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I probably could have benefited from a more clearly articulated vision for the wedding—I like everything I see, and I want to do all of it. As such, our wedding “theme” has been pretty ephemeral. Although I’m not sure I can briefly summarize what we’re going for, I can definitely show you!

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I found this image when I was searching for bouquets using Amnesia roses. It also features Vendela roses and rosemary, both of which are elements I want to include in my own bouquet. Just add some Green Tea and we’re set!

This bouquet is reflective of what I want for the wedding because it’s in a soft, muted palette. Although the flowers are fresh, the feel is antique. I can imagine it wrapped in an ivory ribbon with an old gold bouquet charm dangling from it. Something like someone’s great-grandmother would have carried.

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Although old family photos will play a small role at our wedding, they play a big role in my feelings about what our wedding means. I don’t subscribe to the “my day” theory—our wedding is not about me, and not even about Mr. S and me: it’s about entering the broader (religious, social) community, and so it’s really about our families and our pasts.

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The henna may be the single element of our wedding I am most attached to. It will adorn my hands and feet, our cake design is inspired by it, and our invitations were chosen because the swirling flourishes reminded me of the ornamentation common in Pakistani mehndi designs. I didn’t get much exposure to South Asian culture growing up besides Pakistani food and Hindi pop music, but the public rite that I see a wedding as being has made me want to reach out to the parts of my heritage that I haven’t delved deeply in before. This is a symbol to me that I want to have displayed as visibly as possible.

So, do we have a theme for the wedding? Maybe not in the Martha Stewart sense, but we definitely have some guiding inspiration. We want a wedding that is less about us, and more about where we have come from and how we will blend it all together in our new family.

How did you come up with your theme?