Brothers and Sisters

Brothers and Sisters

April 15th, 2010 @ 6:52 pm by Mrs. Lace
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Mr. Lace has a sister who is four years older than him and I have a brother who is six years older. Our older siblings watched over and took care of us while growing up and even now, keep watchful eyes over us. They’re so important to us, yet they really aren’t involved in the ceremony or reception in any way. I considered have Brother Lace walk me down the aisle, but I didn’t want to deny my parents that responsibility (although Momma Lace declined because she hates being stared at so she’ll walk in with Brother Lace and stand for the giving of the bride).

So, how are we going to involved Brother Lace and SIL Lace? We’re not sure yet. We’ve considered these options.

Toasts: Early on in the game, Brother Lace asked if he could make a toast which totally made my cry. So, he’s doing this. SIL Lace is welcome to also, although I’m not sure that she’d want to.
Some other kind of presentation during the reception. Maybe a Top 5 to-do list for Brother Lace to present to Mr. Lace and SIL Lace to present to me filled with funny stories from growing up.
Scripture reading during the ceremony: This is a possibility, however the verse we picked is pretty short so it wouldn’t really make sense to divvy it up. Plus, SIL Lace isn’t really religious.

We’re still brainstorming ideas and trying to come up with something that will involve them in some special way on that day.

How are you involving your siblings in your wedding day?

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22 Responses to “Brothers and Sisters”

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D.Marie (message) 2,484 posts, Buzzing bee

I think a reading for them or a toast would be a really nice way to involve them. My sisters and I dont actually get a long. My older sister is trying to be nicer and did a nice job of helping out at the bridal shower so maybe she will help out with our polaroid guest book! But my fiance’s son wanted to give a toast but the best man is already doing that so we asked him if he would like to give the blessing before we eat and he was honored.

4/15/10 @ 7:01 pm (reply)

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Miss Blossom (message) 13 posts, Newbee

My brother, who is not in the wedding party, will be my witness, instead of the MOH.it’s a way of including him without public speaking. He is totally chuffed

4/15/10 @ 7:06 pm (reply)

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alivoo01 (message) 2,625 posts, Sugar bee

My brother is one of the groomsmen and no speech for him as it will come out all non-english and not make any sense what so ever. haha!

4/15/10 @ 7:26 pm (reply)

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Miss Elephant (message) 6,182 posts, Bee Keeper

My brother and FI’s brother are in the wedding party and his sister will help hand out programs and possibly do hair for the bridal party (haven’t asked her yet).

4/15/10 @ 7:34 pm (reply)

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Miss Lace (message) 702 posts, Busy bee

@D.Marie: Oh I didn’t think about a blessing/prayer! That would be a good idea too!

@Miss Blossom: Thankfully, my brother ASKED to do a toast, but SIL Lace doesn’t like public speaking as much so that would be a good way of including. Thanks for the suggestion!

@alivoo01: Haha! I should ask my brother to do his speech in Chinese and SIL Lace to do hers in Thai. Everyone would be so confused!

@llc2011: I wish we just included them in the wedding party, but we already had 5 BM’s and 5 GM. :\

4/15/10 @ 7:38 pm (reply)

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tea (message) 7,295 posts, Bee Keeper

one sister will be a bridesmaid and the other will hopefully do a reading and will be making our cupcakes.

4/15/10 @ 7:48 pm (reply)

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Miss Argyle (message) 2,516 posts, Sugar bee

The Mr. and I don’t have siblings! We’re both only children - crazy, huh?

4/15/10 @ 8:26 pm (reply)

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Roux (message) 1,356 posts, Bumble bee

My 4 sisters will be in the bridal party. Mr Roux has 2 brothers that are about 10-12 years older than him. We are going to ask his oldest brother to marry us and the younger one to do a reading.

4/15/10 @ 8:28 pm (reply)

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rawrkitty1022 (message) 516 posts, Busy bee

We are having my brothers do readings

4/15/10 @ 8:33 pm (reply)

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Miss Squirrel (message) 11 posts, Newbee

our siblings are the only bridal party we are having.. since they are not only our family, but our friends! they are so important in our lives & have/will always be there for us! my wonderful Sister is my Matron-of-Honor & his awesome Brother is his best man. I was my Sisters Maid-of-Honor when she got married, & my amazing fiance was his Brothers Best Man when he got married. it worked out perfectly for us!!

4/15/10 @ 9:01 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pug (message) 3,753 posts, Honey bee

oh, i get all weepy just thinking about it–i’m very close with my sister and i was so excited that she wanted to give a toast. in addition to her expressing her feelings about me and the wedding, i also felt like it was her time to “shine”, you know?

4/15/10 @ 9:09 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Peep Toe (message) 1,804 posts, Buzzing bee

My sister did a toast and my brother did the blessing- it was perfect. So fun to recognize the ones we love.

4/15/10 @ 11:58 pm (reply)

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daniellemybelle (message) 2,520 posts, Sugar bee

My oldest brother is walking me down the aisle, and he’s a groomsman. My next oldest brother is doing a reading in the ceremony. My two youngest siblings are 5 and 2 so they will ring bearer and flower girl!

4/16/10 @ 8:05 am (reply)

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SabrinaR424 (message) 266 posts, Helper bee

I’ve been having the same dilemma. My fiance and I chose to have only a MOH and a Best Man (well, technically we have a Best Maid). They are my sister and his sister. However, that leaves my brother un-included, and I haven’t found a good way to include him. A toast might be perfect though!

4/16/10 @ 9:48 am (reply)

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Ms Potato Chips (message) 1,193 posts, Bumble bee

I think doing a reading or a toast would be the way to go, depending on whether they’re more comfortable reading from a set “script” or coming up with their own! Maybe getting them a little corsage/bout too?

4/16/10 @ 10:54 am (reply)

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SabrinaR424 (message) 266 posts, Helper bee

Ooh I like the corsage/boutonniere idea! I’ll definitely have to do that as well!

4/16/10 @ 11:05 am (reply)

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Miss Lace (message) 702 posts, Busy bee

@Ms Potato Chips & @SabrinaR424: Yes, your comment made me go back to my flowers list to double check if I asked for a bout/corsage for them. Thanks!

@daniellemybelle: I was thinking of this too, but my brother said my Dad would be pretty hurt to not be able to walk me down. :\

4/16/10 @ 11:07 am (reply)

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thebriz (message) 448 posts, Helper bee

We aren’t giving any siblings any tasks - we don’t have enough things to go around and if we don’t have enough for everyone, someone will feel left out. His brother is his BM, but that’s the extent of the siblings; everyone will just be a guest and enjoy it from that vantage and I am more than happy with that (as is FI).

4/16/10 @ 11:33 am (reply)

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Dancy905 (message) 1,730 posts, Bumble bee

My 3 bros are way older - but my nieces are in their 20’s & my bridesmaids. I still wanted to include them, so since we’re having a full catholic mass they’ll bring up the gifts. I left it up to them if they wanted to wear tuxes - all or nothing. They said no but I’ll still get them boutonnieres

4/16/10 @ 3:49 pm (reply)

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