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I have made a few jokes here and there about Mr. Pug’s non-involvement in the wedding planning process.
Here’s an example:
The product of me furiously stamping and hand-addressing one afternoon—a cascade of pretty envelopes, just waiting to be stuffed!
Contrast with:
The image I saw when I turned around to show Mr. Pug my handiwork.
Basically, we’re not one of those couples whose planning relationship allows me to say:
“It was so great to have a groom who was interested in the wedding, it made us grow closer” or
“It was truly a collaborative effort, and so special—next, we get to work on our family!” or
“He really wanted to have a [insert great idea] for the wedding, so he researched and came up with [insert plan], and then he went to the [garage/work room/studio/what have you], and created this great [wedding item] with [materials bought from Home Depot] and a [power tool]!”
Sigh. It sounds like I’m making fun of these sentiments, but if anything I’m a wee bit jealous. These are awesome sentiments (my hats off to those couples and those crafty grooms!), but since it’s not going to happen in this household, our Miss Pug-driven wedding actually works for me just fine. How exactly does that play out? I’ll give you some examples next time.
What kind of working relationship do you have with your spouse-to-be?
I call Ribs over the computer and say, “do you like it?” and he’ll be all “it’s great!” and then trots back to the couch to watch Dr. Who. I’m slowly learning not to even ask. ha.
About the same here! I couldn’t stop thanking him for tying a few bows on our programs and measuring a few of our menus, until I remembered that I did just about everything else without any assistance from him at all. 
FI will get super excited about a project, INSIST that he do it and then… forget 
He’s an idea guy, I tend to do the doing.
Yea my guy doesn’t care much about the details but I’m pretty okay with that. It means I get exactly what I want
I get a little annoyed at times of how much of my free time is being spent doing planning, and how my FI has none basically nothing besides worry about his outfit for the wedding. But I’m also a control freak, so I think that I could be giving him stuff and I’m not so the only person to blame for that might be me :).
it’s about the same here..he just says..”put all the idea pics in a folder on the laptop and then show me” but when i do show him he is like ok..looks fine..FINE?! whatever happened to, not it’s ugly..or yea i really like that! ha!
My fiance is a lot like yours!! He’s a very frugile man so whenever I mention projects or fun ideas, his response is always “Do we really need it?” Because of this, he’s in charge of one thing and that is what him and his groomsmen are going to wear. We decided this at the beginning of our wedding planning and it has worked out GREAT! I love being in charge of it all!
Mr Frenchie was very involved in some things and could care less about others… some times it was nice when he cared and sometimes I wished he didn’t so I could do what I wanted hahaha
I’m the total opposite - I pretty much flat-out refused to do all the work. If he doesn’t do it, he doesn’t get it. Right now, I’m in charge of research because he’s really busy with school, but no hard work is getting done until he’s done with his big giant research paper in the spring.
Once we get around to doing everything we need to do, he’ll be… involved, but mostly in the “stuffing envelopes” kind of way.
Mr. Star was really involved, but only on things that I specifically asked him to help with, otherwise I don’t think it ever would have occurred to him!
My fiance is the exact same way! Except he’s napping on the couch with a husky instead of a pug. He’s appreciative of all my efforts, but doesn’t *quite* understand why we need tissue paper pomanders to decorate the ceremony site, or place cards for the reception, or welcome bags for our out of town guests. He’s 100% on board with the major stuff, though, like meeting our officiant and talking enthusiastically about why he wants to marry me. So I guess that’s enough for me!
So far, Mr. FF hasn’t done much of the heavy lifting. He’s given my opinion when I’ve asked for it, and has asked if he can help, but there hasn’t been much for him to do (yet!).
I’m definitely the one that executes all things planning, while she simply looks and approves. It works rather well for us though, since my severe tendency to be overly-perfect at all times is definitely coming through with wedding plans. Can we say someone has a bit of OCD?
haha, we try to be partners…and Mr. P def has been very involved…but mostly it’s my perfectionism that holds him back from doing more. As in, while I was printing the envelopes for the invites-feeding them through, one at a time, painstakingly, he was alphabetizing them- because he could. that kind of partnership
@Miss Ribbons: heehee, mr. pug watched an all-day marathon of dr. who on new year’s day
@Miss Spaniel: i know, i feel like i have to be super thankful when he sends me addresses for guests!
@Rosiebear: that’s funny.
@CorgiTales: @KMSull: @Colette27: @Miss French Fries: @dsuhornets: @Ainsilie:yep, i’m with you guys!
@dookie32: i know, i feel like if i give him anything, it won’t necessarily get done!
@Miss Sewing: i know, i can’t really blame him for that
@Mrs. French Bulldog: @Mrs. Star: oh, that’s nice that they got involved!
I’ll ask Mr. GP’s opinion on something but then immediately regret it when he wants something completely different - ha! In terms of actually executing projects though, it’s all me. Although like Miss Pencils, sometimes my perfectionism prevents me from letting him help!
My fiance is almost too involved, but we are project managers by heart, so I knew he would be apart of the planning process from the beginning. Unfortunately, this doesn’t always work out for me because I don’t get my way sometimes
Our planning method was just like your’s: I did everything, he did nothing. I’m a control freak though, so it’s probably for the best.
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Mrs. Pug, New York City/Half Moon Bay, CA Age and Occupation: 33, Lawyer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 32, ditto Engagement Date: July 2008 Wedding Date: March 2010 Venue: Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay About Me: The Mr. and I are two 30-somethings who enjoy tasty sweets of all kinds, our neighborhood wine store, and cuddling with our pug. NYC is where we live and the city we love, but we’re doing the deed out in Northern California. We are trying to keep the affair small, intimate, and manageable. Our motto is: the less people, the better! (I’m kidding.)
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