Tears of Joy

Tears of Joy

January 19th, 2010 @ 12:19 pm by Mrs. Cheeseburger
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I’m an emotional person. I cry. I cry at movies, when I’m happy, when I’m sad, when I laugh really hard. I have no doubt that I will cry on our wedding day. In fact, I’m pretty much certain, considering I cried at our ceremony music run-through.

As we stood in the church that we will be married in very, very soon, and our organist began to play Canon, the song that I will walk down the aisle to, the tears welled up in my eyes and started to fall. I pictured myself staring down that aisle to Burger. I pictured myself finally becoming his wife. It was surreal.

And the emotion didn’t stop there. When our cantor sang the many solos she will perform at our ceremony, especially Ave Maria, I cried some more. It was incredibly beautiful.

I think I cried for a lot of reasons. For one, because the music was so amazing.

Also, because I was in the environment that I’m going to be married in, staring into the eyes of the man I’m going to marry. But really, I think it was because I actually spent a whole hour thinking entirely about our marriage. Our marriage. I have been spending too much time planning our wedding, that it felt very nice to remember what it’s really all about.

With this in mind, I’ve resolved to a lot spend more time focusing on why this celebration is happening in the first place - because Burger and I are becoming husband and wife! With a little over 2 months to go, I’m going to relish every moment, and spend a lot of time reflecting on what joy our wedding day is going to bring - to our families, to our friends, and to us!

Amid all the stress of planning the wedding, were you able to reflect on the big picture? What helps remind you of what the wedding is really all about?

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Miss Pencils (message) 1,027 posts, Bumble bee

ahh, Mr. P reminds me every time I get close to wedding-freak-out-mode. I tear up with canon though too…:)

1/19/10 @ 12:29 pm (reply)

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jennybirdy (message) 354 posts, Helper bee

One of those moments for me happens when I go to bed at night next to my FI. I’m reminded that the comfort and the security that I feel is going to be there for a lifetime. It really puts my wedding planning stress in perspective!

1/19/10 @ 12:36 pm (reply)

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CorgiTales (message) 9,861 posts, Bee Keeper

My mantra whenever the “details” are driving me crazy is “as long as I end up married… nothing else matters” haha.

1/19/10 @ 12:40 pm (reply)

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Miss Trail Mix (message) 6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

hahaha, i’m totally a crier too, I’m going to bawl like a baby through our entire wedding!

1/19/10 @ 12:40 pm (reply)

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Jessie516 (message) 5,480 posts, Bee Keeper

I think you’re so smart to try to focus on the Big Picture and end results of the wedding. It’s a good thing to think about when the details stress you out! I’m a crier too, and I really expected to be sobbing on the wedding day. However, I was shocked that I didn’t shed a tear–I just couldn’t stop smiling the whole time.

1/19/10 @ 12:52 pm (reply)

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Ms. Library (message) 1,250 posts, Bumble bee

I have found that I cry over so much more now that I am planning the wedding. Mr. Library likes to tease me about it. There are just so many positive emotions!

1/19/10 @ 12:55 pm (reply)

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Miss Pug (message) 3,753 posts, Honey bee

music can stir such emotions, can’t they? i’m glad you had this reminder–and thank you for sharing it with us!

1/19/10 @ 1:01 pm (reply)

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eileen marie (message) 1,662 posts, Bumble bee

You’re using a lot of the same (traditional) music that we did. Our wedding really was one of the happiest days of my life, & I thought when it was over (especially after we returned from honeymoon) that I would experience this huge let down, but no… the stress (and fun-boo) of planning is gone, & I can cherish the marriage I now share with this man.

1/19/10 @ 1:15 pm (reply)

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bunnylovesbear (message) 1,726 posts, Bumble bee

I bawl like a big baby at every wedding I attend, whether I am close to the couple or not. I cried at a wedding of one of my bf’s friends that I had only met once when we first started dating, and I cried at my best friend’s wedding last March. It’s a given to everyone that knows me that I will be a blubbering mess at my own wedding!! Hopefully it will be sweet, and not a total freakshow! HA!

Anyways, I do think it is important to be able to sit back and cherish the big picture of your marriage, and not just the small details of planning.

1/19/10 @ 1:19 pm (reply)

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Jesso (message) 277 posts, Helper bee

ah i LOVED my music run-through too! so wonderful. but on the actual day, i was totally in another world and really dont remember actually hearing any of it!! (the organist actually warned me about that, he said something like “i could play happy birthday when you walk down the aisle and you would never know!” lol and he was right). but my husband (who wasnt able to come to the music run-through) said hearing the music on the actual day was so amazing, and one of his favorite parts, so at least one of us got to enjoy it

1/19/10 @ 1:20 pm (reply)

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Miss French Fries (message) 2,218 posts, Buzzing bee

I’m totally going to cry…I can feel it in my bones! I’m emotional, too.

1/19/10 @ 1:37 pm (reply)

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Miss Elephant (message) 6,182 posts, Bee Keeper

I’m a crier too, and whenever I’m stressing about the wedding planning, I just look over to my FI (normally my planning is done on the couch while he watches tv or plays a game) and think about the day after the wedding and every day after that.

1/19/10 @ 1:46 pm (reply)

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Miss Chapstick (message) 2,098 posts, Buzzing bee

Let it all out, Miss Cheeseburger!

I’m not usually a crier, but during the days leading up to our wedding, I had a lot of pent up happy emotions running through me. During our rehearsal dinner, looking around at all these amazing people who supported us whole-heartedly during our lives and marriage, I just burst out crying. People thought something was wrong, and I had to make the “These are tears of joy!” speech as people from other tables overlooked, awfully concerned why the bride-to-be was in a tearful wreck. I found once I let it all out and run its course, I felt so much better.

I envy people that can just live in the moment and cry when they feel like it. Power to ya!

1/19/10 @ 1:54 pm (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

I’m not much of a crier, but I’m totally going to cry during the ceremony, I just know it!

1/19/10 @ 1:59 pm (reply)

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Miss Pretzel (message) 1,893 posts, Buzzing bee

I cry, end of story.

1/19/10 @ 2:00 pm (reply)

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ChiDIY (message) 184 posts, Blushing bee

I, like Miss Pretzel, Cry. Yes, with a capital C.

1/19/10 @ 2:02 pm (reply)

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Miss Frozen Yogurt (message) 2,685 posts, Sugar bee

I’m a crier too. And yes, I’ve definitely tried to make a point of reframing my thinking and realizing what this whole wedding thing is about anyway. Although, I have to admit that sometimes I still get caught up in the wedding planning part.

1/19/10 @ 2:11 pm (reply)

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miss fancy pants (the bride)

Haha I’m a ridiculous crier as well. And I had a similar experience to yours in the church during the first visit to my family’s summer cottage following the decision to use it as the location of our wedding ceremony. Although I’d been there a thousand times before, being there with the knowledge that in a year I’d be getting married in the very same spot I was standing was pretty overwhelming.

As far as reminding myself what the wedding is really about, I just talk to my fiance. He’s so much less caught up in the planning aspect that he’s been able to remind me what it’s really about.

1/19/10 @ 2:18 pm (reply)

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HereComesTheSun (message) 363 posts, Helper bee

Not a crier but Cannon in D does it to me every time.

It is banned from our wedding

1/19/10 @ 3:11 pm (reply)

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Ms. Mojito (message) 399 posts, Helper bee

Thank you..thank you, thank you for this post!! I have been feeling stressed and just really overwhelmed with all of the details. This is a great reminder to just remember what its all about.

1/19/10 @ 3:16 pm (reply)

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