Confession Time

Confession Time

April 16th, 2010 @ 3:04 pm by Mrs. Trail Mix
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OK, so my shower was completely amazing, wonderful, awesome, incredible, etc. Make no mistake about that. But I have to confess that it did end on a slightly negative note. Mr Trail Mix had been asked to stop by about half an hour before it was supposed to end. We made sure to finish up all the games and presents a bit early in order to have time to spend with him and take a few pictures and so forth. Well, at 1:40 we were still waiting for him. 10 minutes later, still waiting. Finally, with literally 3 minutes left before we had to leave, he made it.

I. WAS. PISSED, to put it bluntly. I had been looking forward to him coming the entire time and I wanted him to have a chance to be fussed over by all my aunts and cousins and get a chance to take some pictures of us together. When he finally arrived, I was, how shall I say? Not exactly nice to him. We actually got in a bit of a spat over it, although luckily I don’t think anyone else noticed since everyone was too busy moving the massive amounts of presents downstairs and collecting everything.

However, turns out he did leave with (barely) enough time to get there when he had been asked to arrive but he stopped to buy me flowers, in which took almost 20 minutes for the florist to make a bouquet. Once he told me this, I instantly felt like a complete and total ass. He apologized for being so late and missing the end of the shower, I apologized for over-reacting and being a mega-biotch.

But I’m still kind of mad at myself for getting so upset the last 30 minutes of the shower. My mom and aunt kept telling me to let it go and brush it aside but I just couldn’t.

So, I want to be the mature child and learn a lesson from my overreaction.

On the wedding day, I must not do the same thing. Obviously, something will go wrong on the day. It would be unrealistic of me to expect otherwise. Something will go wrong and I cannot let it bother me because the wedding day is too special to ruin with my emotional outbursts and irrational anger.

I know that this is a valuable lesson to learn, although I wish it hadn’t happened on such a special, lovely day like my bridal shower but I am willing to be a grown-up about things, learn from mistakes and move on. Come wedding day, I know now that these things are not worth getting upset over and I know that if I do get upset, I will regret it deeply in the following weeks to come.

So bring on the wedding disasters, I’m ready now. I can take whatever the wedding gods have in store for me. Lesson learned and you can all be sure I will be reminding myself of this and how I wish I had reacted, should anything go wrong on the big day.

Can anyone else relate to this experience? What’s been your biggest “lesson learned” moment?

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20 Responses to “Confession Time”

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moderndaisy (message) 6,607 posts, Bee Keeper

Oh gosh I totally hear you and I would have been VERY mad too. It’s like, his most important job is to be ON TIME, not to arrive dressed nicely or with flowers or anything. And the shower was really for the 2 of you, so it would have been nice if he got to experience more of it. This is exactly the type of thing I blow up over, I think because FI (and probably your FI too) barely does anything to make me mad in general so little things like this set me off..

4/16/10 @ 3:16 pm (reply)

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thebriz (message) 448 posts, Helper bee

I can sort of, but my FI knows me well enough that if something is coming to an end and I want him to be there, that would be more paramount to me than flowers (besides, he gets me flowers quite regularly, so one day of not getting any wouldn’t hurt). But everyone has moments where they overreact - I certainly wish I could take back a few of those.

You just learn from it and develop patience and try not to do it over again. But when it comes to “the” day, I know that I will not be patient if something goes wrong that could have been prevented or resulted in sheer laziness (rather than mother nature or act of God).

4/16/10 @ 3:19 pm (reply)

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Miss Hamster (message) 4,046 posts, Honey bee

Thanks for writing this! I think I would have behaved the same way (trying to work on it), and I tend to freak out a bit if thing stray off plan. I must remember this for the wedding day as well!

4/16/10 @ 3:20 pm (reply)

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Miss Reggae (message) 26 posts, Newbee

Miss TM, I can totally relate to you! Mr R is ALWAYS late! I’ve already told him if he’s late I’m gonna smack him (Playfully, of course!)

4/16/10 @ 3:52 pm (reply)

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sammyj (message) 37 posts, Newbee

I feel like you wrote this post for me! My FI showed up 40 minutes late to pick me up from my shower last weekend…not because he was picking up a bouquet…but because he took our puppy out for a muddy walk and had to bathe him. I was NOT happy with him!

Punctuality is a big deal to me. My biggest wedding challenge will be staying calm while the 130 other people involved in this shindig are dragging their butts!

4/16/10 @ 3:53 pm (reply)

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Miss Nachos (message) 1,733 posts, Bumble bee

Aw, don’t let it bother you, like you said, you learn from it and try not to let it happen again. Maybe it was the world’s way of making sure it doesn’t happen on your wedding day cause now you’re prepared!

4/16/10 @ 4:01 pm (reply)

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Miss Lobster (message) 668 posts, Busy bee

Oh yeah. Been there done that multiple times and still haven’t learned anything. I hate when people are late especially the FI. I always end up feeling bad. On the wedding day, maybe everytime something bad happens, have a sip of champagne! lol.

4/16/10 @ 4:05 pm (reply)

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AmberEyes (message) 390 posts, Helper bee

That’s a really good lesson! I will keep your story in mind during my own shower and wedding, as I do have the propensity to get b*tchy towards the fiance when things go wrong and he’s among the culprits. Thanks Trail Mix!

4/16/10 @ 4:31 pm (reply)

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CorgiTales (message) 9,861 posts, Bee Keeper

haha honestly I would’ve been pissed even after the explanation! I’d be like… I didn’t ask you for flowers and I don’t need them, what I need is for you to be on time when I ask you to be somewhere!! But, lateness is probably my #2 pet peeve in life and FI knows this (#1 is people letting their cell phones die). The lesson is good though— let the little things roll off your back so you don’t miss the good stuff!

4/16/10 @ 4:32 pm (reply)

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Leprechaun (message) 907 posts, Busy bee

I have SO been there–my fiance (bf at the time) missed almost my entire graduation weekend because he had procrastinated packing up his apt and his lease ended that week. Not only was I furious at him the whole weekend, but when it came time for his graduation the following year, I spent the whole time making snide comments about what he missed at mine and being generally-not-nice. My mom still brings that up all the time when we talk about the wedding!

4/16/10 @ 4:48 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pug (message) 3,753 posts, Honey bee

aw, i would have reacted the same way as you (both before and after knowing what the deal was). i like lobster’s advice of taking a sip of champagne. thanks for being honest about this and i’m glad you have such good perspective about it!

4/16/10 @ 4:59 pm (reply)

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texasmeredith (message) 2,130 posts, Buzzing bee

Thank you for writing this. I have a tendency to focus on what isn’t working rather than what is going well. And I’m sure something will go wrong on my wedding day and I need to be able to let it go.

4/16/10 @ 5:00 pm (reply)

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D.Marie (message) 2,484 posts, Buzzing bee

It happens and Im glad you posted this too so we can all relate and tell you that we have done the same thing once or twice and hope not to do it on our wedding day too! I think Im just going to be so emotionally happy that I wont even notice if something goes wrong.

4/16/10 @ 6:04 pm (reply)

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gionnetto (message) 553 posts, Busy bee

I can’t totally relate to your experience BUT I can totally relate with having a hard time letting go of the pissiness.

My advice for you is that you AVOID saying things like “I MUST” because when you’ll fail you’ll fail harder. Try to understand what exactly got you so mad, why, and how your mind works. It’s the ONLY way to undo it. If you sweep it under the carpet (aka brushing it aside) it will come up with a vengeance.

4/16/10 @ 7:50 pm (reply)

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krissybee (message) 3,921 posts, Honey bee

such a refreshing post! i would have been the SAME way. FI is always late. for. everything.

on my wedding day i’m sure something will tick me off but i’m hoping to be calm, cool , collected and let things go. deep breaths and carry on

4/16/10 @ 8:03 pm (reply)

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msashleymarie (message) 616 posts, Busy bee

Thank you. I needed this.

4/16/10 @ 9:20 pm (reply)

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mrspaetz (message) 3,805 posts, Honey bee

oh no. i can totally understand how you’d feel. i’m glad you put things in perspective!

4/17/10 @ 3:17 pm (reply)

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jordynrose (message) 6,351 posts, Bee Keeper

FI is always late to everything, and I feel like this is going to be a big point of contention the day of. I need to get a handle on it now, so I don’t let a bad mood ruin our day.

4/18/10 @ 11:16 pm (reply)

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Miss Buttons (message) 5,046 posts, Bee Keeper

Well, if it makes you feel any better….
Since I have never attended any wedding festivities before in my life other than my own, I had NO idea that the groom was supposed to show up at the end of the shower. Nope. And, of course, no one told me until DURING the shower, and Mr. B happened to be busy doing something by that point. So, people were all asking where he was, and I was stupidly saying that he was out at the dog park with our pup…not realizing that they were all wondering why the heck he wasn’t getting his butt over to the shower! The worst thing is that most of the attendees at the shower haven’t even met Mr. B yet; so to them it probably seems like I have an imaginary fiance!

4/19/10 @ 7:15 am (reply)

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11/10/10 @ 3:58 pm (reply)