Mr. Burger and I both are Catholic. While neither of us are super-religious people, I consider myself a spiritual person; I pray regularly, and I believe in God. I had always imagined a church wedding—complete with the Catholic wedding mass—as I never really knew anything different. After the decision to marry in State College was made, I started worrying about finding a church that would marry us.
Being that we are in school, during our clinical years at that, we really were at the mercy of our rotation schedules when picking a wedding date. We had the choice between two weekends—one in December or one in March—and we went with the date in spring for a few reasons (our dating anniversary is in March, and we are hoping for winter to be over – fingers crossed!). Complicating our selection, however, is that the date falls during the season of Lent. Lent, as some of you may know, is a very solemn time in the Catholic church; a time for reflecting on the sacrifices made for us. Traditionally, weddings during Lent are frowned upon in the Catholic church, however, in more recent years they have been occasionally allowed. Sigh.
In State College there are a few local Catholic churches. I had heard from family that getting married in a Catholic church that you are not a parishioner of can be difficult (often impossible). Then there was the whole Lent thing. Oh yeah, and the fact that we aren’t exactly super Catholics. Sure, I went to Catholic elementary school, but I haven’t been to confession in about 10 years. :/
Being busy on a rotation during rectory business hours, I recruited Burger to make the (dreaded) phone calls, wquipped with a list of specific questions to ask:
He spoke with representatives from the churches and the answers were YES all around! Phew! What a relief. He also got the scoop on the costs, ceremony times, and their availability on our date (check!). We were officially go for launch! It was a good day.
We decided on a church based on location (it’s closer to campus), cost, and good reviews (we have a second cousin who is a parishioner), plus it’s quite pretty! Here, have a look:
pictures courtesy of Cheeseburger Mom
Were you nervous about choosing a wedding date or a ceremony location because of your faith?