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Mr. Taco and I have similar taste, and decorating our shared apartment (which we’ve had for a year) was painless. So has crafting our wedding style, since he enthusiastically approved many things I forced him to look at sent his way. However, we still have disagreements over photos-of-people-as-decor: especially if they’re pictures of us. His general idea is that it’s weird to have framed pictures of the residents of a home in said home. It’s slightly less weird, but still weird to him, to have pictures of friends and family, also. I think his exact words were, “that’s what the fridge is for.”
I’ve done it a number of ways over the years. But my preferred method now is to keep a few engagement/wedding photos in the public, living spaces. Non-people art (paintings, graphic prints, non-photographic mementos from vacation) also live out there. Pictures of us with friends would, ideally, live in our bedroom. These include vacation and/or party photos, and one photo in an engraved frame (my BM present after A’s wedding).
I convinced him to have wedding and engagement photos in the out-there, but I’m still trying to understand the problem (really, I am). To his credit, the walls of photos of us and our pals drinking from red plastic cups belong to another time and place, it’s true. But, dear god! They’re our wedding photos, and I’d certainly hate to see them live solely in digital form, as often as I’d visit them in the binary world.
… Right? Or no?
What are you doing with those photos you couldn’t wait to see? If you are putting them up, is the where/how many important to you?
We’ve already been gifted some fantastic photo frames as gifts and are planning to hang them all over. Our “guest book” is a matte for a photo frame, so that’ll probably be one of the first things we hang once we get our pictures back.
Oh man are you marrying my FI? He doesn’t like anything personal in guest-viewed space. Which means he hates that I put ANYTHING on the fridge, any personal pics out in the living room, or even putting birthday cards on the mantel! He thinks our house should look like a model home and that all that personal stuff is what college dorms and single-hood apartments are for. To him, owning a house = making it look like a model house. We reached a compromise on the fridge (I have 2 pictures on the front of us and the rest of the stuff I like to put on the fridge is on the side, not super-viewable unless you’re right next to it)…. and cards (they can stay up but for 1 week max)… but we’re still in negotiations over personal photos. 
My FI is the same way! Hw doesn’t understand why we (or even his parents) would display one of our engagement photos, etc. It’s frustrating. I don’t want a bunch of pictures of myself around, but I at least want a wedding photo up when the time comes! He says it’s because he never photographs well, haha.
I actually kind of get your fiance’s perspective. We have pictures of ourselves with friends/family in the bedroom, and that’s it. Putting photos of just us feels odd to me - we live there, we know what we look like already! And having anything in the more public areas feels like we expect our friends to coo over photos of us with people they don’t even know!
We’re the opposite, we love photos of us, friends and family mixed in with our framed art and FI’s paintings.
Maybe if you explained it like, the photos are on display as a reminder to you of the wonderful day of your wedding/engagement/time you walked up a mountain? It’s not a “what did we look like” thing, it’s an emotional reminder and maybe a tangible example of you guys as a unit.
I can’t understand not wanting to look at your wedding pictures.
I totally agree with your FI. I think it’s kind of odd when people line their walls with wedding photos, especially two or three years after the wedding. It’s as if it’s a testament to the relationship, when photos have little to do with it. We chose one or two tasteful photos to display, and the rest are put away to be taken out and be delightfully rediscovered at a later date. I can choose a different two in a couple of years, and rotate them in and out, but no need to have several out there all the time.
But then again, I don’t put personal pics of us on my desk or office at work either. Not until there’s chilluns involved!
My guy is the same way!! We don’t live together, but we’ve discussed this and he doesn’t see the point, he says he has pictures of us on his computer and in his phone, that he can look at whenever he wants to. I on the other hand have several pictures of us in my place. When we’re married we will just have to compromise. I need at least 1 or 2. So I guess that means he will have to give in
I am obsessed with taking, printing, organizing, framing, etc photos!! I have like, a million displayed in our apt and I love it, I love being surrounded by images of the people that I love…So I’m on team Miss Taco all the way!
My fiance doesn’t really care either way, but I’m kind of photo obsessed - I want them EVERYWHERE!
I need to figure out what to do with our pictures. We have some around our house, but I want more!!
I didn’t realize that this was ever an issue! Thank god my honey loves pictures like I do. We have pictures throughout the house of our loved ones, some with us, some without. And we have pictures of just the two of us in our bedroom. Those pictures mean more then just what we look like. They are from moments in our life together and we love seeing them daily.
How funny, Mr. Turtle and I were just having this same discussion about our engagement pictures. We want to get prints and put them up, but we both thought it seemed a little weird to have framed pictures of just the two of us around our house. For some reason, it feels like it’s not so weird if there are other friends and family with us in the pictures. We might hang wedding photos of us with our friends and family around the house, and pick a couple favorites of just the two of us to keep in our bedroom.
I really want to put photos out too but it’s the way of displaying them that eludes me. I don’t want to have a million frames around but I also don’t want a massive collage in a poster frame. I think I might lean towards one of those wall frames from Target that has 10 or more differently sized frames that are all metal-worked together. It will fit with our artsy little row house but also allow us to show some photos in a not so ordinary way.
I can definitely see both sides with this debate. On the one hand, I absolutely love pictures and having reminders of my friends and family and life’s happy moments all around me. On the other hand, I grew up in one of those “model houses” that never had any personal photos displayed and it definitely seems a little uncomfortable to me when I visit other people’s homes and am staring at pics of little johnny with smushed carrots on his face and John and Sue in their bathing suits in some vacation photo. Why does it bother me? I have no clue, but it does . . . Maybe a few tasteful, not too personal wedding or engagement photos would be the middle ground?
I think about this often. I love photography, but I don’t want our house to be a shrine to use. We try to mix photos of friends and family with us. As for wedding photos, I think the ones making an appearance in the living room will be ones including family. We will save the just us photos for (grand)parents.
We have pix of us in our house, and some of our friends think its weird also, but that’s the only way we get to see our pix. We see them and smile and reminisce about that particular trip or event that marks something about our relationship. FI is okay with it and so am I so eh! haha!
At least you’re allowed wall decorations, of any sort! Mr. Cola has some weird hatred for pictures on walls, so our family room/TV room is still bare after having lived there for over 3 years.
For the record, I think that you’re right!
For the freakin’ money, MAN, these are going EVERYWHERE! Riding these puppies ’till the wheels fall off 
(Thank God the FI is ambivalent!)
Yes! Thank you. I’m a little confused about where to put our e-shoot pictures, and how many, but I think it would be a waste to just have them living on my laptop!
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Mrs. Taco, San Francisco Age and Occupation: 29, writer/editor Fiance's Age and Occupation: 37, editor Engagement Date: May 13, 2009 Wedding Date: August 2010 Venue: The Green Room at the War Memorial Veterans Building About Me: I like laughing and talking with good friends over good food and good drink, be it wine, cocktail, or brew. I write and edit things for fun and profit, but I rarely "write" these days without a keyboard and high-speed internets. Favorites include Mr. Taco, my Boston terrier, San Francisco, getting out of town, and the Roaring ’20s. I was kind-of planning a wedding since roughly 2006, when I discovered "Whose Wedding Is It Anyway?" on the WE channel. I ran and didn't look back with a theme I called "urban vintage," and it culminated in the most magical day a taco could ask for.
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