Love at The Ranch: Too Soon?

It’s only been three months since our rustic, ranch affair, but I think I might be ready to say goodbye. No, not to you, hive, and certainly not to Mr. Cowboy Boot, but to Julianna, my beloved, floating pool of ivory tulle. She originally came into my life in the Beverly Hills Saks Fifth Avenue and made me tingle, flit, and giggle like a school girl.

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I love her and adore her, but alas, she hangs there so lonesome and without any future plans in sight. In fact, I don’t really want to wear her again for fear of shaking off the significance of her debut.

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It’s hard to write this and face letting go of The Most Beautiful Dress I’ve Ever Owned. I feel like a little girl releasing her mother’s hand on the first day of Kindergarten–the separation anxiety is tangible.

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The reality is that my dress, by Christos, has been documented in the most meaningful way on my wedding day and nothing can change that. Not only has it been photographed with me in it as a blushing bride, but Mr. Cowboy Boot has painted me in it on a three-times life-size canvas which I promise to share with you upon its completion.

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It would make me happy to see another bride have her own blissful day in this ballerina-like dress and I would also find some peace of mind to know that I’d be lessening the impact on the planet (even if it’s just one dress). Not to mention my credit card will smile.

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To be honest, I’m scared. I’m nervous to watch her float out of my grasp, like a balloon slipped from its string. But, I’m also scared of the financial debt she’s incurred (even if it’s minimal over a lifetime). I tripled my dress budget when I found her, agreeing to pay the extra myself, but I never did. I never had that extra cash flow.

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So, hive, tell me: would you sell your dress to make up for a few grand or would you keep it for a sentimental twirl down the road?

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Mrs. Cowboy Boot

Location:
Santa Fe
Wedding Date:
October 2009
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    Serendipity 10356 posts, Sugar Beekeeper @ 11:12 pm

    Keep it for now! You can always decide a year from now to sell it if you feel like you’re more ready to say goodbye!

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    canegirl08 158 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:30 pm

    I think it is cathartic to sell it. It helps you move forward past the wedding and into the marriage. You can ear-mark the funds for something fun on your anniversary or something special. Also, think of how much it will mean to someone else to receive your dress and have their own special day! I’m more about saving your veil than your dress because veils can be used more (communion dresses, made into other veils) more so than a dress can be worn again.

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    Mrs. Mouse 4928 posts, Honey bee @ 11:52 pm

    You’re absolutely right. The dress served its purpose and it was perfect. I think you should let it go to someone else who will love it and put a little money in your wallet. :)

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    Kat, Guest @ 12:02 am

    Definitely keep it. If you think it needs to be worn again by a future bride, consider how wonderful it would feel to see it on someone you love….a family member, your daughter, etc…)

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    slicey19 3500 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:14 am

    I LOVE your dres and it was perfect for your wedding but I vote sell it. From the tone of your post, it seems like you already made the decision to sell. You can always list it and if you don’t get your asking price don’t sell.

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    espresso 1308 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:21 am

    Your dress is so beautiful Mrs CB. I can imagine how hard it is to part with. I wanted to sell mine as well but Mr. E doesn’t want me to. So for now she sits in the back of the closet… I must admit that I felt bad for her once though so I slipped her on to do my make- up one morning… so embarrassing ;)

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    msbuttons 5014 posts, Bee Keeper @ 12:22 am

    What a tough choice…I honestly am unsure of what I will do with mine once the day is said and done. Currently, I plan on holding on to it for a few years until Mr. Buttons and I start a family. If there happens to be a girl involved…I might be tempted to keep it…

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    hamster 4047 posts, Honey bee @ 1:07 am

    Aw – your dress is stunning, and I could imagine how tough it must be to consider parting with it!

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    Carrie, Guest @ 2:29 am

    I’ve really struggled with this one too. I wanted to be the person who could say yes this dress had its day and now to find a new bride to enjoy it. But when I thought about the idea of selling it and having someone else wear it felt like this huge loss. It really feels like the dress is a part of me, even thoug I wore it for a short time – some sort of youthful maiden skin that I shed and I can’t bear the thought that it will be kept in someone else’s attic as their memory when it has this original past with me.

    In many ways I struggle in the same way with changing my name. I want to just up and change it and be able to have the same name and be able to by “the E’s”. But I just can’t convince myself to do it, feels too scary.

    Maybe in a year this transition will be more complete and I’ll be ready to change my name and sell the dress, don’t know.

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    eileen marie 1644 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:50 am

    Your dress was stunning on you-even strapless :) (and they said it couldn’t be done!). I am having the same problem-my dress is ready at the cleaners, and I am reluctant to pick it up b/c it means I have to sell it. :( I will never wear it again (I have toyed with replacing the ivory silk skirt with a black one sans train to make an evening gown, but it would be very expensive. Plus I can’t bear the idea of altering Reem Acra’s beautiful vision.) Keeping it would depend not only on my having a daughter, but one that would want to wear it. Why not be green, make a little green & sell it to a bride who does want to wear it.

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    dani25000 61 posts, Worker bee @ 7:23 am

    Miss Cowboy boots, I have to tell you how beautiful you looked on your wedding day! Your dress, accessories…. everything was so elegant. I agree with past posters that you have wonderful memories in the pictures and paintings from that day. There are many things that you can pass down to your children to wear on thier wedding day such as your jewelry or your hair flowers.

    My mother saved her gown, and while it was fun to try it on, I chose not to wear it. Styles change so much, and I even considered using the fabric for something on my day. Ultimately I found the one at a bridal salon and went that route. I love the idea of using it for a christaning gown, and I have heard of some people altering it into a dress for the rehearsal dinner. But ultimately I think styles change sooo much and these options become very expensive.

    I would sell it. I think that for years it will sit and collect dust only to be tried on one time. Maybe your daughter will wear it but if not then you had several thousands of dollars sitting in the back of your closet! Good luck with your choice!

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    Ms. Library 1241 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:31 am

    Keep it! It’s just too pretty and perfect!

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    Lauren, Guest @ 8:06 am

    I’m such a sap, but I would TOTALLY keep it. Totally. I’ve creepily followed your wedding and when you bought it I was so thrilled — it was like made for you! So, keep it for me! {or you know, people who actually mean something to you, sisters, daughters, nieces, etc.}

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    msswan 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:08 am

    You looked so gorgeous in your dress, and the dress itself is so beautiful. While I loved my dress, it is far from designer, so I think I will be donating it. If I felt like I could get a return on my investment for it, I would consider selling.

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    crebre80 10729 posts, Sugar Beekeeper @ 8:49 am

    I definitely say it may not be your time to part with it, give yourself some time before you decide :D . But I’m on team sell, it could create a great moment for the two of you such as a weekend get a way or something like that.

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    Dayna, Guest @ 9:43 am

    I sold my dress pretty quickly after my wedding. It was great to have some extra cash on hand to make other purchases that I needed (like a new computer), and it makes me satisified to know that I made wonderful memories in a gorgeous dress that in the end only cost me about $300. And after meeting with the girl who bought my dress, I was ecstatic about the fact that she too looked beautiful in the dress and that she would be able to have a great day while still sticking to her budget.

    The thought of a daughter in the future went through my mind, but then I think about the fact that I didn’t wear my mother’s dress because it simply was very old fashioned, and I guess I’m excited about the fact that if I do have a daughter she’ll get to pick a dress that is uniquely her. I did keep my hairpiece and jewelry, and I think that those may be much easier to pass down to her for her wedding day.

    Good luck with the decision; I know it’s a difficult one. I have absolutely no regrets about selling mine.

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    HereComesTheSun 363 posts, Helper bee @ 9:50 am

    Oh gosh, I don’t know if I have it in me to sell mine when the time comes.

    I’m playing with the idea of preserving it so that my daughter one day will have the choice to wear it. Though, I’m sure she’ll be much taller than me (thanks to his genes) so I’m not sure that’s possible.

    That dress is gorgeous on you. So amazing.

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    Goldilocks1107 2684 posts, Sugar bee @ 10:02 am

    I’m planning to sell mine – I thought about preserving it for any future daughters. But then I remembered looking at my mom’s wedding pictures and being horrified at the thought of maybe being asked to wear it someday. But, I think I will have a firm price that I want to get back. If I can’t get that price, I can’t let it go.

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    Melissa, Guest @ 10:47 am

    that dress is beautiful!!!! I see your dilemma… if for some reason you decide to sell it, i’d be interested :)

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    cwamack 29 posts, Newbee @ 10:58 am

    I absolutely LOOVEE your dress and the story behind it… if I were you, I would definitely keep it in hopes that it can be passed down a generation. A dress like yours is beautiful and timeless and has a special meaning to both of you I’m sure.

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    locket 2821 posts, Sugar bee @ 11:06 am

    I loved your dress on you!!! You were absolutely stunning in it and literally made me gasp when I saw your first look pics. I would say do what feels right….I can’t see myself selling mine, but I still have clothes from highschool that are in storage somewhere. I plan to keep mine because I hope that on day my daughter can where it..I feel like mine has a timeless design, but you never know….I also like the idea that one day my grandkids will look at my dress. I remember all the times my sister and I would play dress up with my grandmas dress and dream of the day we would marry in it…(only trouble was grandma was a tiny size 2)

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    Dandelily 1 posts, Wannabee @ 11:31 am

    Your dress is GORGEOUS on you, btw. Moreso than the model that wore it.

    Perhaps you can have the dress replicated (for memories sake) and sell the original :D

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    sprinkle 542 posts, Busy bee @ 11:39 am

    i am trying to decide what to do with mine. it is hanging, unwashed, in the back of my closet. it had a ton of alterations so i don’t know how sell-able it is.

    good luck with whatever you choose!

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    cowboyboot 434 posts, Helper bee @ 12:04 pm

    @Janice: Hi Janice. PM me if you are really interested and we can chat. I’m still mulling over the decision but if it ends up being serendipitous, I just might sell it.

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    Miss Chicken Wing 1225 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:07 pm

    Ah, one of the toughest debates! I’m 1,000% on the fence about this one, and could make extremely strong arguments for each – I’m sure you’ve already done the same. I know that what to do will come to you in time. Decisions like this affects everybody differently. What I can definitively say is that I cannot wait to see the painting!

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    cowboyboot 434 posts, Helper bee @ 12:14 pm

    @Melissa: Hey Melissa, Feel free to PM me too if you are interested. I’d be happy to discuss it with you and see what happens.

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    alishaneva 2152 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:14 pm

    I really think selling the wedding dress would be a fantastic idea for any bride. It would eliminate one more thing from hanging in your closet, lifeless, only to be never worn again and I could seriously imagine another bride LOVING your dress. It’s gorgeous – and you do have the memories, photos and that painting I’m excited to see … so, do you really need the dress itself?

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    Ms. Mojito 399 posts, Helper bee @ 2:01 pm

    First, I adore your dress. Like you, I also went over budget to get my gown. Lately, I have been thinking alot about what to do with it after the wedding. Part of me wants to sell it to make up for some of the extra $$$, but the other part is afraid I won’t be able to let it go. Although, selling it to someone else is a way to let another bride make memories of her own. Really conflicted on this one-good luck with your decision! :-D

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    Melissa, Guest @ 2:15 pm

    Ms. Cowboy Boot- I am brand new to this site and am not sure what “PM” means. But i’d be happy to discuss with you!

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    frenchbulldog 1088 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:12 pm

    I would totally sell my dress if I didn’t think Mama Frenchie would be crushed.

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    abbersnail, Guest @ 12:12 am

    Mrs. Cowboy Boot, if you’re looking for a buyer who would be in love with your dress, email me. I’ve swooned over it on this site and Tec’s.

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    KellyV 2520 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:39 pm

    I can NOT part with my dress. It wasnt ever an option for me, Ill grasp teh “maybe my daughter will wear it” idea until she (if I even have one) says no. I know the feeling though. Sigh

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    voomie24 101 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:20 pm

    I definitely can’t part with it. I love it and I want to do another photo shoot with the husband in our wedding gear (it was rainy the day of our wedding so we didn’t get any fun outdoor shots). Plus my lovely niece has already said she would love to have a dress like mine someday …. thats enough justification for me. : )

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    binza14 341 posts, Helper bee @ 3:08 pm

    I’m too sentimental. I already dream of my (yet non-existent) daughter wearing it someday.

    I think I’m going to fall on the floor dead when I see the painting your husband is doing. I already can’t even look at any of your pictures without crying, so that really will be the end of me. But I can’t wait.

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    sbeedesign 130 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:56 pm

    Gorgeous dress! I would love to purchase the floral sash if you decide to sell. Thanks!

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    Gingers 55 posts, Worker bee @ 11:24 pm

    love your dress, I was wondering if you decided to sell it or keep I will be very interested.

    please let me know

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    cowboyboot 434 posts, Helper bee @ 9:12 am

    @Gingers: Hi Gingers. I have decided to sell my dress. Thank you for checking in. She’s listed on OnceWed: http://www.oncewed.com/24984/used-wedding-dresses/christos/size-2/julianna/. Let me know if this sounds like what you’re looking for.

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