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January 22nd, 2010 @ 2:30 pm by Mrs. Pug
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For 32 years of my life, I absolutely did not want children. I know I’m not alone in this. Walking through crowds of children at a museum or on Halloween would literally make my heart beat faster and send involuntary shivers up my spine. When I thought of children, this is what I would picture:

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Natalie Dee

Lest you think I’m an ogre for disliking children, let me explain that my feelings came more from a fear of failure in my ability to raise children:

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I was very blunt about my feelings with Mr. Pug when we started dating. As time went on, sometimes, just for kicks, I would mention something about having children and if he responded affirmatively—as in, going along with my purported assumption that we would have kids one day—I would whip around, point my finger at him and yell, “YOU FAILED! You failed the test! You DO want kids, how dare you!”

Notice that this post has been in the past tense. About a year ago, I started to consider the possibility of having children. I’ll explain more about why I started to have a change of heart in my next post, but until then here’s an example of how my attitude began to change–slooowly change.

Me: Mr. Pug, wouldn’t it be cute if one day we could be walking around Central Park with our kid?
Mr. Pug: (pause, looking into my eyes to see whether loving or crazy me has shown up)… Yes, that would be nice.
Me: So you want one? Really? (smiling sweetly)
Mr. Pug: (feeling relaxed) Yeah, I want to have kids with you.
Me: Do you want me to be pregnant and unhappy and miserable?
Mr. Pug: No, no, no, what are you talking about?
Me: Alright then, listen carefully, because I’m only gonna say this once, and in code. Second pug. Puppy. Now. Don’t ask questions, just do it.

Incidentally, we did get a second pug. Boy, I guess Mr. Pug really wants kids.

Kids : wedding family pets 15 1

Kids : wedding family pets 23 2

What do you prefer, pets or children? Okay no really, if you want kids, have you always wanted kids? And if you don’t want kids, are you on the same page as your partner?

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40 Responses to “Kids”

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Bee

Miss Spaniel (message) 6,792 posts, Bee Keeper

Get out of my head, Pug.

1/22/10 @ 2:49 pm (reply)

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CorgiTales (message) 9,861 posts, Bee Keeper

lol when i started dating FI I did NOT want kids and he DID. So we ignored the issue and would hint. and hint and hint. Fast forward 3 years. I think I want kids… and he thinks he doesn’t. Sigh. lol

1/22/10 @ 2:52 pm (reply)

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Sage (message) 728 posts, Busy bee

The FI’s biological clock is ticking. I think mine might need new batteries. I’d rather have more pit bulls.

1/22/10 @ 2:57 pm (reply)

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tea (message) 7,263 posts, Bee Keeper

lol how cute! i don’t think i always wanted kids but i do want some. i just hope they aren’t too much like i was as a kid! whooo boy

1/22/10 @ 3:01 pm (reply)

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lovelii (message) 188 posts, Blushing bee

i used to think people who never want kids were stupid, dont ask why lol but then as time went by, i started thinking i dont want any myself so maybe im stupid as well haha. but after my ex and then bein with my FI for a while, i thought “hey, we’d make some cute babies” lol.. im back to wanting kids, i guess i always knew i’d have them, just was at points where i wanted to fight it lol.. last year we got two puppies and they are just like children, i baby them just like kids, but for now they are our ONLY children lol..

1/22/10 @ 3:10 pm (reply)

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lemondrop (message) 1,193 posts, Bumble bee

LOLOLOL- love the pug story! That cracked me up.

Yes, we both have always wanted kids and are on the same page- as soon as I have an insurance card in hand, we are getting started.

1/22/10 @ 3:20 pm (reply)

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Goldilocks1107 (message) 2,504 posts, Sugar bee

Oh man, we finished our baby negotiations (I think). We were both on the “yeah, kids” bandwagon. Then it came down to numbers. I’m like: 1 please. He’s like: How about 4.
Whoa, what?!? 4? You need man-on-man defense for kids - they can’t outnumber you! So, I’m pretty sure we’ve settled on 2. If having 1 goes really poorly (i.e. I’m miserable for 9 months), baby #2 may be adopted, because it would take a lot of diamonds to convince me to go through another 9 months of torture. But, if it goes well, then the amount of convincing will probably be less

1/22/10 @ 3:21 pm (reply)

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JessicaRae1282 (message) 10 posts, Newbee

Always wanted kids, no kids as of yet but we do have 2 furbabies. Check out http://www.pregosaur.com/ blog and particularly read Bibliosaur’s profile (friend of mine) a self proclaimed reformed “baby hater” now pg with twins.

1/22/10 @ 3:26 pm (reply)

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Miss Sewing (message) 2,701 posts, Sugar bee

Well that’s one way to convice the Mr. of new pets! Mr. Sew only likes children of a certain age. Like, from 3 to 8. Newborns and attitudey-preteens aren’t his thing. lol. Though one day in the far off future we think we’ll be able to cross that bridge. I think he’ll have to try babysitting some kids for a while first though, to get some skillz. lol.

1/22/10 @ 3:29 pm (reply)

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Hobochic (message) 183 posts, Blushing bee

My husband and I knew each other for seven years before we started dating. Prior to our second date I decided it was time to cyber stalk him! Of course, back then, you cyber stalked…and ended up finding a myspace page - with no info on it except a name and age. Except on HIS it said his name, age and ‘I don’t want kids!’. I was crushed. But we were long time friends, so I felt like I needed to address this issue quickly as not to hurt our friendship if we weren’t on the same page. So, I brought it up - on our second date! He thought I was forward…and a bit creepy for bringing it up that soon. He did in fact want kids, but uh, maybe not on our second date. Well, spoiler alert, do you know what the default setting is for myspace? ‘I don’t want kids’. Oh, ha. When I looked at my own page (b/c you need to set one up if you are going to stalk others!), I saw that I also didn’t want kids. Oops!

1/22/10 @ 3:29 pm (reply)

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Miss French Fries (message) 2,217 posts, Buzzing bee

I’ll say it again: you’re hilarious, Pug. As for your question…yes, we both want kids. Possibly several. I always tell Mr. FF (jokingly) that we’ll see how #1 goes before committing to any others.

1/22/10 @ 3:30 pm (reply)

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teaadntoast (message) 2,595 posts, Sugar bee

Heh.

I’m more the “awesome Auntie” type. Fortunately, FI has lots of siblings and no desire to actively procreate.

1/22/10 @ 3:45 pm (reply)

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Bee

Miss Frozen Yogurt (message) 2,685 posts, Sugar bee

I’m freaked out about my parenting abilities too. But I still really want kids. Is that selfish??

1/22/10 @ 3:47 pm (reply)

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moderndaisy (message) 6,607 posts, Bee Keeper

I always used to until I got to my late 20’s and realized what it is ACTUALLY like having kids. All of my older siblings have kids. My friends are getting pregnant. The parents are always exhausted, uninterested, broke and miserable. I just cant’ justify living like that for 18 (or more) years just because I thought I should procreate.

1/22/10 @ 3:49 pm (reply)

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Miss Rainbow (message) 1,534 posts, Bumble bee

#1. I DO like dogs more than I like children. About, a million times more. And two, I have no clue but I’m leaning more toward “hell no”, and so is Mr. Rainbow.

1/22/10 @ 3:58 pm (reply)

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Moody (message) 113 posts, Blushing bee

I’ve always wanted kids, and my fiance is in the same boat. We also have 2 pugs, which helps keep the baby fever down to a minimum

1/22/10 @ 4:07 pm (reply)

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Ciyra (message) 60 posts, Worker bee

I don’t mind other people’s children, but I’m not one for having my own. I’d much rather have furry dog babies. I’ve said this since I was a little kidlet… I’d much rather drive Barbie and Ken around in their sweet convertible than play with one of those icky baby dolls. My family is convinced that this is going to change when I get older, but at 25… I’m inclined to believe that I’m pretty set.

1/22/10 @ 4:12 pm (reply)

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Jaxx317 (message) 1,369 posts, Bumble bee

No chilrens for me!! FH is definitely on that bandwagon. He has two sisters, and I have many amigas who are and will soon start poppin’ ‘em out so that’s enough for us!

1/22/10 @ 4:30 pm (reply)

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Entangled (message) 2,616 posts, Sugar bee

I have never wanted children. The boy indicated this was his preference early on, but I think our relationship has mellowed him a bit - he told me I am the first person he’s met that he’s actually wanted to have children with.

Which is tremendously flattering but OH GOD NO PLEASE GET BACK ON MY NO KID BOAT. I don’t care if people think I am an ogre (I’m actually not… I only have some of the children and some of the time), I just don’t want them. Never have. Occasionally I have days when talking to random children for a few minutes isn’t so bad… but that’s about it. He kind of vaguely wants them - I told him that if he was willing to make the commitment to be there 99% of the time when they needed something, I could consider it. He’s not even willing to put out 50%, though, which makes the decision easy.

1/22/10 @ 4:31 pm (reply)

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KMSull (message) 6,442 posts, Bee Keeper

… neither, actually. Both are too much work.

1/22/10 @ 4:35 pm (reply)

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