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Due to a family emergency, I spent the bulk of this past Saturday night in the ER. I won’t get into the gory details, but let’s just say it involved a lot of stitches and blood for my poor little brother. I got a call at about 1:30AM and was in the ER until about 6AM. Fun times.
But this post is not about that (and for the record, Lil’ Bro TM will be fine, after some serious dental work). It’s never a pleasant experience to be woken up in the middle of the night, getting called to the hospital. In fact, it can be downright overwhelming, scary and anxiety-inducing. I’ve never been one to handle medical procedures very well (I’ve passed out several times in the doctor’s office, once just from listening to my doctor verbally describe a procedure).
Luckily, Mr Trail Mix was with me for the whole time and I was truly thankful for his presence. He got cash from the ATM after we got outside and realized I had no money to pay for a cab. He got us coffee and snacks while we were waiting for 2 hours for the oral surgeon to come down. He made Lil’ Bro TM laugh in spite of his injuries. He held my hand.
In short, he was the best type of support I could have asked for during an uncertain, frustrating and scary situation.
It makes me confident that no matter what curve balls are thrown at us, he’ll be there for me and vice versa. For some reason (maybe it was sleep deprivation?) sitting there in the ER at 3 in the morning made me realize that this is what a marriage is all about. It’s sitting all night in the hospital even though it’s not your relative. It’s taking care of details so your partner doesn’t have to. It’s sitting in silence, holding your hand and just listening. It’s the kind of support you rely on in tough times.
I was truly comforted that night in the hospital by the realization that I will be able to count on my husband to get me through the inevitable pains we will experience as we move through our lives together. He’s my rock and my support. I have never felt this type of calmness or certainty before. I like it. The reality of the responsibility of becoming husband and wife has never been so clear nor appreciated.
Have you had an experience where you realized how thankful you were for your partner?
It happens to me a lot, actually. 
Hope your little bro gets better soon!
Miss TM, for me, your post conjures up the words of one Dionne Warwick, “in good times, in bad times, I’ll be on your side forever more.” Isn’t it great to know that you’ve got someone there with you through thick and thin?
Mr. Y was such a rock for me after the passing of my grandmothers.
A month after the wedding, I cut my finger loading the dishwasher with our new knives. FYI - knives are sharp and hurt!
I didn’t go to the ER (although I probably should have), but he was so calm and has really taken care of me. He’s my rock and I love him so.
we went through a few medical emergencies in my family this year and even though all i could do was talk to my guy on the phone, it was a huge relief having him there and understanding what i was going through.
Glad your little brother is going to be okay! I am thankful everyday for my better half. But my one experience happened almost two years ago, long before we were engaged…we had only been dating around 18 months. I broke my femur in two places in a motorcycle accident (DF was in front of me on his own bike when the accident happened). He stayed with me until EMS arrived and was so calm and comforting. By the time he got to the trauma hospital (he drove separately rather than riding in the ambulance) he had called my parents, called my insurance company, and done other things I hadn’t even thought of yet. He was my rock and my support that day and the days, weeks, and months ahead.
I am glad your little bro is ok! (That blog gave me goosebumps…) Though I don’t have a tramatic story to share, I am thankful everyday for Mr. K! Miss TM - your description of marriage above is perfect! A strong marriage shows when things get tough!
it’s so nice to have a partner through all the good times and bad.
Miss TM.. your description is perfect. It’s about those small things that can help you get through those tough times.
I can totally relate…. I help to take care of my 84 year old grandma who has parkinsons… while it is tough on me (and the FI ,since I spend so much time with her) he is 100% supportive. He heven helps out himself, stays with her, talks to her, helps me get her around, or to the doctor. He reassures me all the time, he knows how much she means to me and is the first to tell me to be by her side or to go run my errands and he’ll stay with her and has even spent a night or two with me in the hospital when she broke her ankle. I couldn’t ask for anything better than that love and support he gives me.
Great post. During our long engagement it’s been too easy to get wrapped up in and get excited about the wedding. Your post was a needed reminder about why I’m so excited for my marriage.
Hope your brother gets better soon! And it’s posts like this that remind me of the wonderful married life that will be beyond the wedding.
It’s funny how perfect this timing is. Mr. Rainbow’s grandmother passed away last night, and he told me many times how much he appreciated me, and how I helped keep him calm and took care of the little things for him. There’s a real weight in being a husband or wife, and it can be terrifying, but also extremely calming and gratifying. Great post.
Aw, I think times of crisis show us just how devoted our guys are. I had a family emergency last Christmas and Mr. N totally took care of things while I was with my sister. On the other hand, I had an ex that refused to go with me to the emergency room when I cut my finger open cause he ‘hates hospitals’. It definitely shows who’s gonna be by your side through the good times and bad
I’m constantly in awe of relationships and how sometimes the person you choose to spend your life with never ceases to amaze you.
I’m going on 10 years with my husband (2 1/2 since the wedding) and each day he finds more ways to surprise me with the thoughtful things he does. When times get tough it’s always the most comforting feeling to know someone is looking out for you.
Enjoy it - it only gets better from here!
Thank you all so much for your kind comments, I really appreciate them!
Rainbow, so sorry to hear of Mr’s Grandmother 
Trail Mix! I’m sorry to hear about your brother, I hope he’s doing ok and feeling better now! I’m glad such a heartwarming story came out of it though, it’s such a great thing to know that Mr. TM will be there to support you no matter what’s going on!
I’m glad to hear your brother is okay, Miss TM!
I had a similar experience last week.. my mom went in for heart surgery and although it turned out to be a “simple” procedure [in HeartSurgery Land, I guess...], Mr. Sox was by my side the entire day from 5am to 9pm. He has a medical background so he was able to ask all the important questions and then translate what was going on with my mom to me. Definitely made me realize how lucky I am to have him in my life. I’m glad you found that in Mr. Trail Mix!
So glad Bro TM will be okay!!! I imagine that was scary and anxiety-inducing! And, way to go, Mr. TM! Mr. CW has been there for me as I’ve dealt with my Papa’s Alzheimer’s - there was a few days when he first got diagnosed when I literally felt that the diagnosis had beaten me. He let me cry, then picked me up off the floor (so to speak) and just listened while I vented. I couldn’t have asked for more. I got to practice being there for Mr. CW early on in our relationship when his parents got divorced. He took it hard for awhile, but he’s worked through it, and it’s been great to see our partnership develop over the years!
Such a great post, I completely agree, marriage is about the little things, the difficult times, and the being there for each other! Oh! And I’m also the same way, I can’t hear people talk about blood and doctor-ish stuff without feeling light headed. Or even listen/watch medical dramas on tv, haha!
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Mrs. Trail Mix, New York Age and Occupation: 26, PE Teacher Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, MBA Student Engagement Date: March 2009 Wedding Date: June 2010 Venue: Tannery Pond at the Darrow School About Me: I'm a country girl who somehow found herself living in the Big Apple and loving every minute of it. I'm planning a rustic, country-chic wedding in my hometown in upstate New York and it's going to be a Party with a capital P. White wine, flea markets and running keep me happy and my friends, family and fiance are my world. I'm a little bit crafty, a little bit crazy but mostly just crazy in love.
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