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Mrs. Lamb, Norfolk Age and Occupation: 25, Homeland Security Consultant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Graduate Student Engagement Date: January 2009 Wedding Date: January 2010 Venue: Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House About Me: I’m a Homeland Security Consultant with a tendency towards pulling office pranks, taking lunch breaks, and drinking Wawa shakes. I’m also an English major with a serious obsession with alliteration and rhymes. While I’m not keeping America safe, I’m training for half marathons and the Escape from Alcatraz swim. Or moving for the third time this year. Or baking. Or wedding crafting. Or crying about wedding planning. All the while, I’m getting myself into Lucille Ball-esque scrapes and making Jim Carey-esque faces. Our big fat Czech/Baptist/Jewish/Italian wedding is a combination of vintage eclectic, DIY, and little spoonful of sugar from our Event Coordinator. It’s going to be a Norfolk flavored wedding with the verve of an only-daughter-blow-out bash!
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Wisdom About Getting Married

November 19th, 2009 @ 2:37 pm by Mrs. Lamb

I like thinking philosophically about what marriage means to me. I like critiquing the wedding industry and avoiding the black hole of unrealistic expectations (even though I sometimes fail at this). I like smart women. That’s why I read A Practical Wedding.

As I was catching up with last week’s posts, I ran across Michelle and Josh’s story. Michelle’s words reached out of the computer and gave me an empathetic back rub:

What made our wedding sane was that we got married. I was really good at having the occasional ’let’s just elope’ freak out, but thankfully Josh was even better at the ’at the end of this, you will be my wife’ speech.

It’s been a rough few weeks as we’ve headed into the homestretch and have found the million loose ends that need to be tied. I had a ’let’s just elope freak out’ recently (a 5 page email melt down about how nothing seemed to coming together and everyone was against me) and this is what the future Mr. Lamb wrote to me:

One overall thought I have about the ceremony is that I want you to remember that the most special thing about the ceremony is that you and I will be getting married in front of people we love in a place that is special to us. Everything else is just material.

That’s why I love him and that is why I’m marrying him.

So here’s to remembering what is important about a marriage and what’s not worth going insane over (heel height, reception dresses, band stages, and sold out feather boas). You’ll be getting married!!!

Have you had a freak out recently? What do you do to center yourself and remind yourself what’s important?

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16 Responses to “Wisdom About Getting Married”

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Mrs. Bear Cub
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Mrs. Bear Cub (message)  1,566 posts, Bumble bee

I love APW :) It’s one of the blogs that helped me stay most grounded during the planning process.

 
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pennednpapered
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pennednpapered (message)  286 posts, Helper bee

I am so bookmarking this to remember later. Great post Miss Lamb :)

 
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Ms. Min Pin
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Ms. Min Pin (message)  282 posts, Helper bee

my entire philosophy about getting married and planning the wedding is that it should all be as much stress free as possible and that we should enjoy it…I am very fortunate that my SO is very down to earth and practical as am I…so we have been doing really well. Everything is “ahead” of schedule so to speak and worrying and stressing never helps…It is very easy for people to fall intothe panic mode…got to keep yourself focused on whats important…you and your future husband/wife.

 
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Miss Pudding (message)  1,183 posts, Bumble bee

You’re a very lucky lamb! Mr. Lamb sounds so sweet…

 
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314Cherokee
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314Cherokee (message)  53 posts, Worker bee

Thanks for sharing that. I just had the ’let’s just elope freak out’ last night.

 
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tea
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tea (message)  7,278 posts, Busy Beekeeper

mr. lamb for the win! that is so sweet. i love it when my guy puts the practical spin on things to get me to calm down. makes me love him even more

 
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Miss_Carmel
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Miss_Carmel (message)  316 posts, Helper bee

I’m happy I’m not the only one having the “everyone is against me, lets just go elope” freak out. :)

My fiance has been great about reminding me that while we’re the two people getting married, we have been supported in our relationship and will continue to be supported in our marriage by those we love the most. We owe a little something to those we love by having a wedding celebration that they’re invited to attend. Bonus points to Mr. Lamb for being so supportive too, because planning a wedding can be hard sometimes.

 
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Miss Scissors (message)  7,343 posts, Busy Beekeeper

So sweet. :)

My fiance is good at calming down my freak-outs. I don’t know how he does it, but somehow he brings me back down to earth.

 
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Miss French Fries
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Miss French Fries (message)  2,218 posts, Buzzing bee

Aww, that was really sweet of Mr. Lamb. I’ve had many a wedding freak-out, and luckily Mr. FF has always been there to talk me off the proverbial ledge.

 
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Miss Poodle
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Miss Poodle (message)  3,386 posts, Sugar bee

I love APW too! :)

 
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Mrs. Mouse
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Mrs. Mouse (message)  5,821 posts, Bee Keeper

Great post. A Practical Wedding is great for a breath of fresh air when you start getting too wrapped up in the details.

 
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Miss Cola (message)  2,833 posts, Sugar bee

Awwww, that is so sweet of your hubby to write that and remind you of what’s really important!

 
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Jessie516
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Jessie516 (message)  5,480 posts, Bee Keeper

Mr. Lamb sounds like a total sweetheart. :)

 
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suerocks (message)  22 posts, Newbee

mine said the same basic thing to me as i freaked out about house buying, wedding, and mom being 10 steps ahead of me (”who will watch the kids while you work?” WHAT?!?!)
It made me feel so much better.

 
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RecessionistaBride
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RecessionistaBride (message)  5,018 posts, Bee Keeper

*tear tear* what a sweet post! My FI is my constant… he keeps me grounded & helps me hold it together. I’ve thought about having us get ready together on our wedding day… he keeps me so calm & there’s no one else I’d rather spend my morning with.

 
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Rev. JP Reynolds

I love what Josh repeatedly said to Michelle. I tell couples that there are some things in life that are too important and that cannot be done alone. A wedding is one of them. Five years after the wedding, no one is going to remember the details that only a bride (and groom) noticed and worried over. People remember the tone of the day. It’s all about creating “magic” and not “perfection.”

 

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Mrs. Lamb, Norfolk Age and Occupation: 25, Homeland Security Consultant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Graduate Student Engagement Date: January 2009 Wedding Date: January 2010 Venue: Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House About Me: I’m a Homeland Security Consultant with a tendency towards pulling office pranks, taking lunch breaks, and drinking Wawa shakes. I’m also an English major with a serious obsession with alliteration and rhymes. While I’m not keeping America safe, I’m training for half marathons and the Escape from Alcatraz swim. Or moving for the third time this year. Or baking. Or wedding crafting. Or crying about wedding planning. All the while, I’m getting myself into Lucille Ball-esque scrapes and making Jim Carey-esque faces. Our big fat Czech/Baptist/Jewish/Italian wedding is a combination of vintage eclectic, DIY, and little spoonful of sugar from our Event Coordinator. It’s going to be a Norfolk flavored wedding with the verve of an only-daughter-blow-out bash!

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