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I struggled with this in the beginning, and considered several different options to try and create a perfectly even wedding party. See, I wanted 6 girls and Mr. Fro Yo only wanted 4 guys.
I considered just including my sister, and he just his brother, but the more I thought about that, the more I realized that it really wasn’t what I wanted. What about the girls I’d known and been friends with since junior high? Or the grad school friends I made? I wanted to include all of them! I kept suggesting people Mr. Fro Yo could include, but then I realized that by making him include people he didn’t want to, it was essential the same as my not being able to include girls I wanted. So I decided that an uneven wedding party wasn’t that bad.
However, to complicate matters, my brother will be a groomsman and also my escort down the aisle. Figuring out how to maneuver this wedding party down the aisle was becoming increasingly more difficult. My current idea for the processional is to let all the guys walk down the aisle together with the officiant and Mr. Fro Yo, and the girls will walk alone one by one. And what about the recessional? Well, two lucky guys will get to “recess” (what’s the verb for recessional???) with 2 girls.
Anyone else with an uneven wedding party? How are you handling the processional and recessional?
We’ve got the same problem in reverse… we have 8 guys (two of them will be on my side, though) and 5 girls (all on my side). The guys will probably walk down separately first, and a few of the girls will get to double up back up the aisle. 
Ours was uneven! We originally had 5 of each, but then one of the groomsmen moved to the Middle East and couldn’t come back (random, I know) and we felt weird at that point “promoting” an usher or asking someone else.
So we left it at 5 and 4 and it was great! We had one GM walk two BM’s. One word of caution - if you do that, just make sure that the aisle is wide enough for 3 people to walk down together…ours was almost too small, but fortunately did work!
I see this all the time, I think its the norm now! Once in a while a lucky groomsman gets two ladies or visa-versa. Also, I’ve never seen the groomsmen & bridesmaids walk in together. I’ve always been at weddings where the men start at the front and the bride’s crew walks in 1 by 1 or 2 by 2 (some shy junior bridesmaids have walked with an older one)… so mix it up!
We had an uneven bridal party. The men walked down the aisle with right before my husband, the best man and pastor came out of the narthex, then the women processed! It was fine!! 2 of our groomsmen escorted 2 of my bride’s maids back the aisle during the recessional.
I have a MOH and flower girl but my FI doesnt have a Best Man. Hes from Japan so none of his friends can make the wedding. So he doesnt have anyone. He wants my Dad to be his best man but my dad has to walk be down the aisle!!
I have an even party numbers wise but the thing is the bm is about ten inches shorter then the moh so I am thinking of how to make it not look so awkward……
SAME PROBLEM. I’ll have four bridesmaids, but my fiance has no idea who he wants to ask. He just doesn’t have those close relationships with his friends where he’d be comfortable asking. So, I know this is going to be a project!
At two friends’ weddings, there have been more girls than guys. In one wedding, one groomsman escorted two bridesmaids. In the other, one bridesmaid walked alone. And, both were fine. Two bridesmaids with one groomsman definitely caused some chuckles and lightened the mood, which was actually really nice.
We have an uneven wedding party! I’m having 6 girls and he’s having (gulp) 10 guys. So, they will all walk down individually, and then recess two by two (for the first two bridesmaids and groomsmen). The remainder of my 4 girls will each have a guy on each arm! As for the seating arrangements for dinner, we’re not doing any type of head table, so that’s not a problem.
Most people are shocked when I tell them we have uneven numbers…then I remind them that this isn’t prom.
It sounds like you’ve got it all figured out! Who cares if your sides are even? It’s more important that each of you has exactly who you want standing with you on your wedding day.
I do-I havent even thought about it. I also have a “man of honor” in addition to my two maids of honor. lol.
We’ve got an uneven number too. Not an issue for the processional, we’ll have the guys walk out with the groom and girls walk down the aisle on their own. For the recessional, we are going to have them alternate and do the same as before…everyone walking down the aisle on their own. I didn’t spend much time thinking about it as I don’t think that many people are paying attention at that point anyway!
We have 6 girls and 7 guys…originally it was even but FI had left out a friend he really wanted to ask so we decided uneven was fine. We are going to have the guys already standing at the front, and then when they recess one girl will have two guys or one guy will walk alone (it will be my brother, so no big deal, ha!)
We had 3 guys and 2 girls, BUT one of the guys was one of my attendants, so there were 3 people on my side, and 2 on his. For the processional, the groomsmen walked in with my husband, and all of my attendants walked alone ahead of me and my dad. For the recessional, the best man escorted the matron of honor, and the groomsman and my male attendant each claimed one arm of my bridesmaid. It was really cute.
Mine is the same as miss french fries… i have only 6 girls but my fiance wants 10 (and thats at the low end). So we’ve decided to keep it uneven.
My biggest dilemma is picking a MOH - I have 4 sisters, all of us are very close, one is married. Which one to choose?!
@shellymarie: Wow, that’s really tough! I have one sister, so it was easy for me. Maybe you could have co-MOHs?
I am having 4 stand on my side (my brother and 3 female friends) and FI is having3 on his (his sister, brother, and a male buddy). This is a Jewish wedding, so we’re having the groom’s attendant walk down singly before the groom (escorted by his parents). On the recessional, we’ll either have one groomsmen walk with two bridesmaids, or we will have one bridesmaid walk alone.
Hey Miss Froyo! It’s totally NOT a problem. I had NINE bridesmaids, and husband had only FIVE groommen. It worked out just fine. The processional is no problem, like you said, the guys enter first behind the officiant, and the girls go down alone one-by-one as customary. As for the recessional we had the MOH and BM walk down together… and then had each of the rest of boys walked down with two girls each. It was so funny, because I think my guests were really curious as well as how it was all going to work, and when they saw the girls with each guy, they all laughed and started clapping!
The aisle at Marie-Gabrielle was totally big enough, just make sure Lisa knows if that’s what you’re going to do…
…. and the pictures looked great with the uneven number! I think the natural surrounds of MG lends to it not being a problem.
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding that had 6 girls and 10 guys. 2 of the girls were walked down the aisle with 2 guys. I was one of those lucky ladies 
For my wedding I have 5 firls and FI has 9 guys. We’ll probably end up doing the same thing!
I totally don’t think it’s a problem to have an uneven wedding party these days, lots of people seem to be doing it! Ours will have 3 on one side, 4 on the other, and the last BM will just walk down with 2 GM.
We are having 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, 2 flower girls and 1 ringbearer. We are having the 2 flower girls (who will be right around 3 yrs old) walk our ringbearer down (seeing that he will only be 26 mths old at the time). And for our bridal party it’ll be a ratio of 2 guys to a girl…I’m thinking it’ll work out
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Mrs. Frozen Yogurt, Dallas Age and Occupation: 28, Special Projects Coordinator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Equity Trader Engagement Date: March 19, 2009 Wedding Date: April 2010 Venue: Marie Gabrielle, Dallas About Me: I was born and raised in Texas, and have lived in several of the cities across the state, but I currently reside in Austin. I went to college in Boston and have a special place in my heart for the Northeast. I love reading, shopping, wine, reuniting with college friends that are scattered across the country, reality TV, trying out new recipes, and attempting all the DIY projects that come along with wedding planning. I'm a "bleeding heart, save the world type" and thankfully my job allows me to work on legislation and policy to help out those in need. I met Mr. Frozen Yogurt in a bar, though he doesn't even drink! And now we are planning a modern yet vintage wedding in Dallas while dealing with the trials and tribulations of first time homeownership.
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