- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee Blog
Yesterday afternoon in the rain, we buried my good friend’s mom.
Because death doesn’t wait for weddings.
Then last night I received a voicemail from another friend, my best friend since kindergarten, and I just knew. I could hear it in her voice. She simply said, “Call me. I just wanted to let you know what’s going on.” I already knew it was her mom, the woman who I’ve considered my second mom for 27 years. So I put on my big girl pants, and I called her.
Because sickness doesn’t wait for weddings.
As she spoke, everything over the last few days just hit me like a ton of bricks. And I had a little tear-filled meltdown. But it’s such a roller coaster because at the same time, I have this happy little voice whispering in my ear, “14 days till the wedding, it’s so close!” This time in 2 weeks, I’ll be counting the hours instead of the days.
Despite everything that has happened over the last week, I’m trying to remind myself that I’m allowed to still be excited while all these bad things are happening at the same time. And although I find myself getting weepy over the littlest things, I’m being a good Libra and trying to keep my emotions as balanced as can be. Even with puffy eyes and not-so-cute oopsies of mascara on my swollen eyelids.
Because weddings shouldn’t wait for life to happen.
This is a really wonderful post, Miss Nachos. It’s terrible that these things had to happen, especially this close to your big day. But your wedding may just be the uplift that your friend will need, and that that her mom would want her to have.
I’m sorry to hear about your friends mother but just know brighter days are ahead and the wedding must go on. It’s ok to still be excited for a special day because you still have that person close in your heart. We all hit rough patches but the show must go on!
Chin up….14 days 
My prayers are with you! I’m so sorry to hear about your friends’ moms. Sometimes we have to walk through a dark room to find the light-switch.
I completely understand what you are going through. My wedding was August 1, 2009. Everyone hopes that their wedding day will be filled with joy and that you get to share it with your loved ones! Exactly one month before the wedding my grandmother passed away. My father had been battling rapidly growing cancer since December and we moved up the wedding in hopes that he would be able to walk me down the aisle. My world crashed around me when he passed away 3 days before my wedding. We debated about whether or not to have the wedding. Needless to say our wedding was beautiful and we did enjoy the day as much as can be expected.
The reason for the story… weddings are a way to celebrate life and the relationships that you have. We found ways to honor our loved ones and I felt their presences more than ever. I know your friends’ moms will be there with you and help to make your wedding perfect! My prayers are with you during this hard time!!!
Wow. This is one of the best posts I’ve read in a LONG time. So simple but so honest.
Thank you.
I am so sorry to hear about this Nachos! Things will get better, I know it!
I’m so sorry Nachos 
why does this stuff always seem to coincide with other events like weddings. My co-worker passed away a week before his daughters wedding was scheduled, it was heartbreaking.
Sorry to hear about your friend’s mom. This happened to me before my wedding too. My friends were torn between coming to our wedding and being at their mom’s side during the last few days of her life. They did come to celebrate with us, and when we came back from our honeymoon, we were lucky enough to visit with her and show her the photos from our wedding. I remember the year before, she asked us about getting engaged and started giving us ideas for our planning. =p
@hspiggy79: I’m glad you were able to celebrate with your friends and family and to honor your father also on the day of your union. I’m sure your father would have wanted you to live life.
Your post made me tear up. Stay strong, and don’t be afraid to be happy! Well put
My father has always said, “on the darkest day you can smile and laugh about something…”
Nachos your post totally made me cry. Our wedding is 4 months away and my dad was just diagnosed with cancer this week. Everything that upset me about wedding planning now seems so trivial. Now I just want to make sure that he can be there.
Totally with you on this one. You said it perfectly. One of our good friends passed away after a long struggle with a disease… My fiance had said he really hoped the next time the group would get together would have been our wedding… not at a funeral. He spent some time with his friends parents after the funeral and they spoke up and said that if we didn’t mind that they would like to come to the wedding in the place of our friend. We look forward to having them there so they can participate in the occasion since they will never be able to attend their own son’s wedding…. So sad, but life goes on and hopefully our wedding will be a bright spot in their year!
@French Fry I am so sorry to hear about your dad, I wish him and your family support and good thoughts through this rough time.
@Nacho…Im very sorry about your friend’s mothers. It does seem even harder on us brides and our grooms during this time of happiness when there is sadness in the air. Life happens all the time but it hits us in the gut when we are trying to be happy.
Ive been saying since the start of this yr that it was going to be our yr and a great yr…and it still is. But at the start of our month (April), it seemed like everything hit us with a ton of bricks too. A guy that I work with and cover his vacations fell at home and is doing really bad and Im not even sure if he is going to get out of the hospital or come back to work. I went to see him and he was hooked up to all kinds machines and they put him in an induced coma.
Then yesterday I learned that my stepdad’s brother in law passed away from a heart attack. Whats even worse is that his brother in law’s son was a cop who was killed two yrs ago. My heart cries for his sister who is the wife and mother who lost them both.
With 16 days to our wedding, I feel like I shouldnt be asking for a sunny day, a great day when someone has just lost their husband, who lost their son two yrs ago.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Mrs. Nachos, Chicago/St. Thomas Age and Occupation: 33, Commercial Real Estate & Hairstylist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 36, Radio Producer Engagement Date: May 22, 2009 Wedding Date: April 2010 Venue: Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas About Me: I'm a happy, laid back city girl that can find the silver lining in any situation. An optimist at heart, my motto is to turn your "what ifs?" into "so whats!". My fiance is a radio producer and the biggest Cubs fan you'll meet - our apartment decor definitely shows it. He and I grew up next door to each other and because of it, we have the best home videos and easiest holiday dinners. We are planning an intimate wedding in the Virgin Islands and a cocktail party in June for 150 of our closest friends.
| Sun | Mon | Tue | Wed | Thu | Fri | Sat |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 29 | 30 | 31 | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 |
| 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 |
| 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 | 18 |
| 19 | 20 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 | 25 |
| 26 | 27 | 28 | 29 |
Latest Gallery Pics