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While designing our RSVPs and coming up with proper wording, I had to figure out how to keep these two clowns out…
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I’m guessing I’m not alone in this, but we have some concerns about people bringing uninvited guests to the home party. And I’m also sure most of you can relate - when you’re paying a certain amount per person, every head counts!
Our shindig, aka cocktail party, will be by no means as formal as a traditional wedding reception tends to be, but we do still have to pay per person. Mr. N and I are both worried not everyone will realize this, though. And when I showed Mr. N a mock-up of the RSVP cards that I made, he was concerned about the “Number of attendees:______” line.
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Fill-in-the-blank could get dicey! So I poked around online a little and found my solution…
It seems some online opinions were that this method is not acceptable but, although it may not be proper etiquette, our RSVP cards aren’t exactly traditional to begin with! The new line will keep us from having to make awkward phone calls had anyone decided to take the guest list into their own hands. And luckily we’ll have a bouncer with a guest list at the door to ward off any wedding crashers wearing one of these beauties…
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Are you concerned about unexpected guests at your wedding/reception?
we had one relative who tried to push her kids onto our adult-only reception, saying that they would just text the whole time (um, is that supposed to be an incentive to invite them) but it was made very clear that unfortunately we couldn’t accommodate them. besides that, though, i’m hoping there are no surprises (but you never know).
I’m doing the exact same thing with my wording (pointing out how many seats are reserved) AND printing the invited guests names on both the envelope and RSVP card.
I think your RSVP is more acceptable than receiving an awkward “we don’t have room” or questioning if you could bring a date. Looks lovely!
Nope. Lucky I guess.
IMO I don’t think your RSVPs are bad at all! If I received an invite with that wording I wouldn’t think anything of it. I also like the fun lines you put in instead of “accepts” and “declines”. I would be offended if I was invited but they did not include my FI or if we were married by then, my husband.
I initially was, but in the end, the RSVP website we liked didn’t have that option. SO FAR, we haven’t had a problem with it, but we’ll see if this comes back to bite me in the butt!
You have to be really direct on your invitation there is nothing worse than having too many people and not enough seats.
I always leave a request section saying if someone does not need a seat that is reserved for them then it will be avaliable for an extra guest.
We’re not as worried about but my friends who are pushing capacity at their venue included the following at the bottom of their RSVP cards to keep people from bringing extras:
Since we are blessed with so many people who love and support us, we ask that you limit your party to invited guests only.
I think it’s rather nice and very diplomatic. 
I wish we had done the same thing. I sent a “courtesy” invite to some relatives I can’t STAND b/c my dad and grandma through a fit when I said I wasn’t inviting them. They RSVP’d for 6! Only 3 came. Goodbye $300…and not that it matters what it was, but their gift to me was a cake stand that looked like it was either gold leaf or gold spray paint on the bottom, and a cookbook. Both looked to have been used and regifted.
I think this is one of those instances where proper etiquette is more likely to lead to hurt feelings and misunderstandings than a more specific, non-etiquette approved choice. I like what you did.
hahaha I didn’t read the options the first time I read this post…. your RSVPs are amazing.
I wish I would have done this, but ultimately it only would have saved us two or three extra guests (and one of them we would have ended up inviting anyway; we didn’t realize his cousin and girlfriend were living together). Definitely a good idea if you are inviting a lot of single people!
I think it’s a great solution, and I love your RSVP wording!
Growing up, it was almost a competition to bring a SO to family events. We’re playing pretty stingy with the +1s and while we’re planning to use the “we’re holding X # of seats for you” line, I’m still anticipating some crossing out and creative “editing” on my cousins’ part… I need a bouncer on the farm=(
I’m afraid of some of our co-workers crashing, honestly. There are some people we just didn’t want there (or didn’t care enough to pay for) and I’m sure it offended some of them.
Great solution - and I LOVE your rsvp wording. So cute!
On our RSVPs, I added a “___ of 2″ (3,4,5) will attend.
I love your RSVP options! Super fun. Oh, and the reserving seats thing isn’t proper? Bwahhhh. We are doing it as well. OH well!
I am doing it as well because we are having all the groomsmen from out of town I dont want them to think it is just a free for all of whoever they want to travel with.
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Mrs. Nachos, Chicago/St. Thomas Age and Occupation: 33, Commercial Real Estate & Hairstylist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 36, Radio Producer Engagement Date: May 22, 2009 Wedding Date: April 2010 Venue: Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas About Me: I'm a happy, laid back city girl that can find the silver lining in any situation. An optimist at heart, my motto is to turn your "what ifs?" into "so whats!". My fiance is a radio producer and the biggest Cubs fan you'll meet - our apartment decor definitely shows it. He and I grew up next door to each other and because of it, we have the best home videos and easiest holiday dinners. We are planning an intimate wedding in the Virgin Islands and a cocktail party in June for 150 of our closest friends.
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