glad you do have those memories of the day that are special to you. We love you at the hive and hope that you feel better.
I’m sorry Mrs. Lab! I hope that you continue to talk about your feelings and heal. We were lucky- the things that went wrong were very minor (my bouquet had roses when I didn’t want them, our centerpiece flowers were correct but the quality was poor… but the florist did an amazing job on the bridesmaid bouquets and the aisle, so it was a trade off!), and didn’t phase me during the wedding or after. Six months later I am having a bit of a problem after just getting our pro pics… 95 percent are amazing, really amazing, so I shouldn’t complain. But the only portraits of Mr. Taffy and I were shot with a very strange “gimmicky” lens that made us look like aliens. I cannot for the life of me understand why she used that lens… I may email you some pics to cheer you up!
Sorry it didn’t go as you wished it would be. But the other bees are right! You can do the one year vow renewal and have that intimacy and that “feeling”.
There is always a chance for a re-do. What is important is you said “I DO” and this is your husband now and you’re going to make so many beautiful memories.
My sis is having a 20th anniversary in 2 years and it’s going to be a fun, elegant blow-out! They’re doing a vegas vow renewal and we’re all going to have a blast! Why not something like that? Intimate, fun, and very very her. She said they felt “stifled” at their wedding. But alas, they had the beautiful wedding but not as much fun and they’ve had a BEAUTIFUL marriage!
I still bet you were such a gorgeous bride!!!
I’m so sorry the day was difficult, but as you said your husband supported you through that moment and that’s a wonderful thing to be able to say!
such an important post. thank you for sharing. After my wedding, I really appreciate Mrs. Shortcake’s honesty about the things that went wrong with her wedding. it’s what makes the hive so much more valuable than other wedding resources.
Oh no, Lab! I am truly sorry that your wedding didn’t go the way you hoped it would. I’m glad that you were able to salvage some good memories from the day. We all know how hard you worked on this wedding and how important it was to you and Mr. Lab. I really hope that over time you remember the good stuff and the bad stuff sort of fades into the background. Thanks SO MUCH for sharing this post. It was so honest and well written, and I think it will definitely help other brides out there who may have gone trough something similar.
Miss Lab–I felt almost EXACTLY like you were describing for a good while after our wedding (August 29). Not only did a ton of things go wrong that other people didn’t notice or care about (cupcakes looked wrong, much of the decor just didn’t look like I had planned) but I was just SO stressed and tired that I was actually crying from the stress before the wedding even started, which led to ugly puffy face in all the ceremony pics…sigh. However, there were tons of brights spots too, and I did have fun during a lot of it (and I’m sure you did too)–but for a long time after the wedding, I just could not stop focusing on what had gone wrong. I just kept thinking how much time, stress, and money had gone into this thing just to have it not be 100% amazing.
I think this is a really common problem, especially if you’re someone who is hyper critical of themselves already, and more so if you really did pretty much everything yourself and it was all up to you to get the details done.
I read something Miss Peep Toe said somewhere here on the Bee that she also had lots of ugly thoughts creep into her head about the wedding immediately following it, but that the things that went wrong slowly faded into the background, and that a couple months later, she was left with just the good parts. That’s definitely how I feel–now, over 2 months later, I can say that I am looking at my wedding in a much better light, and that I’m much happier with it. Not only has the idea that the details that went wrong don’t matter had the chance to sink in, but I’ve had the chance to dig myself out of the hole of stress and exhaustion that I was in before the wedding.
I honestly think that if you give it a little time, this will happen with you too. I’m sure your wedding was amazing, no matter how much went wrong, and I hope that you’ll see it too once your mind has had a chance to process everything.
I agree with everyone else- this is an extremely important blog and I appreciate you being willing to share the honesty of how you are feeling after all the plans. I think it really gives currently planning brides like me the warning prespective that the more I build it up the more upset I will be if it’s anything less than some fairy tale version of “perfect”.
The part that touched me the most in your post was when you called Mr.Lab in the room and he held you & listened to you while you cried. Getting your feelings out in the open is so important. When you are feeling let down, think about how you choose a partner who will hold you up. That’s what marriage is all about.
I’m sending you a hug, Mrs. Lab. Years from now when you are enjoying your great marriage, you will look back and laugh at how it led to something really wonderful.
I’m so sorry about your disappointment and thank you for sharing your feelings. I have a suggestion, could you do a mini-redo? Invite just the very closest family and friends, maybe just parents, siblings, grandparents, and wedding party and have a mini-wedding. Maybe ask a couple people to help with food prep. You could have a beautiful small scale event with flowers and nice linens and your choice of music on an iPod, a little white dress, cake (the right kind) and champagne. Maybe you could do this for New Years or your 6 month or 1 year anniversary? Sorry if this is a stupid idea, but that’s what I think I’d want to do if the same thing happened to me. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.
I feel exactly the way you have described. EXACTLY! It’s been 43 days since my wedding. At this point I just focus on all the FB pics that have been posted of all my friends and family having a blast at my wedding. It makes me feel better to know that every one else had a wonderful time. At least it’s the holidays and I can exchange my wedding project obsession with Christmas project obsession.
Lab-
How incredibly articulate, matter-of-fact, and reasoned you are in this post. I am so sorry to hear your wedding wasn’t the dream day you wanted it to be. Know that a lot of brides, myself included, share with you (perhaps not in the exact same way and for various other reasons) the PWD. Not many of us would want to admit that. I feel for you. It’s empty consolation, but you will feel better when the smoke clears. Also, I’m certain you were a gorgeous bride. I look forward to your recaps.
Mrs. Lab, I am so sorry that your day didn’t go exactly as you had hoped and dreamed it would. Thank you so much for your honesty on this issue, as I think many brides can benefit from it. It is so hard to look back at your “perfect” day and realize it wasn’t perfect. I hope you can find the strength to look at the bad and the good, and I hope that you will find the good outweighs the bad. Many hugs are being sent your way and I have no doubt that you were an absolutely beautiful bride.
This is a post that really hit home for me. Not that I’ve never read posts about PWD before, but this actually helped me understand mine. There actually wasn’t that much that “went wrong” at my wedding and I was totally chill and calm the whole day. However- I started stressing out just as I was walking down the aisle (separate post on that one) and I literally could not relax until it was all over. I wasn’t good at having all the attention focused on me. I was worrying about making sure everyone got the right meals and was enjoying themselves. I actually started totally stressing out because the dance floor cleared off around 10pm and we weren’t supposed to end until 11pm. I ACTUALLY thought of closing things down early bc I was so worried about things looking like a dud. I actually couldn’t read Weddingbee for the first few weeks after coming back from the honeymoon because I was having such a tough time with it. I cringed a little when having to answer the constant “how was the wedding?” question upon my return. Ultimately, it’s getting easier. I’m hoping that seeing my pro pics which will be here in a few weeks, will help me take even another step to feeling normal again. Thanks for bringing attention to this– it’s another great example of the great things that this site does
With the outpouring of response, I think you can tell that your post really struck a chord with all of us. We can all sympathize with where you’re standing at the moment because we’ve either been there, or face being there, ourselves. This is your sounding board so feel free to get the disappointment off your chest. I think it will help. Mind if I do that a bit?
I have also been surprised at how critical I’ve become of the wedding after the fact. The truth of things is that on the day itself, I was at ease and in heaven! I knew that a few things weren’t going according to plan, but I was so caught up in the glory of my wedding day that I was able to brush them aside (which is very uncharacteristic of me). Guests came up to us in tears telling us how much this wedding impacted them. We felt so happy, so much love, and the whole thing felt like a fleeting magical moment in our lives.
But now all I can seem to focus on is the terrible wind that made my hairdresser go extra tight with my hair (unhappiness there), I have yet to see the “perfect” photo of my husband and me (as if that exists!), a member of my family wore a skort suit to my wedding instead of a dress (how dare she?!?), I wasn’t thrilled with my MOH’s hair, our first dance got drowned out by guests joining us on the dance floor too soon, I walked down the aisle too quickly, etc.
But WHY am I doing this to myself? Why can’t I just let it go and remember all the wonderful things that went so right? I think it’s the perfectionist in me that has the luxury of hindsight. I hope that in time (and as soon as I have something else all-consuming to occupy my mind) I’ll forget about these insignificant things and find myself back in that space of happiness and bliss.
Mrs Lab, Thanks for putting your feelings out here for us because there are certainly are going to be those of us who will not love everything about our weddings! I appreciate you getting the conversation going!
I had it too, as you see so many of the hive did.
One thing I want to say that might (hopefully) lift your spirits, is that it won’t take years for you to get over this. I felt crappy about my May 09 wedding and all that went wrong (people who behaved disrespectfully, my reactions to certain things, people telling me more things that went wrong when they should have kept their mouth shut), but I am over it now. It probably took me 3 to 4 months to realize that I worked hard, had fun, looked good, and married my dream guy. Looking through my photos, I see all these things, not the things that kept me awake at night after the wedding.
Soon, you will be able to look back and remember the good, and look forward to new and exciting adventures (travels, babies, etc).
oh, I almost forgot…
Remember Mrs. Cherry Pie? She began her recaps with non-pro pics and was very upset with how some things went down. By the time she had her pro pic recaps, she was fondly remembering her wedding. I asked her about it toward the end of her recaps and she told me that clarity about the day came with time. I knew I would have the same problem because I think everything to death, but it fades, and the good things shine through.
I’m so sorry, you poor sweet thing! I loved hearing about all your plans and I just know it is disappointing not everything went as you wanted. Yeah, the guests didn’t realize it but that is part of what bothers you so much. Onward and forward right? Thank you so much for your honesty and forthcoming. As a bride to be I like seeing posts like this. I don’t like knowing that other brides didn’t get their perfect day, but just knowing that we are all human, things happen and we will live through it. As someone who is still waiting for their day to come and planning, it helps to prepare myself if the caterer does indeed screw up or my cake monogram turns out like crap (or the flavor is all wrong). Looking forward to your recaps and the things you did cherish!
Oh, mrs L. I’m sorry your wedding day wasn’t everything you’d hoped. Thank you for being so honest and sharing your PWD with us.
First of all, I’m really sorry that your wedding wasnt exactly what you wanted it to be. Still, I think that it’s SO important that you tell us everything. Don’t worry about being a Debbie Downer because what you have to say could turn out to be really helpful for lot of us ladies! It might also give you the chance to process all of your thoughts.
Mrs. Lab, thanks so much!
I have been having these feelings since our wedding in July, and have felt so guilty for having them. I didn’t want my husband to feel bad about the wedding, or seem ungrateful for everything everyone did to help us have our “dream” day. And when people told us that ours was the best wedding they’ve been to, outwardly I thanked them, but inwardly I thought “They probably say that to everybody”. Given that our pro pics were our BIGGEST disappointment, I don’t even have those to look at to focus on the good things.
I’m hoping the bad feelings will fade over time…and hearing that other brides feel the same way helps me to feel not so alone and that it’s okay to talk about it without seeming like an ungrateful little wench.
So thank you, thank you, thank you.
I have actually felt the exact same way! And as I get my pro pics back I start to hate the wedding more. I think my main problem is that we have a ton of other friends get married this year and I can’t help but compare weddings.
But your post has reminded me that you are right, tons of people busted their asses and payed a lot of money to attend or contribute to the day, and I should be grateful to have that kind of love and support. Thanks you. I hope you find a way to come to peace with your wedding regrets. I am working on mine : )
Miss Lab, thank you for putting it all out there. Posts like yours and Mrs. Cheese help me realize that its okay to be open and honest about feelings whether they be good, bad, terrible, or worse. I’m so sorry to hear that things didn’t go as planned, but I’m glad that someone as awesome as your MOH was busting her ass for your sake That’s a real friend! I only noticed two things wrong on my wedding day, and they were both small. Both we recitfied in some way, and I love my photos enough that they continue to bring back the happy memories even while I’m on hold to void the check I wrote our florist…
If it’s any help, we all can’t wait to see your recaps and photos and hope you’ll enjoy reliving all the happy moments of your day with us!
I’m sorry it wasn’t as you expected. I hope you feel better talking about it. You have a great support in Weddingbee!
It’s always a let down after an event is over, whether it was perfect or less than. My least favorite time is January through March, because I always feel a big let-down after the holidays like everyday just isn’t special enough. As a result of knowing myself and the anticipation I give events, your story is one of my fears. We have a long engagement, 16 months, and I’m afraid that after all the planning, money, and effort that I’ll be left with this empty feeling. I think one of the contributing factors in this feeling is that there is no real way to know how everything will be when all the elements come together and since weddings are all about crutial details, if one goes wrong than the whole thing can feel like a disaster. One reassurance should be that most people don’t even notice the details and will still have enjoyed the event.
It might help if you and your new husband could get away for a weekend and take a mini honeymoon to celebrate the fact that the day, no matter how it seemed, means that you are now married to this wonderful man. Best wishes!
Mrs. Lab, Thank you for writing this. I am so sorry that you feel disappointed and that you were stressed out on your big day. But it is posts like this when I feel the WB community is strongest. I have, in the weird, I-only-know-you-on-the-internet kind of way, been waiting for you to “come back” and I am glad you are. You have friends here, and I honestly think this is a thing that we can all work through together. (In addition to you and Mr. Lab.) I have two more ideas: the first is, after my fiance and I go on vacation, we always write a “vacation journal,” in which we list 5 or 10 things that we loved about the vacation (”going for a hike” or “taking a 3 hour nap”) big or small. It is a good counting-your-blessings activity. Maybe something like that would help you refocus your feelings about your wedding? Also, I wonder if you could turn this into a teachable moment for yourself: if nothing else, maybe it will help you learn (and identify for the future) some tendencies you have about expectations or trying to please everyone or anxiety or whatever.
Either way, welcome back. We’re all so glad you’re here!
Ive been following Miss Lab for a while now because of her Savannah wedding. I feel like I’m as let down as she is, because I was anticiapting an amazing post about her fabulous Southern wedding. Im so sorry things didnt go as planned and am so glad that she is honest and truthful without being hateful or nasty.
As a planner, I hate to see brides let down after their big day. Even if I had nothing to do with it, I take it personally and scrutinize every detail to make it up. I hope that Miss Lab can still celebrate the best part - Being Married to the Man of Your Dreams!
Mrs. Lab i am sooo glad u posted this.. i feel like ur telling my story! i loved the idea of my wedding but i wasnt happy on my wedding day. my florist messed up, the photographer didnt take enuff pics, some one stepped on my veil as i was walking out of church, my dress’s strap snapped off! by the end of the night i was like where is my husband i wanna just go home! im so glad that the wedding is over and i completely agree with u when u say when people ask u how the wedding went its like do i want to be brutally honest or just say nice?? im glad our honey moon was wonderful two weeks in hawaii was deinfetly worth it and i look forward to spending the rest of my life with my husband!
I’m sorry to hear things weren’t ideal, its a bummer when all that planning just crumbles before your eyes, but I do look forward to your re-caps
I’m sorry your wedding didn’t go as expected. It’s hearing things like this that make me want to go more with a small wedding, like I want rather than a larger one to please family. Too much would go wrong…and I get upset easy. Thanks for the post.
Aww, Mrs. Lab. I’m so sorry to hear all of this. If it makes you feel any better, I had a PANIC ATTACK when we got to our hotel the night of our wedding. I was like, “HOLY CRAP - I’M MARRIED. What the h*&$ did I just do???” But luckily that wore off. i think we just build up the wedding in our minds our whole lives and then **poof** it’s over. And we are left reeling. I do think not going on a honeymoon has made it more difficult for you. That was one of the best things for me - it gave me something else to focus on rather than obsessing about the wedding. All I can say is you will get through this - and I’m glad Mr. Lab is being so supportive!
On another note, I have fallen off the fitness wagon, and I am determined to start again tonight with my favorite workout - the Mrs. Lab workout!
I’m continually amazed at all the support I’ve been getting. You girls are the best! Thanks to everyone who offered advice on ways to help me work through this. I really think I may try some sort of low-key, nearly free, “re-do”. And I’m hoping and praying that Mr. Lab and I are able to take some sort of mini-moon over the Thanksgiving break. Even those plans were sort of ruined when our money we had set aside for that had to be used on unexpected expenses during the wedding weekend. But we’ll plan something, I’m sure! Thanks sooooo much ladies! And I hope that all of you who are also suffering from PWD get just as much support as I have! *forever grateful for the ‘bee!!!*
Mrs. Lab-I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way! I am hoping that you can take a much needed trip with just you and your new hubby! That said, the hive is always here for you. Thank you for bringing this issue out-its clear you really struck a nerve with quite a few brides/brides to be.
Thanks so much for sharing your true feelings and story with us, Mrs. Lab. I know a lot of people have these feelings post-wedding and never talk about them. You’re supposed to be so blissed out on your wedding that you don’t care about the details. I know I did. I’m grateful that most of the wedding went off without a hitch, but there were a few things that still irk me, even 6 months later. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to let it go about my BIL’s inappropriate toast and the weird random flower that our baker put on top of the cake. Just know that we’re all here supporting you and you can vent whenever you want!
Mrs Lab, first, I am so sorry about how you are feeling and hope that as the days go on you feel better with the hive’s support. Second, this is my greatest fear. It’s totally in my personality to dwell on what goes wrong. A couple of years ago I had a birthday party (not as grand as the wedding) and I found myself thinking about the DJs terrible sound system, the people that didn’t show up, and how the place looked empty instead of the truly great time we had and the fact that those I loved most were there and had come from far to be there. I really want to make an effort to force myself to see the positive after the wedding and not dwell on the problems that may occur.
Oh Mrs. L, I am so sorry for this. While I didn’t experience PWD, I know a lot of brides who have that gave out some great advice when I was planning our wedding. Here’s what I learned from them in order to avoid my own case of PWD:
1. Shorten your engagement. This is hard to do, sometimes for monetary reasons, but if you can do a 6 month engagement…do it! Planning anything for a year or more is likely to cause some “What do I do now,” feelings once the wedding is over. We don’t even grow babies for a whole year. I planned for 5 months and it was perfect. Just enough time to put together a lovely celebration with special details.
2. Realize long in advance that you are not planning the best day of your life. It’s sooo much pressure and who really wants to experience their greatest day when they are so young (whether it’s 20s or 30s…there is a lot of living to do beyond that point)? Shoot for your wedding being in your top ten and take some of the pressure off yourself. If you think it’s supposed to be the best day ever, and some things don’t quite work out, it’s bound to lead to disappointed feelings. For me, realizing that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my now husband was a far greater day than marrying him. Our engagement (which was private and on the bank of Lake Superior was a greater day) in that moment, when I said yes, I committed to spending the rest of my life with him. No vows or dress or traditions could have made it more official. I’m pregnant now and I’m sure the birth of our daughter will far surpass the wedding day. Wedding day = not the best day, but ONE of the best days.
3. Realize that a wedding is mostly about the other people. This is a tough one, but once I realized that I was throwing a party for everyone else, it took the pressure off. I included details that would help our guests feel loved, have fun and show our appreciation for them taking time out of their lives to celebrate with us. The rest of the things that I thought would be great, but didn’t fit those criteria, I nixed and moved on. This is also the advantage of a shorter engagement…there is simply no time to second guess.
4. Take a honeymoon. Seriously, do it. It’s your one opportunity. Consider scaling back your wedding a bit so that you can afford one OR if you just can’t do that, include a short getaway (even if it’s just a couple days in a quaint little town or a couple of nights in a swanky hotel room that you never leave) into your budget. No amount of flowers or cake will ever make up for this opportunity to chill with your new husband and transition to married life. To make this happen, consider doing a honeymoon registry. We did and it was AWESOME, our guests loved it and we made sure to take photos of us doing the activities that our guest gifted us and included them in the thank yous. You have tons of time to get that new gravy boat or le creuset dutch oven or the china that you will use twice a year…you can never get back those few post wedding days.
5. If you don’t like being the center of attention on a daily basis, then realize that you won’t like it on your wedding day. Brides take on a lot of pressure. From the moment you get engaged people want to know all about what you will look like - your dress, your makeup, your hair, fitness routine. It’s easy to start to feel uncomfortable about having so many eyes on you. Consider walking down the aisle with both your parents, or take on the aisle as a couple - it’s ok to break tradition if it helps you relax. Don’t change the processional when it’s your turn and seriously, do a first look, it really does help to settle things down. Consider asking everyone to join you for your first dance - anything that will help you feel less on display and more in the moment.
6. Before you get dressed, on your big day, ask everyone to give you a few moments to yourself. Book this into your day of schedule. I ran a shallow bath and washed up after my hair and makeup was done and played my I’m Calm app on my iphone. WOW did that help to get rid of some of the jitters and allow me to re-center and put the day in perspective.
7. Finally, simplify. It’s ok to not have attendants if managing a lot of people stresses you out. Let go of some of the little touches that you want to add by creating a litmus test of criteria that they need to fit and by all means, if you have to be responsible for making sure that detail gets done right, then scratch it. If it’s that complicated, it’s not worth it.
Good luck to all the brides-to-be and to those brides-that-were….if your wedding wasn’t quite what you were hoping, grab your man, hire a cheap officiant and do it all over again, all by yourselves in a special spot (whoever gave this advice is a genius).
Mrs. Lab, thank you so much for sharing your feelings and being so honest! I am certain that I will also experience PWD since I have been planning for so long and I always have to have a “project.” I have decided that my next venture will be “the nest”!
Your wedding was one that I was looking forward to the most! Sorry to hear that you had some disappointments. I am sure that it was beautiful and I can’t wait to see some pics!!
thank you so much for sharing miss lab, this really means a lot to all of us and I hope that knowing you’re helping so many other people will help you to feel better about things.
Hi Mrs. Lab,
Just letting you know that we are still very much looking forward to your re-caps!
Where did you go Mrs. Lab? I’m dying to read your recaps!
@JLT: I promise I’ll be back soon! It’s been hard finding the right words! Plus, school and part-time work are wrapping up, and finding a job has taken over my life. YUCK.
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Mrs. Labrador Retriever, Athens/Savannah
Age and Occupation: 24, Student/Sports Reporter
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Physical Therapy Assistant Student/Future Dr. of PT
Engagement Date: December 31, 2008
Wedding Date: November 2009
Venue: Whitfield Square/Savannah Station
About Me: I'm working on my second degree from UGA (Go Dawgs!). I'm a self-proclaimed attention-w****. If it involves a camera, I'm in front of it! You'll never meet a girlier tomboy than me. I can go toe to toe with any guy on the subject of college football, and lift more than any girl in my gym, all without chipping a nail. I hope to someday be the only person you want delivering your sports news. My FI and I are the loving parents of three Labrador Retrievers (one of each color) and are planning a "Southern Romantic Charm" wedding in the beautiful, historic city of Savannah. I'm not extreme in anything except moderation... and wedding planning.
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