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Throughout wedding planning, I’ve found myself saying, “Oh, I’m not traditional, that’s why I’m not doing X.”
Well, in an ode to my more traditional self, let’s talk about the items that I’m keeping traditional:
This is a decision I made a long time ago, albeit a difficult one. See, we live together and I love my dress and I really want someone else to be able to see it and admire it just like I do. However, he’s so good about this one that he won’t even enter the room it’s in, even though it’s in the closet behind a closed door in a large white bag. So for now, I get to admire it alone.
I haven’t figured out exactly what each of the items will be, but I know that I want to carry on this tradition. Not because I’m superstitious, but because I think it’s a fun one. I like the idea of incorporating an item that was my mom’s or my grandmother’s on our wedding day as my something old, but more on that in another post!
This is a debate we see often around the ‘bee, and it was one that I did not even think twice about. In fact, one of my bridesmaids even gave me a metal letter “L” as an engagement gift in honor of my new last name that I happily placed as decoration next to some of our engagement photos. It will be strange to no longer be called by my current name, and I’m certain that it will take some getting used to. One of my college friends even told me that he was going to continue to refer to me by my maiden name, which is fine, as a lot of people call me by my last name, but it made me realize that changing my name will be a big shift for a lot of people, not just me. It is important to me though, and I look forward to sharing a last name with Mr. Fro Yo.
So what are some traditions that you’re keeping for your wedding?
I did 1 and 2 on your list. We also had a wedding party with three on each side. We did a cake cutting, a first dance. Pretty much the only traditional elements I can think of now.
My husband saw my dress before the wedding, but not on me. I just couldn’t help it!
We did the following traditional things:
-First dance
-Cake cutting
-I changed my name
-I wore white (I guess that’s traditional)
Other than that, everything else was non-traditional (mom walked me down the aisle, my dress was short, we had a groomswoman, sat with our families at the reception).
There were a ton of traditions that we did away with, a few that we mixed in from our mixed cultures and a few very well known traditions that we had to keep.
We kept the tradition of seperating the night before the wedding and not speaking until seeing each other at the alter (even though we lived together).
I wore my Mom’s pearls and she was the one to put my veil on just before walking down the aisle. As well as keeping the “Something old, new, borrowed and blue.”
We did away with all traditional wedding music and opted for all modern music without words during the ceremony and seating of the guests.
I suppose that’s part of the joy of weddings. You can make it as traditional as you want or you can bring your own feel to it and make it completely your own.
Congrats and I can’t wait to read more posts on your big day! 
I’m doing the same traditional elements you are but we’ll have a lot a nontraditional elements as well. I’m catholic but we’re getting married at a beautiful winery in Southern Illinois.
I def dont want him seeing the dress or seeing me in the dress before I walk down the aisle. I love all your traditions and Im doing each one!
I didn’t plan to be traditional or non-traditional, but looking back we had one heck of a traditional wedding and I loved it. I still drool and awww over all of the neat and creative non-traditional things people come up with, I just wanted something a little more conventional. Sometimes I think tradition gets a bad rap. Great thing about weddings is there’s something for everyone!
I’m doing 2 and 3 on your list. I never truly entertained the option of keeping my maiden name, but like you, I’ve started to realize the magnitude of the change for me (I sign most of my correspondence with my initials).
My new last name starts with an L too! Welcome to the middle of the alphabet!
I’m doing the three things you just talked about as well as some others like the tosses, etc.
He doesn’t want to see my dress (or me) beforehand, so that’s one we’re doing. And I’m enjoying making up elements to my dress, just to mess with him (think: “well, it has huge, poufy sleeves, and is 10 feet in diameter”). We’re also doing the garter toss (again, him. I’d prefer to leave it out). But I’m not tossing my bouquet - I think we’ll do a bouquet dance instead.
we were pretty traditional, and i don’t regret it:
he didn’t see my dress until i was walking down the aisle, we did the cake cutting, toss the bouquet, ”money dance” (although it’s not called like that in spanish, but you get the idea), and the something ONBB!
untraditional: i wore red shoes (scandalous to some family of mine!) and i didn’t do a name change because in Mexico, you don’t have to!
I’m so happy that we live in a day and age where you can be traditional, non-traditional or somewhere in between. I def fall in the in-between category, but was not letting my Mr. see my dress before the wedding, and I enjoyed doing a super-cheesy first dance.
I’m doing all of those as well I’m excited about taking his last name, even though I feel like I’m bombarded every day with articles and friends who think I should keep my name. I <3 choice.
He is not seeing my dress, and I am changing my name. Also, we’re not seeing each other before the ceremony on the day-of. We might say hello while we’re in sweats in the morning, but as soon as I start getting ready, forget it. It’s over til I’m walking down the aisle! I am probably doing something new, borrowed, blue, but I haven’t thought about it in so many words. I definitely have new and borrowed. Hmm…..
So funny - I’m doing all those things, too. And I would definitely not describe myself as traditional.
I’m doing 1, 2, and half of 3 (hypen). And I don’t consider myself traditional either, go figure!
@JenniBee44: I definitely agree! I love that we can make our weddings our own these days.
@chelseamorning: Thanks!! I’m an “s” now, so it’s definitely a big change!
@CupcakeSprinkles: I think the name changing thing is so personal. I respect the girls’ decision to keep their names, but at the same time, for me, I’m excited that we will have the same last name.
You know, it’s funny, but I generally consider myself to not be a “traditional” bride. However, the three traditional things that you did…I did too! Those were the ones I did!
Hmmm I’m probably more traditional than I’d like to admit. But yes, doing all of those 3. I just will put my own spin on other stuff.
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Mrs. Frozen Yogurt, Dallas Age and Occupation: 28, Special Projects Coordinator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Equity Trader Engagement Date: March 19, 2009 Wedding Date: April 2010 Venue: Marie Gabrielle, Dallas About Me: I was born and raised in Texas, and have lived in several of the cities across the state, but I currently reside in Austin. I went to college in Boston and have a special place in my heart for the Northeast. I love reading, shopping, wine, reuniting with college friends that are scattered across the country, reality TV, trying out new recipes, and attempting all the DIY projects that come along with wedding planning. I'm a "bleeding heart, save the world type" and thankfully my job allows me to work on legislation and policy to help out those in need. I met Mr. Frozen Yogurt in a bar, though he doesn't even drink! And now we are planning a modern yet vintage wedding in Dallas while dealing with the trials and tribulations of first time homeownership.
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