Weddingbee Blog

Once upon a time, in a land approximately 479 miles away (according to Google Maps) there were two young girls. Let’s call them Rainy (hmm, who could that be?) and Kate. Rainy and Kate met at cheer camp when they were around 14. They knew each other through Rainy’s then boyfriend, let’s call him Toad. Toad was is a manipulative, sociopathic, pathological liar, but that’s beside the point, at least for now. Anyway…

Rainy and Kate had a love/hate friendship, like most girls of that age do. They’d be great friends for a few weeks, then hate each other for a few weeks, then go back to being great friends again. After a little while, Rainy and Toad broke up, and Rainy distanced herself from Toad, Kate, and everyone else in that social circle.

A few years later, Rainy found herself at a new school, which just so happened to be the school that Kate and Toad were now attending. Somewhere in that time, Kate and Toad found themselves in a relationship. Rainy didn’t mind, as she had lost touch with both of them, and never gave it a second thought. Unbeknownst to Rainy (at the time), Kate and Toad had a very tumultuous relationship, never staying together for more than a few weeks at a time.

Around the end of their senior year, Kate and Rainy rekindled their friendship.

Kate and Rainy were fast friends, and were seemingly past their love/hate relationship. They did all the things that girlfriends do; complained about boyfriends, went shopping, went to parties together, etc.

When Rainy moved to Florida and found her Prince Charming, Kate and Rainy’s friendship only got stronger. They would talk on the phone almost every day, and when Toad would break up with Kate (virtually every other week) and tell Kate that she was “too easy” and “just a game to him”, Rainy was always there waiting for her phone to ring, ready to listen and talk and sometimes give Kate advice. Eventually Kate and Toad broke up for what seemed like the last time.

When Rainy got engaged, one of the first people she called was Kate. They both laughed and squealed, and Kate was excited about assuming her position as Maid of Honor. Rainy and Prince Charming quickly and excitedly asked their closest friends and family to be in their bridal party, but soon, it would prove to be too much. Too much stress and hassle and difficulty. So, Rainy and Prince Charming broke the news to their friends and family—the bridal party would be no more.

Everyone seemed fine with the decision at the time, but Rainy would soon find out that one person seemed to have more of a problem with it than others—Kate. With the exception of Kate’s, “Alright,” response to the news, Rainy hadn’t heard from Kate for months. It seemed that Kate and gotten back together with Toad, and now that she was no longer in the bridal party and apparently no longer having issues with her sociopathic boyfriend, Toad, she apparently saw no need to speak to Rainy anymore. She wasn’t concerned with Rainy’s life, and it suddenly seemed like she never was. Rainy was always there to listen to Kate, but in hindsight, Kate was never there to listen to Rainy when she was having problems. It was a one-sided friendship, which had made itself extremely apparent.

Rainy was sad at first, then angry, and the last time Rainy heard from Kate was through a text message that said, “Did you delete me from your Facebook?” Rainy didn’t respond, hasn’t responded, and is still not quite sure if she should respond.

Have you lost a friend in the midst of wedding planning? What happened?