Weddingbee Blog

I knew that I wanted to include the Paebaek Ceremony in our wedding, and I was pretty much all set with a phone number I got from Mrs. Bee for her Paebaek folks, Rose Handicraft. I also knew a handful of friends who have used them and were happy with them. But my mom suggested I use an acquaintance of hers that owned a Paebaek business instead because she promised us a really good deal. I didn’t see any reason not to go with her, so I agreed.

Big mistake!

She never really gave us a discount. It would’ve cost the same, if not more than the Paebaek vendor that I wanted to use. And in my opinion, I thought Rose Handicraft had a better display. Also, the lady dressed me quickly and abrasively, as if we were in some kind of rush. She also jammed the headpiece through my hair, which really angered me. She even forgot to place the red stickers on my cheeks. I didn’t even realize it until the ceremony was half over because we were so rushed! But there really was no reason to rush - we did our Paebaek ceremony during cocktail hour, which we extended 15 minutes to make sure we had plenty of time to change in and out of our clothes and take our time to enjoy the ceremony. I never even got any shots of us getting ready for the ceremony, which was something I really wanted.

Also, because this person was an acquaintance, she gave my mom a hard time about not being invited to the wedding, and we were forced to eventually add them to our guest list. This is fine I guess, if we had enough time to plan ahead, but this happened about two weeks before the wedding. She chose to seethe about it in silence and waited until the last minute to complain about not being invited. There was absolutely nowhere to seat them with my parent’s friends, so we had to stick them in a table with my MIL’s guests. It was just unnecessary stress from a vendor, and so close to the wedding!

One good thing is that our photographer at Cly Creation got some great shots of the ceremony:

I particularly love this shot of my grandma throwing the chestnuts and dates at us.

Two daughters?

After the Paebaek ceremony, the groom is supposed to carry the bride on his back and walk around the table. But instead, Mr. Martini walked out of the room and across the hall into the middle of cocktail hour to surprise the guests!

This wasn’t planned, but it was one of my favorite moments of the day. I wanted to make the ceremony optional to our guests because I didn’t want to bore anyone with a ceremony that involved a lot of bowing, when instead they could be eating and drinking. Many guests didn’t even know it was going on. But when Mr. Martini walked through and said hello to all of our guests carrying me on his back, it gave us an opportunity to include them in the ceremony, without forcing them to endure it. And of course, who doesn’t love piggyback rides?

1. Putting our faces on
2. At The Venue, and the Case of the Missing Groomsman
3. The Details
4. Our First Moment
5. Wedding Party Portrait
6. Married to my Indiana