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Dear Hive,
Up until now, wedding planning has been all sunshine and rainbows. THEN the 4 month countdown hit and I’m starting to have heart palpitations. My to do list doesn’t have any high importance things anymore (venue, dress, etc.) but I do have time sensitive things (officiant, honeymoon, e-shoot, etc.). These are the things that are causing me to have *almost* meltdowns because I’ve been so busy with non-wedding things.
I started to feel the tears today when I emailed my photographer to ask about dates for the engagement shoot in May. I had a inkling they’d be busy but the response was, “we’re entering our busy season and the first date we have is in mid-July.”
July?!?!?!?!?!!? That’s 3 months away and officially puts my “spring engagement shoot” out of commission and is now a “hot summer day in July shoot” which makes me want to cry because I know Mr. Lobster will be so cranky from wearing anything man-cute. I can’t have his e-shoot outfit a tank top and cut-off shorts. I just can’t. (Haha, honestly, he’d never wear that even if it was 100F outside.)
Xoxo,
Debbie “Wah Wah” Downer
P.S. I know, it’s not the end of the world. I know the most important thing is that Mr. Lobster and I love each other and get married blah blah blah. 
Is the novelty of wedding planning wearing off for you, too? How are you dealing with the madness?
Yesterday was the first time I said to Mr. Snow, “On *day after wedding*, it’ll all be over” and felt relieved.
I’m hoping I get another wave of wedding excitement after the semester ends, but right now…I’m a little over it all.
Ugh, that’s too bad that the timing didn’t work out the way you were hoping. I definitely got to a place in my planning where I was just kind of “over it”. Once all the big details were done and it was just little stuff, I started to get a little frustrated. Eventually, once we got closer I started to get a little more motivated.
I’m in the same boat. Life has been getting in the way and now I’m freaking out a bit. But A. Debbie Downer is hilarious. B. My BM told me in her experience shit will hit the fan about now, but before it gets to the big day it’ll get a lot more fun again. C. July in NY ain’t pretty, but summer dresses are super cute, and is Mr. L into linen suits?
Hang in there!
what a bummer about the engagement shoot timing! but you know, you could always do it early in the morning and it’ll still feel like spring! but definitely at a certain point i realized that i needed to start actually moving on certain things rather than daydreaming about them, which i had done for so long. it’s okay, it’s an exciting time, it just shows that your wedding is getting closer, which is a great thing!
Those feelings started at about the same time for me, though I still feel like I have just as much to do now as I did then. I’m at month 0 (just under 30 days!!) and my to do list is super long, but I’m feeling a little less stressed. Everything is starting to come together, and I’m seeing an end to everything. Hang in there, everything will work out!
I’m sorry about your engagement shoot! Use it as an opportunity to make your E-pictures more unique! Find a cute ice cream shoppe or something… you could even take some in-water photos ala Miss Dolphin : )
Chin up! Everything is going to turn out wonderfully!
is it possible to do the shoot during the week? our photographers are completely booked for weekends, but they are still doing e-shoots and family shoots during the week! or is your photog completely booked, weekdays and all?
I’m starting to get to the point where when something else goes wrong, I get so frustrated, and just want to cancel all our bookings and go to Vegas. I totally feel your pain.
I have been stressing too. I have a little over 60 days and lately my FI and I have been arguing over everything. I hope it’s just the anxiousness. Goodl uck with everything and just keep your spirits up!
Can you see if you can do your engagement shoot on a weekday? We did ours at sunrise on a Thursday and then went to work after. 
It gets better! We are 26 days out and besides the LOADS of family drama, everything else is really in place. But I think it was because of the 3 month crunch.
what if you do the shoot on a weekday or holiday? memorial day anyone? weeknight?
Thanks everyone! It’s nice to hear I’m not the only one who feels like this. The shoot is on a Wednesday since my photog only does e-shoots on weekdays so including those they were pretty booked till July (a testament to how great they are I hope!!). Thank you for your ideas! I am considering many of them already 
@sunnydebs: @Mrs. Pug: great idea! I hadn’t thought about doing it early in the morning! Definitely will ask Mr. L about that.
@Miss Snow: Yes the first day after, I’ll be so relieved. I said to Mr. L “after the wedding it’s back to sweatpants and tshirts. sorry.”
@Miss Dachshund: mm, ice cream. another good idea! We do love our ice cream. The water photos would be great…if the Hudson River wasn’t so gross, lol.
Sorry to hear the bad news! Can you ask to be called in the case that someone cancels their shoot in the weeks/months ahead?
Looks like all the suggestions are covered as I was going to suggest a weekday in the late afternoon (an hour prior to sunset) for that romantic picture feel? That’s when we did ours, and the pix turned out great!! And I’m definitely feeling the stress of wedding planning as well as wedding deadline is RAPIDLY approaching!
Here’s my suggestion, what if you do a mini session with a budding photographer so that you can still have your dreamed about spring shoot, and then your summer shoot too? I think it’s so worth it!
TOTALLY! i’m getting married in less than a month, and i’m over it all. wedding planning was so fun 6 months ago, but now i just want to hide in a corner and cry. may 23rd could not come soon enough!
I know EXACTLY how you feel. 5 months seems like you have all the time you need, then when you hit the 4 month mark, all of a sudden there’s a ton of tedious, detail-oriented tasks that need to be accomplished, with no end in sight! How does 1 month make such a difference?? I’m in August right there with you! AHHHH!!
Boo 
I hate when stuff like that happens. I hope everything works out and I’m sure your summer e-pics will still look really cute!
Amen, sister. I’ve hit this point more than once. It’s crazy how at one point it seemed like I had all the time in the world, and now we only have 4 months and 1 week to go and I’m starting to feel frazzled!! It helped me to create a month-by-month To Do list in Google Docs and do over it with Mr. Jelly. I hope you feel better! Maybe having the e-pics in early morning would give you a more spring-like effect?
ahh bummer. i’m not at that point yet but i bet i will be. i’m started to stress out and the planning has just begun!
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Mrs. Lobster, Brooklyn Age and Occupation: 29, Finance Girl Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Finance Boy Engagement Date: July 25, 2009 Wedding Date: August 2010 Venue: Stage 6 Steiner Studios About Me: I'm a New York-born, Virginia-bred girl who's found her way back to the big city. Mr. Lobster and I met in grad school and have been together ever since. I'm clueless about DIY but am an avid online shopper and love all things polka dots, stripes, and ruffles! When I'm not making wedding lists, you can find me looking for snacks, watching Gilmore Girls, or hanging out with Mr. Lobster and our new puppy Buddy! We are planning a fancy-pantsy Brooklyn wedding for a hot New York summer night which is sure to be a misadventure in the making.
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