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After our first dance, we settled in to eat a little, but before too long it was time for our toasts. Our first toast was by Godmother Swan. Since we did not have a bridal party, we got a little creative with who would deliver our toasts for us. Godmother Swan has been a very special part of my life. She was a good friend of my grandparents when she lived in the Caribbean. I’ve never met any of my grandparents (most died before I was born or when I was a baby), so she has always been a living link to my maternal grandparents. She’s also Mommy Swan’s godmother and the grandmother of my goddaughter. Are you still following? Let’s just say that while not blood related, she is like family to me.
Her toast was sweet, and I was glad to have been able to give such an honor to someone who has been like a second mother/grandmother to me all of my life.
There was a drawback, though.
I had made it all day without a major cry. Yes, I did make the cry face during the ceremony, but just a couple of tears rolled down my face.
I started out doing pretty well at the beginning of the toast. Then Godmother Swan started to read a cute little poem that my cousin wrote. My cousins were not able to make the trip from the Caribbean to be at the wedding. Since I grew up as an only child, my cousins are like my brothers and sisters. I was really disappointed that they couldn’t make it, but before the wedding I had gotten over it. I knew there would be quite a few hurdles for them to be able to attend. I had accepted it. Right? NOPE! Enter the infamous poem.
It wasn’t Emily Dickinson or Maya Angelou worthy, but as Godmother Swan read the poem it started to hit me that my cousins weren’t there.
Hmmm… it wasn’t looking good. See the beginnings of the Ugly Cry Face?
Yep. I was getting worse.
Wait for it….
Yep, a full on sob. Oops! I feel like I had held it together enough though I felt a little embarrassed that I had like broken down like a little baby in front of so many people, a few of whom I’d never really met before. At least this time, I hid my face. 
I recovered, but I totally didn’t expect my emotions to hit me during a toast.
Thanks, Godmother Swan!
Do you anticipate that any particular parts of the wedding will be emotional for you? Are you having someone special do a toast at your wedding?
Swan Tip #15 - (I screwed up my last post, which was supposed to be Swan Tip #14. Please forgive me. :)) Be prepared for your emotions to hit you when you least expect it.
Awww. I’m sorry they couldn’t make it. Good job hiding the cry face, though!
That’s so adorable! I’m sorry they couldn’t make it, but I am sure that your emotions over their poem made it up to them somehow!
Awww, so sorry they couldn’t attend - but I’m sure your reactions to their poem really meant a lot to them 
I feel a bit cheated that we didn’t get to see your full-on ugly cry face. 
aww, so sweet. I’m sorry your cousins couldn’t be there- but I agree with mouse- I wanna see the whole cry face :0
I teared up just reading this post! Something about other brides crying always makes me cry…Suffice to say, I’m pretty sure I’ll be an ugly cry-face mess through most of the day…Oh well, I’m prepared for it
My friends and I talk about ugly face in two instances. 1. when you’re laughing so hard, your face turns ugly and 2. when you cry so hard, your face turns ugly.
But you still looked beautiful - tears and all!
How sweet for them to write you a poem. And the pictures of Mr. Swan comforting you are so tender.
I totally bust out the ugly cry face, too — some people can cry gracefully. Me? Not so much.
I think the picture with your head buried in his shoulder is BEAUTIFUL.
You know, I’ve got to agree with Lina. I love that picture and oddly enough I think your cry face is beautiful.
How sweet of them! I totally don’t blame you for crying - I would have too! And my cry face? VERY ugly!!!
I’m going to try super hard to avoid the cry face -we’ll see!
That is such a sweet picture of you and Mr. Swan though! I love it!
Aww Mrs. Swan! What a beautiful tribute from your godmother and cousins who wrote the poem. I love your crying photos…I think they are sweet and I love the one where Mr. Swan is holding you. I was reading and going over our vows and our ceremony with the Mister and I started to get emotional….I told him Im going to be a mess up there!!
so sweet! that isn’t an ugly cry face, by the way, and it’s totally unfair. if that’s your ugly cry face, then mine is a grotesque mirror-shattering cry face.
I am expecting to cry hysterically when I do the Father-Daughter dance. We are doing First-Look photos, so I’m hoping that will keep me together when I walk down the aisle.
That was so sweet of them to write you a poem and good hiding of the ugly cry face!
Aww, Swan, this makes my little heart swell. I know I’ll go into full-on-sob-mode as well, but for some reason I’m sure it will turn into a big makeup mess. :p
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Mrs. Swan, New York City Age and Occupation: 31, Legislative Representative Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Finance Guy Engagement Date: August 9, 2008 Wedding Date: August 2009 Venue: Battery Gardens About Me: I am an un-crafty but resourceful, Caribbean-born but New York-raised woman who's been known to analyze "Dancing with the Stars" and “So You Think You Can Dance”, buy stinky cheese, and use way too many parentheses. I keep lists for fun, am constantly daydreaming of my next international travel adventure (four continents down, three to go), debating sports (let’s Got Mets/Giants!) and dancing around my apartment to stay sane. I am excited to share our wedding planning journey as I hope to plan a streamlined, personal, and fun wedding with the greatest life partner I could ever imagine, Mr. Swan.
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