5 Months?

We hit the 5 month countdown last week and it prompted me to get my butt in gear. So far my planning has mostly been inspiration boards, venue-ing, and more inspiration boards, but this week I’ve been a veggie with a mission (like a secular version of one of those Veggie-Tales characters).



Actually, in all honesty, it wasn’t the 5 month mark that prompted me into action, it was my first visit to an anonymous wedding site that offers a “wedding checklist”. After 8 months of wedding planning I had heard much about this site, but never logged on.

As a total wedding novice, the idea of someone giving me a wedding to-do list sounded great, so I entered my email address and wedding date and was promptly greeted with about 100 red alarm clocks smacking me in the face. Really? Whoa!

Being “fashionably late” doesn’t really faze me that much”¦ “on-time” is not a phrase that most people would generally associate with Miss Veggie. But usually I at least have an idea that I’m running behind schedule. This time, no clue. Really. Plus, as previously mentioned, this wedding is supposed to be a way to show off the grown-up more organized me.

I have to say “The Wedding Checklist” was not a boost to my wedding self-esteem. Not only were there about one-hundred-thousand things that we haven’t done yet, there were also a wealth of not-yet-even-thought-about things to do on that list. i’m feeling a little overwhelmed.

Where to start? Any other August brides out there? How far along are you in your planning?


Mrs. Veggie

Raglan, New Zealand/Scranton, PA
Wedding Date:
August 2010
Welcome to the Party, Wedding Party!
Two Steps Forward”¦
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    summerhill 163 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:11 pm

    oh my goodness, I did the same thing RIGHT after we set our date for August and I almost cried after I saw all the things I was supposedly hopelessly behind on! Then I came to my senses and made my own, much more realistic to-do list. :)

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    scissors 7343 posts, Busy Beekeeper @ 6:16 pm

    I think that wedding checklist has self-destructed for me. I have about 1000000 alarm clocks. I think said checklist is only trying to push products… :p

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    teaadntoast 2595 posts, Sugar bee @ 6:19 pm

    The best thing I ever did for my wedding was chuck the one-size-fits-all planning guides and to-do lists. All they did was make me feel stressed, pressed for time and hugely disorganized. At some point I just made a list of what I cared about most and addressed them in that order (with allowances for things like shipping times.) Food and photography were done way in advance, but I’m 23 days out from my wedding and just now getting around to favors.

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    missvintage 571 posts, Busy bee @ 6:19 pm

    I hate that checklist! It has been banned.

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    lizzybeans11 12 posts, Newbee @ 6:21 pm

    Pre-made checklists are bad, mmkay?

    Ignore them and stick to your own priorities. You don’t need to think about anything else!

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    stripes 1063 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:23 pm

    LOL. This happened to me at around the 8 month mark- that ubiquitous list had over 50 incredibly important things to do in month 8!!! Seriously- I never plan to do most of the things on that list so I wrote my own (a novel) but at least I was happy that everything on the list was something important that mattered to me. Good luck veggie! :)

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    mermaideve 528 posts, Busy bee @ 6:23 pm

    That list is in-SANE! I like the one at offbeatbride.com. Much more realistic.

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    frenchfries 2168 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:40 pm

    I have a bajillion (yes, that’s a technical term!) alarm clocks on my own checklist on that very same site. :)

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    farmersdaughter 1675 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:45 pm

    I agree that the list is not the Bible of wedding planning, but I HAVE found it helpful in reminding about things that I totally failed to put on my own checklist.

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    hotwings 2200 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:28 pm

    I had a near breakdown this Monday thinking about the amount of work I have left to do and how I need to start asking for help. You are definitely not alone!

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    taco 946 posts, Busy bee @ 7:32 pm

    I’m an August bride! I’m getting married mid-month, so I’m staring at 4.5 months to go, myself. I started planning way (way) early, like the day after we got engaged. My ideas and hopes and desires have changed a lot since then (several reality checks and more realistic timeline projections later). I guess we (I, haha) got a lot of the big stuff out of the way within the first few months of engagement (last summer). Then we just stopped doing a lot of the other piddly things until 2010 rolled around. I still have PLENTY of these dumb piddly red-tape kinda things to handle (they’re all on my own checklist, I’m trying to swear off all those other pre-printed ones).

    Goal is for all of it to be DONE by the end of July so I can get going on the fun parts. That, and I don’t want to be dealing with logistics while also dealing with our families in town, ack!

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    sapphirebride 1748 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:48 pm

    I think the dangerous thing about checklists is that they suggest so many things that you maybe don’t even want to do. Use the lists for inspiration, but make sure that the only things that make it to *your* list are the things you want and need to do.

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    nonimouse12 330 posts, Helper bee @ 9:00 pm

    I liked that checklist, because I checked off all of the things that we aren’t doing (which was a lot!) which made me feel totally productive, even though I had barely done a thing.

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    thingsiloveblog 50 posts, Worker bee @ 9:18 pm

    I did the exact same thing at the 6-month mark, and I nearly had a heart attack. It took a hysterical sobbing phone call with my sister to make me realize that I was being completely ridiculous. My fiance and I went through the checklist together and crossed off everything on it that did not apply to us (about 85% of the list), and then I wrote the remaining items in my notebook. Haven’t gone back to that wedding website since. :)

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    Jessica, Guest @ 9:22 pm

    I also did this recently and the 100+ alarm clocks are still staring at me! I’ve got about 6 months and sometimes life gets in the way and then I think – oh my I’m getting married – I better get on that!

    Good luck to you :-)

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    eimersc 234 posts, Helper bee @ 9:27 pm

    I’m about shocked at how little time is left before my August wedding. Maybe I can postpone a bit? Kidding. I like looking at the online to do list every so often, just as a reminder of some of the “supposed to do” things. Not like I need to use it, neccessarily…but, I’m not overly organized, so it can be helpful. Plus, I can change the due dates, and add my own tasks. Pretty helpful.

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    turtle 776 posts, Busy bee @ 10:03 pm

    Ahhh! The to-do list seriously needs to die. I tend to look at it every few months, panic, and then go back to ignoring it until the next time.

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    mander411 735 posts, Busy bee @ 10:03 pm

    I haven’t looked at that in months. I’m going to wander over and see if I have a panic attack

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    sasapok 77 posts, Worker bee @ 12:51 am

    I am also at the 5 month mark now! And I am SCARED. =(

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    argyle 2519 posts, Sugar bee @ 1:36 am

    I’ve learned to ignore those checklists. I’m either way ahead or way behind, so I created my own checklist.

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    sarahbean 87 posts, Worker bee @ 6:28 am

    Haha I’m an August bride and got engaged 2 weeks ago tomorrow, so am MASSIVELY behind according to pretty much everyone, but I genuinely don’t care! we’ve managed to find a venue and a church, I’m picking up my dress today and best of all it’s only 4 months til I get to marry my boy so I’m damned if they’re going to make me feel bad!! (sorry, vent over!) Our best man printed one of those lists but apparently my Fi should have started his facial care routine 5 months ago- LOL! Just go at your speed hun!

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    ktisthatbees 1686 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:55 am

    I started that checklist too. Since the checklist was made for “everyone” there are going to be a lot of items that don’t apply to you, so here’s a suggestion. Click on see all lists to see the full list. Then go through and check off things that won’t apply to you. As an example, I won’t be having a flower girl or videographer, so I checked off find a videographer, meet with videographer, find flowergirl, get dress for flowergirl etc. Once I checked off all the things that weren’t relevant to “my” wedding and clicked update list, the list got A LOT smaller! Trust me, it will get your blood pressure back to normal.

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    ajonesyy 71 posts, Worker bee @ 9:04 am

    I am an August bride and don’t pay attention to what the wedding industry wants me to buy or book. That checklist is the devil. If I need to buy my garter for the garter toss 5 months in advance with the “Accessories for my dress,” then I will just skip it if I end up forgetting. The only things I am TRULY listening to on that checklist are timelines that involve etiquette, so sending invites out this many weeks in advance, etc.

    NO matter what, as long as you have an officiant and a place to have it (and maybe food and alcohol), you will have an amazing love-filled wedding. :) Go at your own pace!

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    alivoo01 2625 posts, Sugar bee @ 10:34 am

    No worries! It’s not as bad since I too was faced with a million alarm clocks. I went through the checklist and checked off things that didn’t apply to us and then went back to cross things off that we already completed. The list dwindled down in no time to a much more manageable list!

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    pmerr 2728 posts, Sugar bee @ 10:34 am

    I’m August too!! I have tons of lists that I don’t follow hoping it will help me! Luckily I have all the big parts done, and I’m just focusing on the small details now.

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    cola 2827 posts, Sugar bee @ 7:56 pm

    I think I felt most overwhelmed at the 5 month mark too. It was right after Christmas, and I felt so behind because I hadn’t done anything wedding related after the holidays. But it’s ok, really! You still do have plenty of time! :)

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    mrspaetz 3812 posts, Honey bee @ 11:16 pm

    don’t worry, i say settle the big things, what’s impt to you, and then take on smaller stuff that aren’t absolute must-haves. delegating helps too!

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