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In order to rival the ridiculous number of my posts re: paper, I am posting yet again about wedding dresses, so that you all know just how truly obsessed I am.
Gather ’round, kids, so I can tell you about my big revelation during dress shopping.
Is there “the one”? You know, “the one” dress that captivates your heart, the one that you must have, the one you feel like you wore every day in a past life and you were just meant to be together? I certainly thought there would be.
Would I just “know”?
Source (Kate looks like she knew, at least about the dress)
What is “just know”ing? That’s what some people say about finding your life mate. That you’ll just know. It is a very romantic idea and it may be true for some, but I dunno, I’m a little skeptical. I can’t tell you how many times that I or my friends have come away from a first date thinking, “Oh could [she/he] be the one?” Yes, mebbe we’re just crazy (we were all around 30, looking for Mr. Life Partner).
I was talking about dresses, wasn’t I? (I just had to post that cartoon, it is hi-LAR-rious.) By the third store or so, I had tried on far too many dresses to be able to think of one dress as my true, destined dress. There are thousands and thousands of dresses out there, new and used, at all different price points and new ones being issued from the runways every day.
(Do you really want to try on this many dresses??)
So while I didn’t have a moment where I broke down weeping when I found my dress, I had done enough research and shopping to feel confident in my choice. Maybe not such a magical, definable moment, but still magical that I’m going to wear a gown that makes me feel lovely, right?
How do you feel about “the one”, dress or otherwise? Did you “just know” about your dress or partner?
Don’t worry, I think I had something like 5 posts about my dress! We can be ridiculous together 
I was excited when I tried on ‘my’ dress the first time, but I didn’t think “THIS IS IT” and break down crying either… like you, I had to do more research and shopping to realize that I kept coming back to that one, so it must be ‘it’!
I definitely knew partner- wise…since just a few days of knowing one another I had said to my then roommate - Im going to marry this guy. And now, 4 years later, I will be! As far as the dress goes…I dont know if I got “THE” feeling that a lot of women say they get. I am in love with my dress, but Im sure I could have tried on many more dresses and fallen in love with them too! While I was wearing the gown in the shop (after only having tried on 5 dresses) I knew that this was the dress I wanted to get married in. But I questioned myself because I didnt cry, like they do on Say Yes to the Dress and I was like what if I need to try on more!? And she said to me…when your fiance proposed did you just know or did you have to think about it? HA! That sold it for me. Its not about finding the ONE dress as if there couldnt have been any other, its about finding the dress that works well for you, that your future husband will find you beautiful in and that makes you stand out in your venue. AH now I want to go to the salon and try on my dress again!!!
I didn’t just know. It was a beautiful dress still is, but there were probably three others that I tried on that I could have been just as happy with.
I’m always somewhat relieved when I find out about women who didn’t have the “THE DRESS” moment. I tried on a ton of dresses, found one that was good enough, and stopped shopping. Should I have kept on trying until I found THE ONE - I have no idea. But good lord, I was done shopping.
Oh pug…never fear, this was the case with me as well! You are not alone!
I never had a crying, tear-filled moment, either. I just kept thinking about how awesome it looked, so that’s how I knew. I still appreciate the beauty of other dresses (in fact, while bridesmaids dress shopping this weekend, I was tempted to try on other dresses, but restrained myself).
I haven’t gotten my dress yet but I’m pretty sure I know the one I’ll get and its the one, I cried when I wore it.
As for my FI I knew him for 9 years before I realized he was the one.
Haha, I actually shed a small tear when I bought my first dress that I ended up exchanging! No tears with my new dress but I love it so much more than the first.
I never had a crying moment either! I just spun around and giggled and floofed for a good 20 minutes. I far prefer that feeling to crying! :p
I just smiled a lot when I tried it on. I knew there were other beautiful dresses out there similar to what I wanted, but not in my price range. I haven’t once cheated on my dress!
I had the feeling for both the guy AND the dress but I wasn’t expecting to!
I “knew” almost immediately that FI was the one, and he felt the same way about me. It took about 5 more years to fully work out, but we couldn’t be happier.
I never felt that there was one dress out there that was “the one” at least not in my minscule price range. I made a decision to buy the dress that I loved, flattered my body shape, matched the type of wedding we wanted to have, and best of all, fit into my budget. And after a year, I tried it on again Christmas night (it’s being stored at g’mas) and I still love it!
No breaking the budget, or becoming a two dress bride for me!
i just knew with my guy. we’ll see how it works when i start looking for the dress.
@redherring: OMG. Same. Here. I was so ready to be finished shopping! I found a beautiful dress that I really liked, and that was it. I had tried on so many before the one I picked, and none of the others were quite as interesting and, well, “me” as this one, but there was no “this is it!” moment.
I knew right away with the guy. 
I feel like the sensation that one has found The Dress is partly due to the mental and physical exhaustion that accompanies the search… in direct parallel to finding The Perfect Mate… at some point, they all start to look pretty damn good…
I’m in the same boat! At every store I went to (six in total!) there were clear front-runners, but then it was hard choosing from all those! In the end, I chose the very first dress I tried on, since I realized I kept comparing all the others to it. Now I can’t wait to wear it!
tehehehe. Love love love that comic. I certainly hope I’ll have a “the one” moment … bc I’m as indecisive as anything!
I did not have the “The One” feeling–with The Hubs or with my dress. It was funny because when I was shopping for a dress, the sales consultant was like, “When you find the right one, you’ll know immediately, just like your fiance!” You should have seen her face when I said “Um…I didn’t decide I wanted to date him until about 9 years after I met him, so…” I’ve decided I’m just not the kind of person who gets gut feelings about stuff like that.
I’m not a ‘the one’ person too. Way too indecisive! I over-analyze everything and I am a perfectionist! I felt a little bullied into buying my dress by my mother and grandmother (b/c they know I am just the way I described above!) - it was a quick, on the spot decision - not like me at all! I had buyer’s remorse, but when I went home and ’shopped’ online, I felt good w/ my choice. It was beautiful and it would be great.
My FI knew right away w/ me…it took me more time (see above). I knew I liked him right away, but I have felt that way w/ other guys who I thought were ‘the one’ so, I just felt - if he is the one, it will work out. And it did
I definitely didn’t have a “The One” feeling with my dress. I kept asking my mom and sister, and they kept on replying with “Well, do YOU like it?” I just wanted someone to tell me that YES! That is The One! Not so easy…
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Mrs. Pug, New York City/Half Moon Bay, CA Age and Occupation: 33, Lawyer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 32, ditto Engagement Date: July 2008 Wedding Date: March 2010 Venue: Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay About Me: The Mr. and I are two 30-somethings who enjoy tasty sweets of all kinds, our neighborhood wine store, and cuddling with our pug. NYC is where we live and the city we love, but we’re doing the deed out in Northern California. We are trying to keep the affair small, intimate, and manageable. Our motto is: the less people, the better! (I’m kidding.)
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