To Dance or Not to Dance

To Dance or Not to Dance

April 2nd, 2010 @ 4:07 pm by Mrs. Lace
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Mr. Lace and I are huge fans of So You Think You Can Dance. Many of the dancers are so talented and able to dance so many different styles. Sometimes, I’ll watch and think to myself, ‘I’m not even sure which muscles to move to do that.’

I must live vicariously through them because I am NOT a dancer. I’ve got rhythm. I can hear a beat. But I have no spatial kinesthetic intelligence. I just don’t. I can do a couple of basic dance moves and do goofy moves, but let’s just be real here. I suck at dancing.

In addition to that, Mr. Lace is not the kind of guy who likes everyone looking at him. He doesn’t like to be in the spotlight (I realize this will be a bit of an issue come the wedding day).

So, when we were working through our schedule and got to first dance, we quickly skipped it and said we’d come back to it later.

I don’t want to make a fool of myself.

Mr. Lace doesn’t want hundreds of pairs of eyes staring at him. A more traditional first dance would be a little less pressure. We joked about doing a choreographed dance, but we don’t know. Or, we could skip it and pretend like nothing happened.

A traditional dance makes for some sweet photos.

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A fun choreographed dance gives laughter all around. An added bonus: your future children will totally be embarrassed. Knowing me, I’d trip on my dress and fall flat on my face.

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“Huh? What first dance?”

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What kind of first dance are you having? Are you opting out of a first dance?

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23 Responses to “To Dance or Not to Dance”

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Bee

Miss Ribbons (message) 2,018 posts, Buzzing bee

We can’t decide! I didn’t think about embarrassing future children, but I’m glad you brought it up. ha!

4/2/10 @ 4:14 pm (reply)

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rawrkitty1022 (message) 516 posts, Busy bee

My fiance has some serious moves. He is a good dancer, like, for real, good. He was trained in ballet as a kid. He could probably legitimately put me and our wedding guests to shame. But he doesn’t like all eyes on him either and he’s dreading a first dance. I’m sure we’ll end up doing one…but it make take some prodding lol

4/2/10 @ 4:23 pm (reply)

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Rhey

I highly recommend taking ballroom dancing lessons. Even my (now) husband enjoyed them (much to his surprise), and it really takes some of the pressure off of feeling like you can’t dance or don’t know what you are doing.

4/2/10 @ 4:32 pm (reply)

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Miss Taco (message) 950 posts, Busy bee

We’re doing one, but we’re going to practice so it’s not just the eighth-grade-dance kinda dance. Maybe a turn here and there.

4/2/10 @ 4:36 pm (reply)

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littlemissmoo (message) 3,006 posts, Sugar bee

We’re opting out. And hopefully our family and friends won’t be too disappointed and pressure us into something that we don’t want to do. But I do love first dance photos.

4/2/10 @ 4:51 pm (reply)

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Christine

We totally did the swaying sort of “we’ve got no moves” dance. BUT we had some friends and family join us dancing half way through, so it totally worked out (we had no bridal party). My other girlfriend more recently had her bridal party join her and the husband out on the dance floor.

I think you can totally do that, you get the sweet photos, but the dancing solo part doesn’t last too long.

4/2/10 @ 5:14 pm (reply)

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marieta (message) 339 posts, Helper bee

We’re opting out of having dancing at the wedding at all, that’s how much we dislike the idea of having to dance ourselves. We still haven’t figured out what we ARE going to do, we just know it won’t be dancing.

I do like to dance, but I’m shy. I HAVE to have choreography or I just can’t do it in front of people–I can’t even dance in front of my FI. I have no confidence in any moves I do on my own. I like ballroom dancing and would like to take lessons again sometime if FI is up for it. But not just for the wedding. I don’t like that idea. I did take swing lessons once, but that was before I met my FI and I didn’t have a regular partner, which made it difficult.

4/2/10 @ 6:18 pm (reply)

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Miss Lace (message) 702 posts, Busy bee

@rawrkitty1022: Mr. L is just like your FI. He can dance but he doesn’t necessarily want to do it in front of hundreds of people!

@marieta: ME TOO! That’s exactly how I am. I could do it if I had enough time to practice on my own.

4/2/10 @ 6:53 pm (reply)

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Mrs. French Bulldog (message) 7,730 posts, Bee Keeper

Mr Lace sounds a lot like Mr Frenchie (and I took dance lessons but I’m not Dance star) anyway we decided to take dance lessons do a choreographed dance, but we did a simple, slow dance. So we still had the sweet pictures, but Mr Frenchie had something else to concentrate on then everyone staring at us

4/2/10 @ 6:53 pm (reply)

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Miss Cardigan (message) 8,645 posts, Bee Keeper

We plan to get our first dance choreographed, if we have time. The only person we’ve found so far that’s in our budget is in our hometown, and we don’t visit very often!

4/2/10 @ 6:54 pm (reply)

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etothez

we were the same way, but we decided to take the moment and ask everyone to join us on the dance floor for “In the Mood,” in honor of my husband’s late grandma who loved to dance and loved Glen Miller.

4/2/10 @ 9:14 pm (reply)

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jordynrose (message) 6,351 posts, Bee Keeper

We are doing a traditional first dance, but having the bridal party join part way through.

4/3/10 @ 1:51 am (reply)

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stephk23 (message) 126 posts, Blushing bee

We were gifted private lessons at Arthur Murray and they’re choreograph a nice waltz for us to our music, but they’re also teaching us other dances so we can look like we know what we’re doing all night.

4/3/10 @ 9:37 am (reply)

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Iggy (message) 23 posts, Newbee

I’ve thought about trying to do a fun choreographed dance, but like you, my fiance and I are not great dancers and don’t like being the center of attention. I think we will stick to the traditional first dance.

4/3/10 @ 10:11 am (reply)

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4/3/10 @ 1:25 pm (reply)

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sapphirebride (message) 1,750 posts, Buzzing bee

We’re not doing anything too fancy, but we’re taking dance lessons so we can do something like a simple waltz and not look silly.

4/3/10 @ 4:24 pm (reply)

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krissybee (message) 3,921 posts, Honey bee

i think we’ll be doing a traditional first dance- high school sway style! we are both fairly shy!

4/3/10 @ 8:59 pm (reply)

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lbjune

We’ll be doing the traditional first dance - I don’t want to worry about trying to remember any steps! Ooh - and that is my venue in the first picture - I love those windows!

4/5/10 @ 9:20 am (reply)

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Sarah

Find a free east-coast style swing class–they’re everywhere, and you can east coast to just about anything.

In fact, two seconds of Google gets you this:
http://pasadenaballroomdance.com/
Every Saturday night, free half-hour swing class. Can’t beat it! In half an hour, you’ll probably learn the basic and two turns–that’ll get you though at least a verse and a chorus, and then you invite the wedding party or your parents up so the stares can be shared.

4/5/10 @ 11:24 am (reply)

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