Moving After Marriage

Moving After Marriage

February 10th, 2010 @ 4:02 pm by Mrs. Sewing
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Even though Mr. Sew and I share a townhouse together, we have separate rooms.

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After the wedding, Mr. Sewing will move into my room, since it’s slightly bigger than his. (Because I’m slightly bigger than him, I need the extra space, yeah?)

This will be a big change for us, I think. I’m excited, but I’m also a little bit scared. Is that the right word? I don’t know, but I do know that I’m not looking forward to having to share my closet. It’s already packed as it is!

Me: “You can leave your clothes and stuff in your room, right? It’s just a few feet away.”
Mr. Sewing: “No. I get half your closet. That’s the rule.”
Me: “What rule is that?!”

He grinned, and reminded me of my own longstanding rule that he’s never, ever to enter my walk-in closet. (I have these crazy fears of bad guys jumping out and attacking me in it, so it’s a safety precaution.) Apparently having me share my closet is “revenge” for my irrational behavior, and it’s one of the rare things he’s actually excited about. Other than, you know, the obvious. *Blush*

But it’s not all bad. In exchange for giving up “my” space and learning to share a bed, Mr. Sewing promised me full use of his old room.

You know what I’m thinking, right?

Conversion to a craft room/workshop! Finally a home for all my toys, old and new. A place where we can build future creations without interrupting daily life. In a few words: a contained mess.

So when I start feeling apprehensive about gaining a forever-roommate, all I need to think about is a beautiful new craft room to put my mind at ease.

Is your living situation changing at all after the wedding? Do you welcome the change with open arms, or with slight reservations?

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34 Responses to “Moving After Marriage”

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Ms. Library (message) 1,250 posts, Bumble bee

I cannot wait for my living situation to change after the wedding! Mr. Library and I will finally live in the same state AND get to live together (for better or worse…)! I am pretty pumped. The craft room is an awesome idea!

2/10/10 @ 4:05 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Mary Jane (message) 1,970 posts, Buzzing bee

Mr. Mary Jane and I use separate closet spaces in our house - some clothes are stored in another bedroom. No shame in that!! But even still… he DID make me downsize just a little when we moved in together. Hrmph.

2/10/10 @ 4:09 pm (reply)

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Miss Pug (message) 3,753 posts, Honey bee

our living situation will stay the same, but i want it to change! we’ve got no space!

2/10/10 @ 4:12 pm (reply)

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Curlysue (message) 1,703 posts, Bumble bee

I have the opposite problem, my FI has more clothes than I do. No, he doesn’t have a lot, I just don’t have a whole lotta clothes to begin with! I say use that other room like you said for the workshop/creative room and use that other closet to spill any other clothes you need in there. And trust me, it’s always better when there’s a snugglemate in bed. It’s cozy!

2/10/10 @ 4:14 pm (reply)

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crebre80 (message) 10,729 posts, Bee Keeper

How cool!! M and I share a room and closet unfortunately. Our poor little apartment is bursting at the seams. I cannot wait for a house and an office/craft space of my own (eeee a craft room sounds like nirvana!!)

2/10/10 @ 4:15 pm (reply)

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Miss Argyle (message) 2,516 posts, Sugar bee

Ours will remain the same. We’ve lived together for almost 2 years.

I made the Mr. put all his clothes in the guest bedroom. He gets up much earlier than me and it’s easier that way. Plus there’s no room in my closet for his clothes.

2/10/10 @ 4:16 pm (reply)

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moderndaisy (message) 6,607 posts, Bee Keeper

FI has lived with me for 1.5 years but it was hard giving up half the closet, esp in our small manhattan apt! Ok fine I only gave up about 1/4 of it.

2/10/10 @ 4:23 pm (reply)

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Goldilocks1107 (message) 2,504 posts, Sugar bee

Nothing will change for us. When we moved in together, he demanded half of the master closet. Which I willingly gave up, because he forgot to mention shared custody of the other two bedroom closets. Which quickly became filled with my overflow shoes, coats and other things.
I still remember the “g*dd*mn” I heard when he went to store something in one of the closets a few weeks after we moved in . . . and discovered it full of my stuff.
I mean, really, did he think all the other things he no longer saw just disappeared?!?

2/10/10 @ 4:40 pm (reply)

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hungrybruno (message) 28 posts, Newbee

I’m with Miss Argyle - my fiance keeps his clothes in the second bedroom (I say second bedroom like it’s not just a junk room/office with an old bed in it) because he gets up at the crack of dawn and it lets me sleep a bit later!

2/10/10 @ 4:41 pm (reply)

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Miss Elephant (message) 6,177 posts, Bee Keeper

We already live together so that will be the same. When it comes to clothes, I have too many so I have half in the closet in our room and all the rest in the guest room closet. I really don’t wear any of those so come spring I need to do some donating to charity.

2/10/10 @ 4:47 pm (reply)

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MexiPieLove (message) 54 posts, Worker bee

We already live together but currently have an apartment-mate. We are moving right before the wedding (literally the week before) and will have our own place then. SO EXCITED!

But also a little nerve-racking…we don’t know where we’re moving yet bc I am waiting to hear back from grad schools…ACK

2/10/10 @ 4:59 pm (reply)

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Miss_Riley (message) 428 posts, Helper bee

I have the same situation as hungrybruno… we even went so far as to have two seperate bathrooms! He gets up WAY earlier than I do (5am) so he can get ready in the other room/bathroom without waking me up.

2/10/10 @ 5:36 pm (reply)

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MOHmama (message) 404 posts, Helper bee

There were 4 of us kids growing up so I always shared a room with one of my sisters until I was 23!! Then I got married when I was 25, so at least I got my own space for awhile. And then I had to share a room again..and this time, with a boy!

You situation sounds like my husband’s cousins. They were renting in 2 different buildings, and right before the wedding one of their leases were up, and obviously they didn’t want to sign a new agreement for a whole year, so they stayed in one apartment together for a few months but in separate rooms.

That craft room sounds great!

2/10/10 @ 6:00 pm (reply)

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Nexus-6 (message) 864 posts, Busy bee

Sharing a closet is hard; I have taken over 80% of our walk-in. I keep edging my shoes onto his shoe rack whenever I get a new pair

2/10/10 @ 6:11 pm (reply)

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Miss Spaniel (message) 6,792 posts, Bee Keeper

We won’t have any changes, although we hope to upgrade to a larger space within a year or so of getting married. I WISH I would get extra space after getting married. Lucky girl!

2/10/10 @ 6:22 pm (reply)

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maisymay (message) 870 posts, Busy bee

Our closet is about 10 feet long and packed with clothes! I’d hate to have to move to a smaller closet (or have any more clothes), so in a way, I understand!

Have you thought about putting up a few clothes bars in the extra room and making it a super walk-in closet? He said he wouldn’t leave his clothes in the other room, but nothing about you having some of yours in the other room.
It could work!

2/10/10 @ 6:56 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Cloud (message) 802 posts, Busy bee

As soon as I read that he wanted to share your closet I was thinking you should bargin back for a craft room! Girl after my own heart

2/10/10 @ 6:57 pm (reply)

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Andie

Omg I thought we were the only ones who lived together but had separate bedrooms. I’m glad to know others are out there!

2/10/10 @ 7:17 pm (reply)

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CLER (message) 87 posts, Worker bee

Ours will change. I’m moving to his house whom he shares with his dad. He lives upstairs, his dad downstairs. His dad owns the house. For now, we’re staying to save up until 2011 when we can get our own place. Am I excited? Heck yea! Shoo, I’m excited for that first night, *blushing*. Although there are some reservations because I know he has his ways and I do too in terms of how we keep things in our room, but oh well, that’s part of marriage!

2/10/10 @ 7:22 pm (reply)

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Miss Sewing (message) 2,701 posts, Sugar bee

@Ms. Library: yay! that sounds like a happy change, for sure!
@Curlysue:@llc2011: @maisymay: maybe i can move some stuff that I don’t use often to his closet…choices choices!
@crebre80: @Mrs. Cloud: yes! craft room heaven!
@Goldilocks1107: complete lol!
@hungrybruno: @Miss_Riley:ahh I’m the early riser, unfortunately. so i guess it’d be my clothes that go in that argument! hehe
@MexiPieLove: yay! exciting!
@MOHmama: hehe, your story is cute! I had to share a room with my siblings for a loongg time too!
@Nexus-6: way to divide and conquer! hehe!
@Andie: yay! we could start a 2 person club ><” lol