A Whirlwind Romance

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Mid-October marked the one-year anniversary of the Buttons’ first date. Ah, so if you begin to do the math you realize”¦ Mr. Buttons and I have only been together for a little over a year at this point, and we’ve been engaged for 6 of those months. So yes”¦ we dated for only 8 months before he proposed!

I suppose you could say that we had a whirlwind romance, but nothing about it was rushed.

From the very start, Mr. Buttons and I clicked. Conversation came naturally, we share core values, and we were fortunate enough to have a lot of time to spend together because of our work schedules. Marriage came into consideration quicker than I would have normally expected, but it felt right, and we both knew that we’d found each other for a reason. And hey, when you know… you know!

In comparison to many of my friends/acquaintances’ relationships, I realize that this is a rather brief amount of time. I have had a good deal of skepticism pass my way since our engagement was announced, and I do try to take it in stride. My favorite is when people congratulate me/us and comment how much they can tell that we are in love, etc”¦ and then they ask the inevitable question”¦

“So, how long have you two been together?”

“Just a little over a year now”¦”

A look of confusion/surprise crosses over their faces, and I typically hear something like, “oh”¦wow!” or, “you didn’t waste much time, did you?”

Sigh.

So, this begs the question”¦how long is long enough to “know” that someone is the person you are meant to be with? Is there a specific amount of time that must elapse before you officially are bequeathed with the ability to determine this? Is there a little alarm clock that suddenly “goes off” in your head to let you know that enough time has passed, and you are officially allowed to consider marriage? I think not. Some couples are together for years before a proposal, some just a few months. My parents had a shorter courtship than Mr. Buttons and I did, and they have been happily married for years! And, on the flip side, I know other couples that were together for years before they were married, as well! That is the beauty of life, right? At least, I’d like to think so! Love comes in so many shapes and forms, and what is right for one person isn’t necessarily right for others.

I’d like to just throw it out there that I personally focus on how much my fiancé and I are in love, not the amount of time we’ve had together. If you have been with your significant other for years, and you are still as madly in love as the first time you met, that is fantastic! Or, if you have only been together for a short time and you are still feeling the butterflies”¦ that is wonderful, as well! I know I still get them when I see Mr. Buttons.

So”¦ here’s to love, in every way, shape, and form it comes in! Enjoy it.

How long have you been with your SO? Did anyone else have a whirlwind romance like Mr. Buttons and I did?

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Mrs. Buttons

Location:
Clearwater, FL
Wedding Date:
May 2010
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    Mrs. Cheeseburger 1020 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:43 pm

    Not in your camp (we dated for over 3 years before getting engaged), but I think when you know, you know. I for one am always so happy when people we love find others to spend the rest of their lives with… I think people tend to have issues with timing when it seems like less of a good match. Does that make sense? When two people are meant to be together and everyone knows it, it’s a great feeling for all involved!! :)

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    Ms. Library 1241 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:13 pm

    I have to give you a lot of props for withstanding all of the skepticism. That can be super tough. Mr. Library and I have been together for almost eight years, but we started dating as sophomores in high school, so getting engaged at that point would have been redoncuous. Good for you guys for knowing!

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    Anna, Guest @ 11:44 pm

    We had dated over two years by the time we got engaged, but I knew he was the man I was going to marry before we even officially went on a date! We were best friends for a long time, and one day it suddenly hit me that this was the man I was going to marry. I confessed my feelings, and we’ve been together ever since. It really does just happen, and when it’s right, it’s right.

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    Lanny9, Guest @ 12:58 am

    my guy proposed one week after we dated..which was one month after we first met. We are going to get married 1119 days after we got together, which is on 12202012.

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    Mrs. Buttons 5014 posts, Bee Keeper @ 7:42 am

    @Jess Lynne: “Love doesn’t know any time frame.” I love it….

    @Miss Cheeseburger: I think I know what you mean! When it is right, it just clicks…

    @Ms. Library: Thank you! We just shrugged our shoulders and moved on…haha!

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    Miss Chicken Wing 1225 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:02 pm

    @bree72: – I am with you, girl! Mr. Chicken Wing and I are “think it over” folks, too. But, I do think it’s an individual “knowing” that affects each couple differently.

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    LatteLove 5567 posts, Bee Keeper @ 12:24 pm

    Thanks for this! Hubby and I dated for 13 months before our 8 month long engagements, so we had been together just about the same amount of time you buttons will be by the time you get married. Our immediate circle never questioned it–we knew it was the right thing at the right time, but some of our vendors were like wow you’re young and you haven’t been together that long…are you sure?

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    Gardening Chef 15 posts, Newbee @ 12:32 pm

    Well if you ignore the year and a half we where friends before we started dating then yes I guess you could say we had a whirlwind.
    He had just gotten out of a relationship when i was home on Christmas break and he took the opportunity to ask me out. after I had got back to school, several states away we talked on the phone every day and were officially dating by the end of the month. two weeks later he told me he loved me and shortly there after we started having conversations about marriage. We share a lot of things in common from core values to he has the same personality type that I do except I’m an introvert and he’s an extrovert. July second we where at his parents when he took me out on a hike and proposed.
    Yeah I wondered about how fast it went for us to. I always thought I was one of those girls that would date a guy for at least a year before considering marriage. I guess if you meet the right person it goes much faster lol

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    Mrs. Cola 2827 posts, Sugar bee @ 7:00 pm

    I think there is no time line, you just know when you do! I knew about a month after we got together that I wanted to marry Mr. Cola, but then we dated almost 6 years before he actually proposed.

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    Jilian, Guest @ 12:30 pm

    We’re coming up on our 4 year anniversary of ‘meeting’ on IM this weekend… and will be celebrating 3 years of marriage at the end of April. YAY for the whirlwind effect :)

    We got engaged at about 10.5 months and married 4.5 months later! I think the short engagement is what had people a bit surprised in our case – but why wait!

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    Brandy, Guest @ 12:33 pm

    my husband and I were ‘dating’ for 3 months when he proposed! yup, 3 whole months… haha. But due to our jobs (Navy) it took us 3 years to make it down the alter… I think that made up for it :-)

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