We’re in the Double Digits, People!

We’re in the Double Digits, People!

April 1st, 2010 @ 4:46 pm by Mrs. Pudding
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Well, not yet. Our wedding is actually 100 days from today. So technically, we will be in the double digits tomorrow.

Where did all the time go? When we got engaged in August 2008, the wedding seemed a lifetime away. I have to admit that I was upset about the fact that I would have to wait so long to walk down the aisle. I tried to twist our timeline any which way to get the date bumped up, but it just wasn’t possible.

Now that the wedding is just around the corner, I find myself wishing that I had more time. I even (jokingly) asked Mr. Pudding if he would mind postponing.

To be honest, I am feeling a little unprepared. There is still so much to do, wedding wise, but my fears go beyond that. I’m feeling a little bit unprepared for this “married” part - for this part when I officially leave my family to begin one of my own - the part where I become an adult.

Yes, I realize that I am 27 years old.

Yes, I realize that by the time Mama Pudding was my age she already had 3 kids to take care of. But the thing is, deep down inside I don’t feel 27. I feel about 17. Every time I hear Abba’s “Dancing Queen”, I feel like they’re singing to me.

So, I guess I am having a case of cold feet. But my cold feet aren’t about Mr. P. I know that I want to be with him. We’ve been together for 6 years already, so I feel like that’s pretty clear. My cold feet are towards this “growing up” business.

Is anyone else as nervous as I am to finally become an adult?

P.S. I realize that for many of you your wedding did not mark the day that you became an adult. The day you got your first job, first apartment, first child, etc., did. Please excuse my rather old fashion view of what marriage means.

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27 Responses to “We’re in the Double Digits, People!”

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jordynrose (message) 6,351 posts, Bee Keeper

I am sad to leave my family (living situation wise), but I am exicted to start a life with FI.

4/1/10 @ 4:49 pm (reply)

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jgoulart (message) 1,069 posts, Bumble bee

I agree with you 100%!! I am only 24 and have lived on my own (well, with roommates) for almost four years now. Best years of my life. I’ll definitely miss that the most. Coming home to all my best friends in one house. Revolving friends, yes. I’ve had about nine different roommates but loved them all.

I do however, look forward to no rent, no deposit wars, no sharing the bathroom with three other girls and only one other persons dirty dishes. :o)

4/1/10 @ 4:58 pm (reply)

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moderndaisy (message) 6,703 posts, Bee Keeper

I feel the same way you do that I was upset about how long our engagement was and now I’m wishing we could postpone the wedding as I still have a million things to do. And I am also having a little bit of ‘cold feet’ as far as the reality of being married finally hitting me. It always sounded like something abstract, like “Yeah, when we’re married” Same as “Yeah, when we finally go on that European vacation”. Like, sounds nice but hard to actually imagine.

4/1/10 @ 4:59 pm (reply)

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Miss Hot Dog (message) 317 posts, Helper bee

Agreed. It’s hard to think of myself as Mr. Hot Dog’s WIFE! I’m SOOO looking forward to it, but I’ve always been his “girlfriend”… I really do feel like this will be my step into grownupness. Can’t wait!

4/1/10 @ 5:03 pm (reply)

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Miss Pretzel (message) 1,893 posts, Buzzing bee

I am with you girl… double digits here I come… I am freaking out…

4/1/10 @ 5:08 pm (reply)

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Miss Hot Wings (message) 2,213 posts, Buzzing bee

I’ve had a long engagement too, and it scares me to think the wedding is coming up b/c of the workload and projects I need to finish. Happy double digits!!!

4/1/10 @ 5:12 pm (reply)

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JanieLeigh (message) 581 posts, Busy bee

we’re 51 days out and frankly, i’m freaking out! i’m 21, and marriage is marking my transition to adulthood as well. i don’t think i’m ready!! haha

4/1/10 @ 5:12 pm (reply)

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rawrkitty1022 (message) 516 posts, Busy bee

I agree with you completely. How am I old enough to be a wife? To leave my mom and dad? I have big time worries about this! I adore my fiance and I am very ready to commit myself to him, but man is it ever scary! For as much time as I spend planning this wedding, I spend even more time reading every book on marriage that I can get my paws on. This is a huge step - I am adult now and we will be our own family. Please know that you are definitely not alone Miss Pudding!

4/1/10 @ 5:26 pm (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

Yay!!! I’m going to be freaking out once we get there - we recently got down to below 300 and that was a huge deal for me. I don’t even want to know what I’ll be like once we get to 100

4/1/10 @ 5:33 pm (reply)

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Miss Nachos (message) 1,734 posts, Bumble bee

Haha, I’m 32 and I STILL feel like I’m 17. I don’t know if that ever goes away!

4/1/10 @ 5:48 pm (reply)

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shantastic (message) 122 posts, Blushing bee

I’m 26. I’m nervous, too, and we’re six months away. The thing, for me, is that I really liked being “alone,” too. I enjoyed being “an adult” with my own space separate from parents, roommates, husbands, children. And now…there’s going to be lots of sharing, isn’t there? And someone to criticize if the house is dirty or I’m sitting on the couch eating out of the tub of ice cream. That’s enough to make you nervous.

But, at the same time…isn’t it exciting?

4/1/10 @ 5:51 pm (reply)

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MissMichele (message) 134 posts, Blushing bee

It’s strange how getting married makes us feel so grown up? Me and my FI have been together for 4 years, and have a daughter together, but the title of “wife” just sounds so much older to me than I should be. I’m not sure I’m ready for that “extra” responsability some times, but then I remind myself, we already own a home, have a daughter, share bills. I guess it will finally be proof that I have my own family and will be sheding the “protection” of my parents last name. Heh.

4/1/10 @ 5:54 pm (reply)

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poetryreader80 (message) 89 posts, Worker bee

It’s definitely bringing different emotions to the surface. I have to share now! Not that I didn’t before with roommates, but now it’s sharing a bed, meals, etc. I can’t be selfish anymore.

4/1/10 @ 6:13 pm (reply)

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Miss Spaghetti (message) 282 posts, Helper bee

My FI used to joke with me that he doesn’t need a piece of paper to prove his love to me whenever I mentioned I wanted to get married. And to be honest he’s right….we’ve lived together for 3 years now and honestly after our special day the only difference is we have made is legal and received an extra piece of paper to file away. Don’t worry so much about the future and enjoy life in the moment!

4/1/10 @ 6:48 pm (reply)

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amariem25 (message) 3,740 posts, Sugar bee

it’s called a quarterlife crisis, and yes, I’m going through it too.

4/1/10 @ 7:19 pm (reply)

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Miss Cola (message) 2,870 posts, Sugar bee

Haha, this is funny because just last night I was telling Mr. Cola that after the wedding I’m going to try to cook real dinners and keep our house clean. I actually used the words “we need to start acting like adults after we get married.” Neither of us have lived with our parents since we were 18, and have both had steady, real jobs for about 5-6 years, but nope, we’re not adults yet! I’m not sure if us getting married will really change anything either. I think I’m going to be young at heart (and still eating frozen dinners) forever!

4/1/10 @ 7:22 pm (reply)

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OctPumpkin (message) 593 posts, Busy bee

Funny, I had my “omg, I have to be an adult” freak-out when I was 27, too - not at 30 when I expected. I only cried about the number when I turned 30, not the feeling. I think you’d have the same freak-out, wedding or not. I think it’s just that “something big” that triggers it.

4/1/10 @ 8:21 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Swan (message) 1,046 posts, Bumble bee

I DEFINITELY felt that way, Puddin’. Although I very much felt like an adult, I thought “I’m not prepared to be a wife yet!!” a few months before the wedding. At that point, I started to remind myself to just take each day as it comes and just to try to enjoy each day with Mr. Swan.

4/1/10 @ 8:31 pm (reply)

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mrspaetz (message) 3,805 posts, Honey bee

i still get the “OMG I’m a wife?!” feeling. I think the title signals a new milestone

4/1/10 @ 8:51 pm (reply)

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grass (message) 154 posts, Blushing bee

Wow, I totally understand, and think it’s so funny that everyone that has commented is such a big spread of age and life experiences! I’ve been living on my own for over 10 years, but am still a little shocked by how much of a milestone this is for me! In such a great way of course!
Because, as most know, after becoming a “wife,” it’s becoming a “mother,” and I think that that scares me more than almost anything.

4/1/10 @ 10:38 pm (reply)

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