Wedding Planning Sucks

Dear Hive,

Up until now, wedding planning has been all sunshine and rainbows. THEN the 4 month countdown hit and I’m starting to have heart palpitations. My to do list doesn’t have any high importance things anymore (venue, dress, etc.) but I do have time sensitive things (officiant, honeymoon, e-shoot, etc.). These are the things that are causing me to have *almost* meltdowns because I’ve been so busy with non-wedding things.

I started to feel the tears today when I emailed my photographer to ask about dates for the engagement shoot in May. I had a inkling they’d be busy but the response was, “we’re entering our busy season and the first date we have is in mid-July.”

July?!?!?!?!?!!? That’s 3 months away and officially puts my “spring engagement shoot” out of commission and is now a “hot summer day in July shoot” which makes me want to cry because I know Mr. Lobster will be so cranky from wearing anything man-cute. I can’t have his e-shoot outfit a tank top and cut-off shorts. I just can’t. (Haha, honestly, he’d never wear that even if it was 100F outside.)

Debbie “Wah Wah” Downer

P.S. I know, it’s not the end of the world. I know the most important thing is that Mr. Lobster and I love each other and get married blah blah blah. :)

Is the novelty of wedding planning wearing off for you, too? How are you dealing with the madness?


Mrs. Lobster

Wedding Date:
August 2010

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    FutureRicioli, Guest @ 2:12 pm

    Not sure how tight your budget is, but is there another photographer that you’d considered but ultimately decided against? Maybe one that you liked, but didn’t have quite the experience you were looking for to entrust your whole wedding to? Maybe they would be willing to do just an e-shoot for you and would have a little more availability? I LOVE our photographer but there are several others that I’d liked and considered, too. One does couples portrait sessions for only $150.. I’m considering doing a second e-shoot with her just for the hell of it since it’s pretty affordable and we’d have that many more shots to chose from when putting together our invites and other decor items.

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    cola 2827 posts, Sugar bee @ 4:17 pm

    Awwww, big HUGS! So sorry you’re feeling stressed and down, but hopefully it will all come together somehow for you!

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    jordynrose 6351 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:51 pm

    Sad face. Maybe you can shoot mostly indoors to cope with the heat?

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    Liz Coopersmith, Guest @ 5:24 pm

    I have ONE more suggestion. Will there be two photographers at your wedding or only one? If there are two (most photogs bring a second shooter), would it be possible to check if THEY’RE available to shoot you this month? Two birds with one stone – get to know the second shooter, get your e-pics. As far as being over your wedding, you know, as a wedding coordinator, my first instinct is to say, get a wedding coordinator that will nail down the details for the last few weeks and your day-of. In lieu of that (I can feel the eye rolls from here), set a day in the next few days to sit down with a calendar and FORCE yourself to decide what needs to get done AND WHEN YOU’RE GOING TO DO IT. It’ll take an hour, and it will make you feel better because you’ll know when everything is going to be taken care of. It’s gonna be all right, I promise.

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    tweds 448 posts, Helper bee @ 7:30 pm

    5 months to go and life is definitely starting to get in the way of the flowers and tastings. Can I just get to the awesome party? Le sigh. Totally feeling you.

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    mrspaetz 3812 posts, Honey bee @ 3:13 am

    epix shoot in July when yr wedding is in August?! Surely your photog can work you in somehow?!

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    ccranetobe 3770 posts, Honey bee @ 3:29 am

    That sucks. I understand about the wedding planning sucks bit. With nearly only 3 months to go… I feel a little outta control somedays with my lists and doing things! but other days im like thats all good.

    The coin flips so often.

    Glad Im not the only one.

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    cnuptain 330 posts, Helper bee @ 9:01 pm

    I was actually just thinking about this today…how when we got engaged, everything was amazing and I was floating on clouds. Now I think I’ve decended to the turbulent zone because it’s a little bit of trudgery right now. Hopefully I’ll head back for the clouds ASAP!

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    lobster 668 posts, Busy bee @ 9:35 am

    @Mrs. Frozen Yogurt: @FutureRicioli: @Liz Coopersmith: Thank you for your ideas! I already paid for my e-shoot with my primary photographer but now I might consider doing something quicker with another photog or friend.
    @ColorCoated: yes! I saw that dress at anthro too and now is part of my e-shoot options :)

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