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Mr. Pudding and I had no trouble deciding that we would skip the traditional honeymoon. With the wedding being such a huge expense, planning an extravagant vacation seemed impossible. Plus, we both agreed that a tropical getaway would be that much sweeter during the winter months - contrary to popular belief, Canada is beautiful and very warm during the summer! So is Vermont, for that matter!
So, with a tropical honeymoon postponed, we started thinking about a mini-moon. We considered visiting Mr. Pudding’s grandparents in the Finger Lakes, NY. They have a beautiful summer home, and we love spending time with them. We also thought about going to Maine, since we spent a beautifully romantic vacation there right before Mr. P proposed.
Mr. Pudding and I watching the sunset on a secluded beach in Maine. *Sigh*
And than it dawned on us - there are guest traveling thousands of miles to be at our wedding. I am having family fly in from Poland, and friends coming from Australia, Europe, and the Middle East. They are traveling to spend time with us, and realistically, at a wedding with a 200+ guest list, there will only be so much time that I will be able to spend with each individual person on the day of.
So, it was decided: Not only will there be no honeymoon for us, there will be no mini-moon, either. After the wedding, Mr. Pudding and I will spend one night together in a hotel in Toronto, followed by a couple of days staying with Mama Pudding and the visiting family. After that, Mr. P will probably return to Vermont (and work, since we will be saving up his vacation days for a future excursion), and I will stay in Canada for a week or two. I will spend the time with the family and friends that have traveled so far to celebrate this new change in my life.
It’s not exactly the most romantic option, but we do believe that it is the right one for us.
Are any of you postponing the honeymoon? What are your reasons for doing so? Am I the only one who will be spending the days immediately following the wedding separated from their brand new hubby?
in Jewish tradition, it is actually customary to stay around for a week after the wedding - each day for seven days, someone else hosts a small gathering celebrating the marriage (called the sheva brachot - seven blessings). it’s a way to see smaller groups of people and ride the wave of the wedding! enjoy your time with your visiting friends and family 
We’re totally going on the moon right after the wedding - like within a day or two. We haven’t umm ‘been together’ yet so I think a week away in some romantic location will be good and exciting for us :).
I think spending time with the people you love right after is a GREAT alternative to a honeymoon!
That totally makes sense. We are waiting until 2011 to have our dream honeymoon. We want to go to Greece, and we would rather wait until we can afford it and not stress about the money we are spending.
We’re doing a mini-moon, followed by a full-moon (*giggle*) a few months later.
For our mini-moon, we’re going to a spa resort that’s about 90 minutes from home 2 days after the wedding and staying for 2 nights. Then back to work. And in late November (when the weather really starts to suck) we’re going to Jamaica. Fun!
We’re skipping the honeymoon to spend mroe time with our guests as well! They are only coming from Jersey and a few from CA and FL, so its not too far, but we dont get to see them as often as we’d like. We’re looking forward to celebrating with everyone, not just on the wedding day.
My fiancee and I have deceided to go on our honeymoon a month after the wedding. We also will be having out of city/country guest and we think that it’s best to spend time with them since they’ve come for us.
We married in May and postponed our honeymoon until September. Travelling to Europe in the summer is more expensive and crowded, and we wanted a little more time to save spending money anyway. I think the only thing to watch out for is having time together before or after that’s quality time. Your night in the hotel should be good for that. Things can get pretty hairy in the last few days before (and the few days after) and it’s important to still have time with each other.
My fiance and I are getting married in March during March Break. Since I am a teacher, I can’t take time off to vacation so we’re saving our honeymoon until the summer, at which case it could potentially turn into a mini-moon. We feel the same way in that after spending $$$ on the wedding, planning a vacation at the same time is tiring and for us, unafforadable.
Our family and friends are staying with us in St. Thomas for a few days after our wedding, then when they leave, we’ll stay for another week. I think it’ll be fun to spend time with all of them after we’re married. That would be tough for me to be away from him for a week right after getting married. But I think it’s wonderful that you’ll get to be with all of your family for a while, you’ll have him around for the rest of your lives.
That really is the best option, we tried to do both, mini moon in romantic b&b and visit with family. Needless to say, it didn’t work so well 
MAINE! Is that beach in Southern Maine? It looks super familiar! I live in Maine and I swear we have the best beaches (minus the cold water…). Waiting seems to be a popular now, so there is no harm in that!
We are postponing our honeymoon too! FI is a teacher and does not have time off when we are getting married. He has two personal days a year. The plan is to use them for the Friday before the wedding and the Monday following it.
Initially we were going to plan a super short beachy trip somewhere, likely FL, but then decided to skip it. If we are going to do a vacation (and spend hundreds on plane tickets, hotels, meals) then we might as well wait for our real trip later in the summer.
We’re spending a week after the wedding spending time with our OOT guests (after all, they’re flying over just for little ol’ us!) and then heading out on a 2 week honeymoon to Australia.
We’re getting married in September and postponing our honeymoon until the following July. We are hoping to go to Belgium and France and to be able to catch some of the Tour de France! Waiting to go on the honeymoon was partially motivated by money (or lack thereof) and the fact that I will (hopefully) be starting an LL.M. program in the fall, and the program it starts the week before our wedding.
It may not be the norm, but if it works, it works. We’re getting the heck out of town after the wedding!
@eriqua: What a fun tradition! What a great way to celebrate on both a great and intimate scale!
@ColorCoated: I’m sure that it will! 
@Goldilocks1107: Sounds like an awesome plan - and a great way to stretch out the celebration!
@Newport Nuptials: That’s exactly how I feel, too!
@West Coast Bride: I agree about quality time. I’m very concerned about that…Hopefully we will be able to work something out.
@peakay: that’s the thing that sucks about teaching! You get a lot of time off, but it’s never when you need/want it 
I was anonymous too! Weird! Ladies, that list of replies is from me!
Chris and I are both graduate students and getting married mid semester - October 9. So our big vacay is going to be over christmas brek. Such is the life when you are in academia, though I think we are going to do two days in a B&B in the mountains. I would much rather vacation when I don’t have grading to worry about!
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Mrs. Pudding, Greater Toronto Area/Vermont Age and Occupation: 26, High School Teacher Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Computer Engineer Engagement Date: August 2008 Wedding Date: July 2010 Venue: Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception About Me: Quite literally a citizen of the world, I was born in Poland, grew up in Canada, and now live in the beautiful state of Vermont. I love reading historical biographies, multi-tasking, teasing my hair, and, despite my height, wearing high heeled shoes. I am the ultimate klutz with an uncanny ability to put on a graceful front. Mr. Pudding and I have been dating for over six years, and are very excited to finally merge our (very large) families. We are planning a traditional Polish-Catholic wedding that is anything but predictable.
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