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Mrs. Joey, Seattle Age and Occupation: 28, Project Administrator for Public Health NGO Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, High School History Teacher Engagement Date: June 24, 2008 Wedding Date: August 2009 Venue: Eastside Catholic Chapel and Lake Union Cafe About Me: I'm a Seattle girl through and through except for the fact that I don't drink coffee. I love my job most of the time because I get to travel and work with brilliant people who are trying to prevent Malaria. I love DIY projects of all sorts, cooking, and watching sports. I'd wear anything at Anthropologie and could spend all day on Etsy. I love to travel but shouldn't because I always get myself into unbelievable situations!
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6 Months Later

February 2nd, 2010 @ 9:15 am by Mrs. Joey

Hi hive! I know I said was taking a break but then I realized yesterday was our 6 month anniversary and that I had something to share.

Yes, if you can believe it, Mr. Joey and I were married 6 months ago today. Some days I feel like we got married yesterday, and some days I feel like it’s been years since we walked down the aisle.

Now that I’ve had time to step back from the wedding and let the rest of my life (or rather, our house) take over, I can really appreciate the wedding.

Immediately after the wedding, all I could think about were all the things that went wrong and all the things I’d change (part 1, part 2, part 3). I regretted parts of it, wished I invested more, and asked for more help.

The funny thing is that I don’t feel that way about it now. I couldn’t remember most of what disappointed me about the wedding when I sat down to write this post. I actually had to read over my Heartbreaker post to revive my memory.

Heartbreak #1: the first dance song. Something happened with the PA system and the singer sounded like a frog. I was mad and sad about but thinking back on it now, we just laugh. All I can remember is giggling with Mr. Joey about it while we danced and catching a glimpse of our friend Larry, the guitarist, trying not to bust out laughing. When I hear the song now, I don’t think about how the singer sounded, I think about what a funny but lovely memory the dance is.

Heartbreak #2 : The wedding no shows. Yes, that was lame. We had 10 guests who didn’t show but did RSVP for the wedding. We checked with a few of them, and they did have genuine family emergencies. Those who didn’t show up? Who cares. Seriously. They missed awesome food and great people. Lake Union Cafe packed up their portions of the food and Mr. Joey and I enjoyed it the day after and it was yummy. I honestly can’t remember who didn’t show.

There were a few things I wished we’d done like hire a DJ or expanded on photography.

I don’t care that we didn’t hire a DJ and that our wedding wasn’t an all night dance party. When I think about it, I remember how fun the money dance was and how much fun I had dancing with 4 or 5 of my friends. Sure, we were the only ones out there for a couple of songs, but we tore it up! And our father-daughter/mother-son dance more than made up for the general lack of dancing.

The photography? I still think an engagement session would have been useful but then I look at our pictures, and they came out just fine. We have way more pictures than we know what to do with. We still haven’t had a single one printed. I’m bad, but I’m going to get on it. The shots we have, we love. We’ll probably only display a few pictures from the wedding in our house, and we have about 100 options.

One picture related wish we had was to have a complete family picture taken with my parents, MOH Joey and BIL Joey. BIL Joey was in training for his deployment, so he couldn’t come to the wedding. A few months after the wedding, we had Kat of Persimmon Images take some family portraits and take care of that little wish. They came out great. Here are some of my favorites:

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I’ve seen a lot of threads and posts from disappointed brides about their wedding lately and want to tell those ladies that you’ll love your wedding soon enough and forget about all the things that went wrong. I still get compliments on my dress, the stationery, the food, and the overall look of the venue, and you know what? Those are the things I adored about our wedding and those are the things the guests remember 6 months later.

For those still planning, I just want to remind you all to take some time to relax. You might have a few minor mishaps, but it will all be fine. Trust me.

OK, I’m done preaching. I’ll see everyone in 6 months. :)

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26 Responses to “6 Months Later”

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MeghanV
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MeghanV (message)  375 posts, Helper bee

Thanks Mrs. J! I’m four months out but already looking forward to being where you are, married and looking back at the wedding fondly.

I’m really responding, though, to let you know how freakin’ fantastic your hair looks in these pictures. Yowza!

 
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Miss French Fries
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Miss French Fries (message)  2,217 posts, Buzzing bee

Great post, Joey! :) Helps keep things in perspective.

 
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Miss Hamster (message)  4,045 posts, Honey bee

Thanks for this post, Joey! I would totally dwell on what “went wrong” and this is a good reminder that there’s much more that goes right :)

 
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krissycake
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krissycake (message)  4,160 posts, Honey bee

Great post, Joey. I think this helps us brides (and brides to be!) to keep your head up and remember what’s important =D

 
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SanDiegoAli
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SanDiegoAli (message)  3,076 posts, Sugar bee

Great post! It seems as though time does start to heal all wounds! I’m happy to hear that you have a more positive outlook about your wedding day now!

 
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Mrs. Quiche (message)  3,157 posts, Sugar bee

Great post! & so true :) Love the family pictures - what a great idea!

 
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Vic004
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Vic004 (message)  804 posts, Busy bee

Thanks for this post! I got married around the same time you did and I sometimes still get a little irritated thinking about the things that went wrong at the wedding. I try to view things from a different perspective but sometimes it’s so hard to focus on the positive. Great family pics too!

 
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Ms Potato Chips (message)  1,193 posts, Bumble bee

Great post, Mrs. J! Glad you hopped on by (see what I did there?)

 
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AbbyM
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AbbyM (message)  284 posts, Helper bee

Great post - it makes me look forward to getting rid of these feelings of disappointment from the wedding. And your family pictures are awesome - I absolutely love that idea! :-)

 
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Mrs. Joey (message)  1,031 posts, Bumble bee

@MeghanV: Thanks! It was one of those mornings where my hair actually did what I wanted it to do.

@Ms Potato Chips: I see what you did there. :)

Cherry Pie took the pictures. I think my Mom has decided she’s our official family photograhper.

 
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Miss Pug
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Miss Pug (message)  3,753 posts, Honey bee

thank you for this post, joey. i remember feeling frustrated and sad along with you when i read your earlier posts, but this one helps put it all in perspective. your maturity and perspective are heartening.

 
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Miss Cardigan
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Miss Cardigan (message)  8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

What a great post! I’m so glad to hear that you have really fond memories of your wedding! And those family photos are adorable!

 
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Miss Spaniel (message)  6,792 posts, Bee Keeper

Thanks for this post… I know I’ll notice things going wrong, but it’s nice to be reminded that those things won’t really matter much. :)

 
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Mrs. Mouse
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Mrs. Mouse (message)  5,844 posts, Bee Keeper

I’m so happy you wrote this post! You’ve got such a good attitude about things. Every wedding has at least one thing that goes wrong, and while it’s hard not to, you really can’t dwell on that stuff!
I love the new pictures, btw!

 
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Miss Scissors (message)  7,343 posts, Bee Keeper

Thanks for the advice and encouragement, dear. I know I will need to take this advice big-time. :)

I love that you did family portraits, p.s.

 
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D.Marie
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D.Marie (message)  2,484 posts, Buzzing bee

Hi Mrs. Joey!!! I love the last one of you and your sister!! Congrats and Happy 6 months. Thats so nice that you took pictures when your brother came home. :) So sweet. You have such a beautiful smile!

 
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D.Marie
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D.Marie (message)  2,484 posts, Buzzing bee

PS…yeah we were worrying about people RSVPing and not showing but then I said hey thats food for us to take home! Its hard not to worry before and during the wedding but im glad to hear that 6 months later its all about how fun it was and who you both are now together! :) THANK YOU!

 
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Miss Elephant
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Miss Elephant (message)  6,177 posts, Bee Keeper

Thanks for that, a very good way to look at it. Love the pics of your whole family.

 
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Lillindy
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Lillindy (message)  7,974 posts, Bee Keeper

I’m so glad you wrote this post! It will help so many other brides when things go wrong on their wedding day. Usually, everyone only remembers the good and you’re the only one that knows things didn’t go according to plan. Happy 6 months & looking forward to seeing you around here again soon!

 
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Ms. Mojito
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Ms. Mojito (message)  399 posts, Helper bee

THank you for this post! Such much needed perspective, I am less than 60 days out myself. happy 6 months!

 
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Mrs. Joey, Seattle Age and Occupation: 28, Project Administrator for Public Health NGO Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, High School History Teacher Engagement Date: June 24, 2008 Wedding Date: August 2009 Venue: Eastside Catholic Chapel and Lake Union Cafe About Me: I'm a Seattle girl through and through except for the fact that I don't drink coffee. I love my job most of the time because I get to travel and work with brilliant people who are trying to prevent Malaria. I love DIY projects of all sorts, cooking, and watching sports. I'd wear anything at Anthropologie and could spend all day on Etsy. I love to travel but shouldn't because I always get myself into unbelievable situations!

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