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I like the authors’ attitudes towards thank yous. In the chapter introduction they explain that “great thank you notes tell people what they did—as well as how and why they did it—matters to us.” It’s a great way to view them as many people think of the thank yous as a daunting task. To be honest, I love writing notes, but I think after such a huge occasion that has taken quite some time to plan, writing notes is probably the last thing I’ll want to do.

So it’s nice to remember the importance of the note because the person probably did something really nice that made you happy.

One of the most helpful parts in the chapter is the breakdown of the note. The authors break down the structure of different types of notes, including thank you notes. They break the note down into 6 parts.

1. Greet the recipient
2. Express your gratitude
3. Elaborate
4. Compliment and look ahead
5. Restate your gratitude
6. Give your regards

They also give great adjectives to describe gifts. I find this helpful because when I have to write multiple thank you notes, it can get repetitive. It’s nice to have a resource for changing things up. If my writer’s block is really bad, I turn to their sample notes for some new writing style inspiration.

And if that doesn’t help, they even include questions to get ideas going. A couple I find helpful include:

• How did you feel when you opened the gift?
• If it is a gift of money or a gift card, how do you plan to use it?

The thank you chapter is broken into three parts: gifts, support & kindness, and social events & hospitality. So far, I’ve only used the gift section for engagement gifts, but I know the next two sections will be helpful when thanking our families and wedding party for their support and the vendors for their services.

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The best part of the book is that it expands beyond thank you notes. It includes all types of notes from business to congratulations to sympathy and more.

It’s great because I know I’ll use this gift long after our thank yous are sent out.

Did you find any great resources to help you write your thank yous?