A Country Wedding? Do I Need a Flannel Shirt?

This is the exact question my mom asked when I told her the wedding would be “country” themed. See, while Mr. Gingham and I like country music, no one else in our families really embraces it like we do (except maybe my brother – he’s always down for a little Tim McGraw). Most of our friends love it so that’s good because otherwise it would be Mr. G and I dancing by ourselves to our country band while our guests stare at us with confused looks on their faces. That would be weird. Anyway, I had to explain to my mom that while our wedding (more specifically the reception) would be “country” it would not be a “hoe-down.”

“But it’s in a barn,” was her response. Yes, good point. Our reception would be in a barn (just to clarify – as long as it doesn’t rain, we will be getting married outside right next to the barn with the food, band and dancing being inside the barn). “Maybe the guests could bring jeans that they could change into for dancing later?” she continued. “Um, no Mom, there will be no jeans, and no flannel shirts at our wedding.” This convo went on longer and eventually lead to a bit of a fight. She was just trying to understand what was going on in my head and I was frustrated because I felt like she was making fun of my ideas. Now, eventually everything got resolved and my mom in on board with the wedding plans…

Our little discussion did make me realize I should share some of the visions/inspirations I was having in my head for the post ceremony dancing. So to help you get a better idea of what I’m going for (in the way of overall atmosphere), I thought I’d share some video clips.

Hope Floats(Video Source) I could not find the actual scene from the movie (Taylor Swift did not sing in it, someone just dubbed her song over this great clip) so focus on the images not the music. Don’t Sandra and Harry look like they’re having the best time ever??! I want that. I want to be having that much fun on my wedding night, dancing around in my wedding dress (probably with some cowboy boots on) and I want our guests to be having that much fun, too. I also understand that they all won’t know the 2-step, but we’re thinking about teaching everyone a line dance. :)

Billy Currington – People are Crazy (Video Source) – So, fast forward to the 3:00 minute mark in this music video. You’ll see a bunch of people in a bar – the ladies are dancing and singing along to the song. I LOVE this part of the video. I love that all those people in the bar are having the best time. Wouldn’t you want to be at this bar?

Hopefully these clips help you get a little bit of a better idea about where I’m going with all these plans. Sure, there is a lot more to tell about my colors, dresses, decorations etc., but hopefully this helps give you a better idea on the where some of my visions started from.

What about you? Are there any special movies, or examples that started your wedding vision?


Miss Gingham

Portland, OR
Wedding Date:
September 2010
Love, MOB
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    eileen marie 1644 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:32 pm

    First off, welcome!
    “Um, no Mom, there will be no jeans, and no flannel shirts at our wedding.”
    Betcha you’re wrong. 😉
    We had a fairly formal wedding (though we imposed NO dress code due to the summer heat) at a botanic garden, and yep someone showed up in jeans and a t-shirt. (That was the worst of it., but there were others “questionably” dressed. Every time I go to a wedding, I ask, myself what on God’s green earth are they saving the good stuff for??)

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    eileen marie 1644 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:35 pm

    PS: You should check out Mrs. Cowboy boot’s wedding for country inspiration (or Cherry Pie’s) and show your mom-they were FAB weddings. We had friends who only had contra (square/line) dancing at their wedding with a live country band-it was a lot of fun, & it commemorated how they met.

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    futurebean 73 posts, Worker bee @ 1:41 pm

    Oooh– the poster above brings up a good point! As a fellow P-towner, having seen people attending the opera in jeans and dining at Genoa (the old one, when it was still THE restaurant in Portland) in khaki shorts, I wouldn’t be surprised if there were jeans at your (or my!) wedding… flannel? Meh, that’s too Seattle. Fleece, on the other hand…!

    Didja maybe make it clear by the style of invite or even blatantly stating a “preferred” dress code of sorts somewhere?

    I’m all for comfy here (ditched my dressing up to go to the mall attitude from my CA upbringing long ago!), but when even my groom wants to wear jeans to our wedding, I had to put my foot down!! So, good luck!!

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    hotwings 2200 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:20 pm

    sooo cool! I actually got most of my inspiration from home interior decorating images. The inspiration is everywhere!

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    our girl Jill 12 posts, Newbee @ 7:39 pm

    Your theme sounds like a lot of fun! I didn’t grow up listening to country music, but it definitely has grown on me. You don’t have to worry about questionable lyrics with country and a lot of it is based on love themes- I think it’ll be great!

    Our wedding ceremony is traditional Serbian Orthodox and the music will be jazz, oldies and we’re also having a Serbian band. It’s my fiance’s heritage and it makes for a LOT of dancing and fun! The colors are wine, champagne and gold (no white- my dress is “light gold”) so we’re sticking with a kind of wine-theme (escort cards, table numbers- wine, wine, wine).

    Oh, and I will be sticking in some country songs while the band is on break 😉

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    cherrypie 1059 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:17 pm

    We actively invited Western Wear and sensible shoes at our wedding and discouraged formal wear! The “good stuff’ would have looked way awkward in the Montana back country. People came in what they figured was appropriate, and we had a few GREAT hats/ outfits that made for awesome photos.

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    operaghost 58 posts, Worker bee @ 9:45 pm

    Love the Hope Floats dance clip. It reminds me of this wedding http://heatherthorne.com/blog/?p=454 , which has a jeans-wearing bride and groom, but with a kind of laid-back elegance that is really attractive. IMHO. :)

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    argyle 2519 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:06 am

    That’s great. I didn’t really have any inspiration from movies, but love that you have! I love the idea of a barn reception – so I have you’re back, lady!

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    AmberMcBride 144 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:02 am

    This cracks me up! We’re also getting married near a barn and my family can not understand that jeans and hay will not make an appearance at the wedding. Good luck and enjoy!

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    pudding 1183 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:44 am

    Sounds like your wedding will be a blast!

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    mspencils 1015 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:50 pm

    you’re country wedding sounds chic and just plain fun! sometimes mom’s just take a bit longer to get it 😉

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    misspug 3668 posts, Sugar bee @ 6:45 pm

    images definitely help people get on board with your theme–i think your country wedding sounds so cool!

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    KB 169 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:28 pm

    I’m so excited about your theme! I’m looking foward to seeing it come together in your posts….and super excited for pictures!

    I wish I could get my s/o on board with a rustic twist…:-)

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    Mrs. Mouse 5771 posts, Bee Keeper @ 12:56 pm

    Haha. Oh, Mom.

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    Miss Chicken Wing 1225 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:37 pm

    Love these clips!!!

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