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Do you know how you have those times during your wedding planning that are all sunshine and rainbows and unicorns? And then… at other times you may experience some periods of cloudy skies and storms?
I currently have an ominous rain cloud over my head. Let me explain…
Remember how I gushed about the amazing honeymoon that Mr. Buttons and I had planned at the Rockhouse hotel?
Well, to put it bluntly…”it ain’t happenin’.”
Mr. Buttons recently started a new job, which is great (yay for employment!), but not so fabulous for our travel plans. Technically, our wedding/honeymoon would fall within the 90 day probationary period for the new job, and they don’t normally allow vacation time during that span of time. And, surprise surprise… when Mr. Buttons asked for the time off (he had informed them upfront in his interview), he was told that there was no justification to take time off for that.
OK, fine. I get that it is a probationary period… but getting married is kind of a big life event, right? They are even telling Mr. Buttons that he has to come in on his “weekend” in order to be off work on the day of our rehearsal! They won’t even give him one measly day off for his wedding. And, sadly… Mr. Buttons will have to report to work a mere 48 hours after our wedding takes place. So, you can imagine what that did to our travel plans.
Thankfully, we are able to get our full deposit back for a very small fee… and we hadn’t booked flights to Jamaica yet. So, the good news is that we aren’t losing a ton of money because of this. The bad news: we aren’t going on a honeymoon, and we have no idea when we will have the chance to go on one. This makes me a very sad panda.
Now, before you think I am just a sulky mess all of the time (although, I will admit, I have been having a little bit of a pity party for a while… but I think that I am completely justified), I’d like to think that there will still be sunny skies on the horizon for us. Mr. Buttons and I are going to have to tuck that refunded money away for safe keeping, and attempt to reschedule at a later date… hopefully sooner than later! Also, this means that we will be able to move into our new apartment right after the wedding (OK, so moving isn’t exactly the most exciting task ever…)! When we were originally planning the honeymoon, Mr. Buttons and I were going to have to bunk at one of our parents’ houses for a little while until a lease could start (because we didn’t want to pay for a week of rent if we were out of town)! But, our lease is now starting at the end of May. Hopefully, we can take some time to move a few big pieces here and there in the days before the wedding… we shall see!
Did you experience some bumps in the road with honeymoon planning and vacation time? Did you have to postpone your honeymoon at all?
aww.. sorry this happened.
seriously though.. his work sucks. it makes me angry.. we’re people.. not work robots!
if i was his boss, i’d totally let him off! 
chin up though.. you’re getting married soooooooooooooooooo soon.
Miss Buttons! I’m sorry to hear that Mr. Buttons’ work isn’t being flexible. My fiance and I are a similar situation…so we decided to save up the money we would have spent on on the honeymoon and go abroad for our one year anniversary! I hope y’all can find a way to still be excited about the trip once you take it.
Ugh! That sucks! I’m sorry! I have had the cloud over me lately too, but you seem to have it worse!
I’m sorry to hear that his boss is so inflexible! We are sort of in the same boat (though we don’t have any definitive plans yet) and we’re going to have to wait a while after the wedding for our honeymoon due to work and a cross country move.
I hope you are able to re-book your trip and stay at the Rockhouse sometime in the future! We went there for vacation back in 2004 and it was amazing- plus they have the best pina coladas I’ve ever tasted (and a 2 for 1 happy hour)
Is he still in finance? Those guys are generally so intense. Is it the # of hours or days that matter? B/c if he just needs x hours in total, can’t he work an extra 2 hrs per day, and accumulate those extra 48 hours?
But nonetheless, you will have a great honeymoon whenever you go on it.
@HisSouthernGirl: One year anniversary sounds like a great time for that! I hope you have a fun trip planned!
@audamy: I’m so jealous; everyone is telling me how awesome the hotel is! I really hope we get to go there in the end.
@ETwedding: Ideally he’d be able to do that, but they won’t let him since its within the first 90 days of employment. Perhaps if he’d been there for a little longer though that would be the case. As it is, he has to go in on his typical day off in order to then have off on the day of our rehearsal. Stinky!
Hugs! When stuff like that happens to me, I try to think about the positives like at least he has a job in this tough economy, etc. etc. Everything will work out!
I was worried about the same thing, because I start a new job the same WEEK as my wedding..but thankfully they let me take off the Friday and whole next week so I can get last minute wedding stuff done and still take my honeymoon. That’s a bummer that they won’t budge at all for his honeymoon =/
LAME. I’m so sorry this happened. Like, yay job, but boooo big bad boss-man (or lady). You’ll get another chance to take one, I’m sure of it. And it will be just as magical and special and wonderful then as it would if you took it now. You’re just about a month away, lady!!
I’m so annoyed for you. I think weddings are pretty much the most significant event in a person’s life, beside birth of your children. But at least you’ll have an amazing vacation to look forward to later.
What a bummer! 
I know we ended up having to cancel our “honeymoon” (to Puerto Rico) and rebook a “minimoon” (at a resort about 4 hours away) as we got closer to the wedding and had a handle on our budget. It was kind of a bummer, but the minimoon ended up just fine. Our original plan was to try to do something for our 1 year but since I’m still in school, the 2nd anniversary might work better. Oh well.
@dddd89: VERY true…which is what I’m trying to focus on. I’m just sad because we haven’t ever taken a vacation together before…so we were SO excited.
@EAQ219: You’re sweet 
As usual…hehe
Something similar happened to us, and then actually got reversed. My FI is a firefighter, and he was supposed to switch departments back in January. The new FD would require him to go to medical school starting THE WEEK OF OUR WEDDING. Now, he would have had our wedding and everything off, but that meant NO honeymoon. I think you’re allowed to be a sad panda, because I was so devastated! I didn’t realize how big of a deal it would be to me. It turned out he didn’t end up switching departments, but we still haven’t booked yet : / Anyways good luck and hope your honeymoon is bigger and better when you finally get to take it!!
wow I would be devestated! seems like you are taking it like a champ though so kudos to you for that.
It’s not too bad.
My husband started a new job the week before our wedding (after 7 months of unemployment) and the company wanted him back to work the week after the wedding.
We postponed our honeymoon to a month later and still went to Big Island, HI where we had intended to go.
It turned out to be better because after the wedding, I got really sick (since I was too busy preparing for the wedding I think) for a week.
If we had not postponed the honeymoon, I would not be able to enjoy Hawaii that much as a sick person…..
Just schedule your honeymoon as soon as your husband can take vacation. It does not have to be right after the wedding.
Cheers!!!!
That’s soo frustrating. Especially since he told them up front in the interview. It’s not like they hired him and then he said “Oh BTW…”. I think that’s kind of rude of them - plus if your wedding isn’t important enough for them to let him off work I can only imagine when they’d make him work in the future.
With my current job I got hired in August and had already planned a week long trip for September - so I made sure in the interview that I could take that week (unpaid) because I would have lost out on my flight and hotel that I’d already paid for.
I agree with camrie, if he had told them upfront during the interview it’s pretty ridiculous that they’re just now denying his request. They should’ve said something sooner. For my last job, I also had to take 2 weeks off during my 90 day probationary period (my 80 year old grandmother was coming to visit from Korea for the first and last time!), and I made sure that it would be allowed–unpaid of course–if I were hired. *hugs* That’s so rough Miss Buttons! But everything happens for a reason right? You’ll get your honeymoon someday, but until then I’m sure everyday with Mr. Buttons will be LIKE a vacation right? LOL ;D
aw, that is disappointing. i know you will get to take a honeymoon eventually, but it’s really hard to have your plans so abruptly changed. his work is being really strict! but sounds like you two are taking a great attitude towards it–this just means that the honeymoon you do take will be that much better!
His new job doesn’t very seem understanding. BUT, there are so many silver linings! He has a job, you can’t beat that, and the actual wedding is not affected. Plus, so many people plan honeymoons around their work or school schedules, it’s not the end of the world. You can go after the 90 days, for your 1 year as many have suggested, when the rates are cheapest, when the weather is the best, anything! And he will enjoy the trip even more because it will mean time off work!!
I totally feel you, Buttons. On Monday, I had a day where I just wanted to scrap all of our plans and get married in the back yard! But luckily, one of my friends talked me off the ledge. I understand about the 3 months rule for Mr. B’s work. I work for the state and I think our ‘probationary’ period is even longer (maybe 6 mo)! Maybe y’all could take a weekend trip after the move. It would be well deserved! All my best
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Mrs. Buttons, Clearwater, FL Age and Occupation: 24, "Working on it" Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Financial Services Engagement Date: June 13, 2009 Wedding Date: May 2010 Venue: Carlouel Yacht Club About Me: I'm a self proclaimed perfectionist and a professional nomad (seriously, I've lived in TX, WI, MI, FL, NC, and now VA!). I love wine, cooking, curling up with a good book (nerd alert!), spoiling the furbaby, and of course, the wonderful Mr. Buttons! We are planning a lighthearted and whimsical wedding (with a good deal of DIY projects) in Clearwater, Florida, but from a distance of 800 miles away! We are looking forward to sharing our day with our family and friends, and most importantly, starting our lives together as husband and wife!
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