Weddingbee Blog

During my much-anticipated wedding dress search, I found myself drawn to a certain style that I had not previously considered. This said style was elegant, sophisticated, and just altogether dreamy. So why am I not wearing one of them? Well, they were made of a charmeuse material (or double-faced silk or something) that clung to the body. That means every lump, bump, paunch, wrinkle and pimple showed up.

One of these dresses was Ginger by Kenneth Pool.

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I also tried on this dress by Elizabeth Fillmore, called Rose. Isn’t that bodice just so sweet?

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I initially thought—hey, it’s nothing a little Spanx wouldn’t fix! But nope, no dice. You could clearly see the outline of the Spanx girdle underneath the dress. It was almost funny. But not.

I’m not stupid–I know I’m a small person.  But I’m also not stupid enough to deny that I have some body dysmorphia, as many women do (try and figure out that double negative).  As much as I would have really loved to wear one of these dresses, I felt uncomfortable in them and self-conscious.  I tried to tell myself that wearing a dress l ike this would be good for me, that it would encourage/force me to feel better about my body because I would look SO HOT (or so I would like to have thought).  But in the end, I didn’t know whether buying a dress would really change a pattern of thought and self-perception that’s been built over too many years. And that’s the rub. And lub, and wrinkle, and bub.

Anyone feel drawn to a style of dress that didn’t end up working for you?