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We are getting married in 100 days. Seriously. 100 days!
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I’m so (insert emotion here)!!
I’m ecstatic! I’m nervous! I’m anxious! I’m thrilled! I’m ready! I’m unprepared!
Honestly, I don’t know how to feel.
You see, we’ve had a long engagement - currently in month 18 - and it’s been nothing but a complete joy! I’ve loved being a bride-to-be, and I’ve absolutely adored planning our wedding. It’s brought Burger and I together. It’s been an amazing experience to share with my mother and sister, as well as the rest of my family and Burger’s too. I’ve loved all of the excuses for our families to spend time together, and I know that our wedding will serve as just another one of those times. I wouldn’t trade the last 18 months for anything in the world.
But, now that our wedding is getting closer, I’m feeling, well, scared out of my mind. Not to marry Burger, no. I would have married him 4 years ago. I wake up everyday wishing I was married to him legally, because in my heart, he’s been my husband for quite some time now.
You see, now that all the plans are in place, the timelines are being finalized, and the DIY projects are wrapping up, I should feel like everything is coming together, right? Well, on one hand I do. And on the other hand, everything feels like it’s going to slip through my fingers.
I’ve been worrying a lot lately about the day being perfect and going as planned. The logical side of my brain knows that things are going to go wrong. The crazy/emotional side is in worst-case-scenario mode, and it’s bumming me out. I get panicky. I have nightmares. It’s totally RIDICULOUS.
Basically, I’m nervous about something that is totally under my control - how I will feel on the day of my wedding.
Because really, when you think about it, even if the candy bar isn’t perfect, the cake is the wrong color, the programs have an error, or we’re late to the ceremony, we will still be married, and nothing else matters.
But I can’t help feeling this way - especially after reading about the less-than-perfect experiences of some brides, like Mrs. Lab’s, for example.
Does anyone else know what I mean? Am I totally out of my mind? What advice do the brides out there have for staying a beaming bride all day long (even if you are a crazy control freak like Miss Cheeseburger, over here)?
It will be here before you know it! Mine is in 16 days…it came so fast!
You are definitely not out of your mind. I’m nervous about having one of those let-down experiences too, but I think it comes with the territory. There is so much excitement building up and then all of a sudden it’s done! Magical, but done. And seriously, where does the time go?
You are not out of your mind. I think it is probably harder for people who did a lot of DYI to enjoy the wedding because they are worried about a lot more elements coming into place. I had to just make sure that my florist did her job and the venue did their’s. My venue helped alleviate any and all stress by making sure my hand was never free of a glass of wine or champagne.
Just try to be in the moment. And remember, things will probably go wrong, and no one but you will notice. It will all still be wonderful and magical. And you’re talking to someone who got married on the coldest wettest day of October and rocked a ridiculously wrinkled dress after attempting to take outdoor shots. But in each wrinkly dress photo, I am so so happy.
Good luck with the rest of planning. You’ll be great!
I think a lot of people are in your position… I’m worried the day won’t be as relaxed and wondrous as it could be because I am just a stress case of a person, and I’ll be disappointed after the fact that I didn’t just let go.
MMMMMMMEEEEEE TOOOOOOOO!!! march 27???? 
Oh my gosh I could have written this post myself! I saw the little over 100 mark on the countdown for me and thought I was going to have a panic attack! I’m so nervous about it all coming together! My thought is this though, you are so excited to marry Mr. Burger and I can only imagine that IF the cake isn’t perfect (it will be perfect), then you’ll be so overjoyed about the marrying part that the little imperfections won’t even matter.
I know how you feel! We will have been engaged for almost 23 months when we finally get married, and I’m currently weirded out about the fact that I actually have to decide on things now!
I’m sure that your wedding will come together beautifully.
I think everything you’re feeling is normal. I’ve been having more and more nightmares, and I get this feeling every once in a while that I’ve completely overlooked something really important. We all just need to remember to relax and breathe 
Oh man, I remember when we were 100 days away! I was a mixture of happy and excited and anxious that everything will go well.
It will all come together, I’m completley losing it now, but I know in the end it will all be perfect. Relax, breathe, and enjoy this time. I’ve tried to keep a positive attitude through it all, even when the flipping boutique forgot to order my bridesmaids dress and it won’t be here until 3 days before the wedding!!!! But breathe, relax, count to 10-maybe 20
I feel ya and I’m way further away than 100 days! It will be wonderful no matter what bc it’s your wedding day!!!!!
get ready, you’re in for a rollercoaster. The 100 day mark is when everything started to hit the fan for us. It gets really tough around this point. I recommend making a calendar of everything you need to get done between now and then. We made weekly calendars and reviewed them every Sunday so we would have an idea what needed to be done for that week. It helped us stay on track and we weren’t as stressed out. But I swear between days 100 and 10 I was still a basket-case.
I totally just wrote a post like this. Were you in my brain this morning?
I too am at that 100 day mark and am starting to worry… BUT… last weekend I was at a wedding and during the cocktail hour a little boy (i think the brides cousin, probably age 8)spilled his juice all over the brides dress. The world stopped and people gasped. I was all ready for her to freak out… but then she just laughed and said, “well, good thing i only have to wear this once!” and she just went about her day. It was so great - and at that moment, I decided, thats the bride I want to be! The little boy could have felt awful, the little boys parents could have felt awful - but instead - she made everyone feel great!
I think at this point it is like raising children and sending them off to college… you’ve done all the planning/prep/teaching, etc that you can possibly do - and now you just have to let go… hang in there!
We just hit the 100 day mark recently- I actually feel calmer than ever at this point. We just hired our last big vendor- our DJ. He seems to be the most organized guy in the world and will actually be taking on the role of day of coordinator too. With him in our court, now we just have to finish the details. I was having nightmares before wondering how it would all come together, but now that he cashed our check- I feel good. Wonder how long that feeling will last?
I agree with Colleen above. It’s all about perspective- I witnessed two of my best friends get married this summer and their days were pretty awesome because of how relaxed they were. In normal life, they are very detail oriented but on their big day, neither one of them were freaking out about details or things going wrong. They were just so happy to marry their best friends- which inspires me to be relaxed too. Things might go wrong- but it’s going to be an amazing day!
You’re definitely not out of your mind! Obviously lots of people feel the same way As you said - things (small things, I hope!) are probably going to go wrong, but there’s nothing you will be able to do about that on the day of, so just relax and enjoy whatever celebration happens! No matter what goes wrong, people will still be there to celebrate the awesome fact that you and Mr. Burger just got married!
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Mrs. Cheeseburger, Baltimore, MD/State College, PA Age and Occupation: 25, Medical Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Medical Student Engagement Date: June 28, 2008 Wedding Date: March 2010 Venue: Catholic Church Ceremony & Hotel Reception About Me: I'm a passionate girl from Pittsburgh, currently living in Baltimore for school, who loves Penn State, seeing movies, football, thunderstorms, black and white photos, Christmas, good beer, my amazing friends and family, and of course, my mister! We met, fell in love, got engaged, and will be married at our alma mater (go lions!) in a traditional Catholic ceremony followed by a hotel reception with lots of DIY details. It means so much to have our families and friends meet at our favorite place on earth to celebrate our love for one another - I truly couldn't ask for anything more!
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