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I’m not one to make New Year’s resolutions. I usually set goals for myself throughout the year and do my best to achieve them. But as 2009 comes to a close, I’ve spent a little time reflecting on how great this past year has been for me and what steps I can take to make it a year where I’ll remember the good things. Not every second was perfect. Some moments were down right impossible. But the magical moments overshadow the negative. Ultimately, my resolution is to cherish the positive moments that made up this past year and focus on moving forward into a lifetime of love and happiness. As a 2009 bride, there may have been a few little things I regret about our wedding, but, in an effort to move on, here are my resolutions:

• While it’s easy to get hung up on the people who didn’t show at our wedding, RSVP or not, I will focus on those who were there. Lucky and loved is the couple surrounded by people who would travel near and far to be there to celebrate one of the most important days of your life.
• Instead of focusing on what pictures of moments I think are missing from our photographer’s coverage (even though it’s probably only one or two—I understand that she couldn’t have be everywhere at all times), I’m going to be thankful for all of the photos I do have. I have only ever seen one picture from each of my grandparents’ weddings, so I know that even a single photo can tell a story.

• I will not let one person’s negative thoughts about my wedding change how I remember the day. If they didn’t like it or didn’t have a good time, it’s their own fault. Did I have a good time? Yes! And that is what’s worth remembering!
• I will forget about how the right song wasn’t played at the right time during our reception. Instead, I will be thankful there are songs that pull at my heart strings and made me want to hear them at our wedding. I also love how the same songs can remind me of our wedding day, even when I hear them months later.
• I won’t fret if the food wasn’t exactly as I had expected, but be grateful for an opportunity to treat family and friends to a delicious meal. For some of them, it may have been their best meal all year or sadly for a few, the last meal they shared in the company of family and friends.
• I will not focus on how my hair and makeup didn’t look very good at the end of the night. Instead, I will take pride in the fact that I had such a good time, and was able to focus on having such a good time, that my looks were the last thing on my mind when I was out on the dance floor doing the chicken dance, Hokey Pokey, running man and sprinkler. (Oh yeah, I totally did the sprinkler at our wedding.) I will consider my faded makeup and flat hair an achievement.
• We asked a select few to be a part of our wedding party for a reason, so I will be thankful to have them in our lives and strive to continue to keep them as close friends as life moves forward.
• The more I discuss things at the wedding that didn’t go as planned, the more they are brought to the attention of others who were otherwise clueless. From here on, I will only discuss the best parts!
• I realize that while our wedding may have been a highlight of our year, it wasn’t the only highlight of our year. I won’t let other important and noteworthy events and moments be buried under a heap of tulle, frosting and flowers.
• Each day brings something new to remind me of how lucky I am to have been the one he chose to marry. Even though our future is unpredictable, I know in my heart it will only get better. 2009 will always be remembered as the year I married my best friend and one true love, but moving forward, I resolve to make 2010, and every year to follow, even more memorable for us.

What are your resolutions for 2010?

Oh! One last thing! I resolve to start my wedding day recaps for Weddingbee in the new year! I got a CD in the mail from my photographer and promise to get started soon!