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I suffer from an ailment that is all too common in wedding world. Hell, it’s all too common in general. What is this ailment you ask? What causes to-be-weds far and wide to want to rip out their hair, burn their wedding dresses, and cancel their weddings in one fell swoop? I’ll tell you what it is, it’s a disease that is commonly referred to as “Monster in Law”.

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Being that you are a more than likely a to-be-wed yourself, you’re probably pretty familiar with this particular ailment, and if you’re not familiar with it, well, I am supremely jealous of you. This weekend, yes, Valentine’s weekend of all weekends, I had an extremely bad case of Monster-In-Law.

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A long, long time ago, in a land far, far away a wee lad named Mr. Rainbow decided to confide in his mother about a very personal matter regarding our relationship. I, too, confided in my mom and step-mom about the matter, knowing that they would keep mum about it. Mr. Rainbow’s mother, on the other hand, decided that it was a good idea to share our personal lives with her younger son and his wife.

Why? Well, frankly, it beats the hell out of me. I’ve known all along that said offender lacks what one would call a “social filter”, but regardless, you’d think out of anyone in the whole wide world, you could trust your own mother to understand the meaning of private and confidential, right? Well, in some cases, such as this one, you would be a big plate of wrong with a side of anger and disappointment.

Needless to say, the fact that FMIL blabbed came to light this weekend in not the most elegant of ways.

After Mr. Rainbow spoke to his brother and found out that the offender was, in fact, his very own mother, he proceeded to have a heated conversation with her. Her response? “I don’t remember having that conversation with your brother.” Hmm, hokay, I hate to break it to you, dear Monster-In-Law, but that fact that you fail to recall the exact conversation (or simply just don’t want to own up to it, which is my bet) does not mean it didn’t happen, and it also definitely does not make it right, just in case you forgot that fact.

Anywho, you can imagine what a difficult position this put Mr. Rainbow and me in. I couldn’t very well talk trash about his own mother to him (although I did, though not nearly as much as I really wanted to), and although his mother was most certainly at fault, he couldn’t be nearly as vocal about it as I was because, well, it’s his mother.

This culmination of anger, disappointment, and the lack of ability to truly express those feelings just evolved into a big ball of I-can’t-marry-you-because-I-can’t-deal-with-your-crazy-family with a dash of we-can’t-get-married-because-I-want-nothing-to-do-with-them-and-I-certainly-don’t-want-them-at-our-wedding-itis. We were in quite a pickle, you see?

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How will this wedding pan out with the current Bride vs. Monster-In-Law rivalry? Well, you’ll just have to stick around to find out! And for all you brides out there with more than their fair share of Monster-In-Law, do yourself a favor and check out Pissed Off Bride—you’re not the only one that has to deal with the crazy.

Do you have a difficult relationship with your (F)MIL? Were you able to put your differences aside or do you just avoid her like the plague? Any advice on dealing with a Monster-In-Law?