Daddy&#8217;s Girl

Daddy’s Girl

March 4th, 2010 @ 5:25 pm by Mrs. Hamster
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Tradition has it that the father of the bride walks the lovely bride down the aisle, “giving her away” to the groom, like so:

My dad and sis at her wedding in 2005

For the Hammy wedding, I thought it would be meaningful to have both my mom and dad walk me down the aisle, since both of them had played integral parts in my upbringing. However, big sis then told me that my dad was really looking forward to walking me down the aisle solo.

As soon as I heard this, I nixed the idea of the dual-parent walk. Growing up, the three women in our family (mom, sister, me) often dominated the conversation while my dad was the soft-spoken one. Relatively quiet, he seemed to enjoy the hustle and bustle of three vociferous women (at least I hope he did, ha!). He only occasionally made particular wants known, usually going with the flow instead. I knew that if I had my mom accompany us down the aisle, he wouldn’t say anything to object, but he might be secretly disappointed. I couldn’t have that happen. And equally as important - I knew my mom would understand. If this was one of the few things my dad wanted, how could I say no?

So that’s how my walk down the aisle went from one parent to two, back to one again.

Who will be walking you down the aisle?

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40 Responses to “Daddy’s Girl”

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libra5979 (message) 173 posts, Blushing bee

My mom and dad will both be walking me down the isle. A parent on each arm!
I can definitely understand where you are coming from. Thankfully, the part my dad is most looking forward to is the Father/Daughter dance, and he still gets that all to himself

3/4/10 @ 5:28 pm (reply)

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kayakgirl73 (message) 2,124 posts, Buzzing bee

My dad walked me down. My sister wanted both parents to walk her down in 2006, but my mom said that she wanted to be seated and watch my sister and dad come in. So I just went with my dad. A moment I spent years dreaming about was over in an instant.

3/4/10 @ 5:32 pm (reply)

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alivoo01 (message) 2,622 posts, Sugar bee

The honor is all my dad’s. It’s the second to last moment we get together as “Daddy’s Little Girl”.

3/4/10 @ 5:34 pm (reply)

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amariem25 (message) 3,733 posts, Sugar bee

i wanted both parents too. but then my mom said i should let my dad do it because he feels like it is his duty, and that she would be too nervous walking down the aisle and would rather watch me come down the aisle. so it was just my dad and i.

3/4/10 @ 5:34 pm (reply)

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ColaJae

You made the right decision….he looks sooooo proud in that picture! You’re a good daughter!

3/4/10 @ 5:38 pm (reply)

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LittlestBirds (message) 2,605 posts, Sugar bee

My family is a lot like yours. My dad has always been soft-spoken and go-with-the-flow to keep peace among the three women in the family. I was going to go solo, but my mom suggested that even if he didn’t say anything, my dad would probably be hurt, and that he might really want to walk me. So I changed the plan. If you can avoid hurting someone’s feelings, especially your loving dad, then do so, I say.

3/4/10 @ 5:38 pm (reply)

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Miss Jellyfish (message) 1,423 posts, Bumble bee

Like you, i thought about asking both my parents to walk me down but I have a feeling my dad has always wanted to walk me down the aisle solo. He’s always loved movies like Father of the Bride and I don’t want to take that way from him.

3/4/10 @ 5:39 pm (reply)

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Ms Potato Chips (message) 1,193 posts, Bumble bee

Wow, same exact story here! My dad probably wouldn’t say anything but I know he’d be disappointed if he didn’t walk with me down the aisle.

3/4/10 @ 5:40 pm (reply)

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Miss Lace (message) 702 posts, Busy bee

How sweet! I am not sure, but I want to have both of them.

3/4/10 @ 5:41 pm (reply)

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Miss Giraffe (message) 4,216 posts, Honey bee

I’m planning on just having my dad. I think he’s excited about it.

3/4/10 @ 5:44 pm (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

My dad will be walking me alone. I know he’s looking forward to it, and I’m honestly not particularly close to my mom - I love her to death, but we don’t really have the kind of relationship where it would be normal for me to ask her to do that!

3/4/10 @ 5:45 pm (reply)

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rawrkitty1022 (message) 516 posts, Busy bee

Your dad does look very proud in that picture! I too want to have both my mom and my dad walk me down the aisle, but after reading your post and other bee’s responses and considering what I know about my own dad, I might let just my father do the honors. I can include my mother in another special way.

3/4/10 @ 5:47 pm (reply)

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Curlysue (message) 1,703 posts, Bumble bee

I also thought about that but my mom quickly pointed out, while she thought it was a nice idea, she knew my dad (they are divorced) would secretly be bummed but would do what I wanted. I decided to stick with tradition and have my dad do the solo bit. I’m really looking forward to it and I know I’ll need a hanky.

3/4/10 @ 5:51 pm (reply)

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Farfromachildbride (message) 1,006 posts, Bumble bee

I think you made the right decision. And I think your mom will enjoy being seated while all of your BMs come down the aisle and then she can have the best view of you and your father/her husband walking down the aisle together. That is an image she will want to keep in her heart and mind forever more!!

3/4/10 @ 5:55 pm (reply)

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Miss Trail Mix (message) 6,312 posts, Bee Keeper

That’s really sweet, your dad sounds like a wonderful man…In Jewish tradition, both parents walk the bride down the aisle and that is very fitting, seeing as how I’m much much closer to my mom than my dad…

3/4/10 @ 6:09 pm (reply)

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Talishazwi (message) 1,444 posts, Bumble bee

That is exactly what happened to me! I mentioned I would love both mom and dad walk me down the aisle and my sister mentioned it would probably kill my dad. I agreed, I couldn’t take away one of his few moments to shine. He takes the job of walking down seriously.

3/4/10 @ 6:10 pm (reply)

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sapphirebride (message) 1,747 posts, Bumble bee

I think you’re doing the right thing to honor your father. Perhaps you can find another way to honor your mother in the ceremony as well?

3/4/10 @ 6:19 pm (reply)

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Miss Sewing (message) 2,701 posts, Sugar bee

Your dad seems really sweet! I’m sure your mom will be just as honored to see her daughter walk down with her father, in any case!

I think my mom would be upset if I asked her to walk with my dad and I, cause then she wouldn’t be able to take pictures of the two of us!

3/4/10 @ 6:45 pm (reply)

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Miss Scissors (message) 7,343 posts, Bee Keeper

I did the same thing! I initially chose both parents, but then didn’t realize that Mom really wanted the special mother’s seating, as well as my Dad wanted to fly solo. Back to just him, which will be great.

3/4/10 @ 6:58 pm (reply)

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