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Let’s have a look at the family scales:
First there’s Mr. Veggie’s family. Nice and nuclear. Two parents. One brother. Niece. Nephew.
Notice how we all fit on one couch.
Then there’s my family.
*All photos personal photos.
We don’t even fit in one picture. I’ve got steps, halves, dads, moms, the works.
Why do bring this up? Well, because I am going to have all of my sisters as bridesmaids. Since I have moved around a lot in my adult life I have many good friends from all over. My friendships tend to come in waves, stronger sometimes with certain people, weaker sometimes, mostly depending on where I’m living at the moment, but my sisters have been a consistent force in my life since as long as I can remember. Plus they’re all really rad, amazing women. Who could ask for better bridesmaids?
That means four ladies for me. Mr. Veggie would like to have his brother stand on his side. 4-1.
I also am really close with my (very tall and shaggy haired) little brother. So, he needs to be in the wedding party. I’d love to have him stand on my side, but that brings the score to 5-1.
I guess it would be OK if my bro stood with the other dudes. It would also appease his sense of masculinity. 4-2
My brother-in-law (Veggie Sis K’s hubby) is a second brother to me. We even went on a road trip together this past summer without my sister since she had to work. But I feel like if I include him then I should also include Mr. Veggie’s sister-in-law, who I also absolutely adore. 5-3
Wait, who’s going to be watching all those adorable little veggie sprouts while us grown-ups are doing wedding party duties? Maybe it’s best to leave out the in-laws. 4-2
Bridal parties don’t have to be evenly matched. Right?
So, do we leave it at that? Four ladies and two guys? Or does Mr. Veggie recruit two extra dudes?
The problem is that a lot of his “dudes” are actually “dudettes”. He has several close girl friends, but not too many guy friends that he feels super close to anymore. The dudes he does feel close to are childhood friends and live overseas, so he feels bad asking them to take a major role in the wedding. Also, Mr. Veggie is a bit older than me, and many of his friends are older than him. Wouldn’t it be weird for one of his 50+ year old friends to escort my 20 year old sister down the aisle?
I don’t know… what would you do?
I’d keep your 4-2. You still have even (even if different) numbers on each side. You could even have one dude escort two ladies if you like. Unless of course, Mr. Veggie has anyone else that he thinks it is important to include.
I would leave it how it is. The guys will feel great getting to excort a girl on each arm, plus, those are such important positions, you don’t want to just stick random people there to fill spots. I love uneven parties.
I agree, leave it 4-2. It definitely does not have to be even, especially if the reasoning would be to pull in people to fill the spots who might not “fit” for other reasons. And I agree that the 2 girls for 1 guy idea would look great! You are not having a cookie cutter wedding, same with tons of brides to be on the ‘bee, and forcing an even wedding party just does not make sense!
Another vote for keeping it 4-2. You guys should choose the people you really want to have standing up with you rather than worrying about filling a certain number of spots. We were 5-3, and it worked perfectly 
I vote for 4-2. You could always have the guys file in together and stand at the front and have your ladies walk in solo in front of you. Then, the guys each get a lady on each arm on the way out, which I always think looks kind of cute and no one really notices because the ceremony is over and everyone is focused on getting to the party!
We had 4-2 for my wedding in December. The guys didn’t walk the girls down the aisle, they just stood in the front and then each girl had 2 gets walking her up the aisle afterwards. It actually looked quite good.
I like the 4-2. It’s uneven without being crazy to organize the aisle walking.
[but i don't think there is a problem with mr. veggie's older friends escorting your sister down the aisle]
One guy with 2 girls should be fine. We are doing 3 girls and 6 guys which will equal 4 bodies on each side but having two guys escort one girl. It works out well, especially because half of the guys are related to me but none of the girls are.
Being uneven is totally fine - I’d just stick with that to keep it simple. Sometimes, keeping it to family actually helps avoid drama - no friends will be wondering why they didn’t make the cut when another friend did.
What does Mr. Veggie want? The people standing up with him are people who will support him: they’ll spend time with him getting ready, help you both with whatever wedding prep is needed, etc. They’ll be the people closest to you and him on that day. What about his close friends who are girls? Nothing to say they can’t be a part of it.
Certainly don’t add more for balance in pictures. As long as Mr. Veggie has the friends and family he wants around him on that day, don’t worry about the numbers!
I’d definitely leave it 4-2. We were going to be 2-3, but one of the guys had to drop out of the wedding, so we’re even again. I think, the most important thing is that you have who you want standing with you, not how many are on each side!
Our party is uneven, 5 on my side, 7 on FI’s. I wanted to keep mine small and meaningful and FI sort of asked a couple guys for political reasons that he now kind of regrets. All in all I don’t mind the numbers being uneven, I think my BM’s actually like the idea of more guys than girls, more attention on them. I just hope we all fit in the limo! 
My wedding party is 2 -1 my sis and step-sis and Fi’s brother. I’d leave it as it is. I think it’s more important to have those people with you, than to make it even.
Go with the 4-2. I’m doing 2-4 for my July wedding. Congrats!
If you are okay with an uneven number, than don’t ask more people just to ask. I don’t think the age thing will be a huge issue. What a good lookin family!
Another vote for the “uneven” party members! 2 gals on one gent’s two arms - isn’t that every guy’s dream??? haha!
I’d keep it 4-2 unless there is someone he really wants to ask. But if he’s not asking his friends because of the age difference, I don’t think there is any problem with that. I’ve been escorted by someone 20-30 years my senior.
You can have it uneven, it adds to the personality of your wedding
We had 9 and 7, and it worked out beautifully! If you’re crazy about your SIL, why not have her? She’ll feel great to be included. We also had a mixed crowd for both sides: I had 4 guys and he had 2 girls, so buck off those wedding “musts” and do what you like!
keep it 4-2 veg!! who cares about the aisle anyway , it is literally like 2 minutes of the entire event
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Mrs. Veggie, Raglan, New Zealand/Scranton, PA Age and Occupation: 27, Director of Small Non-Profit Fiance's Age and Occupation: 42, PhD Student & Farmer Engagement Date: June 13, 2009 Wedding Date: August 2010 Venue: Indian Head Camp, Honesdale Pennsylvania About Me: I am a tree-huggin' farmer turned enthusiastic wedding-planner. I live in a house truck and wear flip-flops more often than shoes. In my old life I was a high school Spanish teacher in love with a crazy guy who lived off-the grid on a farm in New Hampshire. But, we decided to mix things up a bit, quit our jobs and move to New Zealand. My southern hemisphere lifestyle involves growing veggies, teaching, running our small non-profit, and surfing. I love laughing, singing, playing, and the inspirational Mr. Veggie (of course!). For our wedding, I am committed to throwing a killer party that celebrates our values without breaking the bank. Look forward to an eco-thrifty summer-campy weekend-long extravaganza.
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