“I Don’t Care”

“I Don’t Care”

May 6th, 2010 @ 1:03 pm by Mrs. Frog
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I know I can’t possibly be the only bride out there who is planning a wedding and hears these dreaded words, “I don’t care.” Can I tell you how much I’ve learned to dislike that phrase?

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Scenario:

Miss Frog: Hey, can you come look at this?

Frogger: Look at what?

Miss Frog: These fonts I’m trying to decide between.

Frogger: Fonts…?

Miss Frog: Uh ya, fonts.

Frogger: Okay.

Miss Frog: So, what do you think…do you like this font or this font?

Frogger: {looks} I don’t care.

Miss Frog: Um, what?! {look of disdain and irritation} I’m going to pretend you didn’t say that. Please try again.

Frogger: Well…I don’t know. I really don’t care, which do you like?

And the conversation continues on in this fashion.

Ladies, please tell me you can relate… honestly, I’m not really annoyed but it’s one of those little things that, with all of the other stresses within the planning process, becomes the straw that breaks the camel’s back.

I know I’m not alone, but… ultimately this may be more of a post for the dudes. Men, please take note: “I don’t care” translates to “I don’t give a %$^&” – what you really mean to say is “I don’t have a preference,” or “I like both options,” or “You know what [honey, babe, pookie], I totally trust your judgment on this one.” Believe me when I say, this small change in vocabulary will make all the difference in your wedding planning process.

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Have you come across this dreaded phrase in your planning process?

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61 Responses to ““I Don’t Care””

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Moffy (message) 200 posts, Helper bee

OMG, yes. I love your posts because you are so dead-on!! I’ve heard it, and he has experienced the wrath. Lucky for him (and my blood pressure), he learns pretty quickly (for a guy).

The other thing I heard from my sister recently that really pissed me off: “I’m weddinged out.” She is not in any other wedding, she is not planning a wedding herself, she is a remote bridesmaid who has not helped with any DIY projects or traveled out to help me do anything. All I asked her to do was go and pick a dress. But she was weddinged out. WTF!

5/6/10 @ 1:07 pm (reply)

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Raven

The best post I have ever read!

5/6/10 @ 1:09 pm (reply)

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Ms. Smuttynose (message) 172 posts, Blushing bee

Totally on board with you. It does make things a bit easier though because then I just make the descisions. The worst is when he says he doesn’t care and then once the descision is made he has a problem with it. Sorry buddy….”I don’t care” = you lose your right to complain. Buster!

Hmmm I think I might have had a little pent up aggresion on this one. Honestly it’s fine; I know that some things guys just aren’t into.

5/6/10 @ 1:10 pm (reply)

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ForeverYoung (message) 346 posts, Helper bee

Constantly….
The best is when they say ‘I dont care” …then you take it upon yourself to go with what YOU’VE decided….then they DONT LIKE IT!!!….

Convo went like this:

Me: Can you come with me to see the invitation girl? I want you to see the colors and the text I like.

FH: I really dont feel like it. Choose whatever you like. I trust you.

“Sample Invite in hand”

Me: So ? ( ubber excited)

FH: Meh…Im not crazy about that…and that…and maybe we can change that……

ARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!!

NEXT TIME COME WITH ME !!!

FH: Yeah …but I find all this stuff kinda boring…

So yeah…I feel you ….

5/6/10 @ 1:13 pm (reply)

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alivoo01 (message) 2,622 posts, Sugar bee

I think any of the phrases above translates to “I really don’t give an eff. Just pick one - gah”. I know I’m uberly frustrated/po-ed when the FI says “I don’t care. Just pick one!”.

5/6/10 @ 1:14 pm (reply)

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Treble Clef (message) 109 posts, Blushing bee

Ugh, I definitely hate that. I also hate “I don’t know, which one do you like?”
It’s like pulling teeth to get an opinion on anything, yeesh.

5/6/10 @ 1:17 pm (reply)

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mishelleez (message) 3,319 posts, Sugar bee

Everytime i ask something thats what i get for an answer!

My solution- I dont ask anymore if he doesnt like some thing tuff tomaotes!

5/6/10 @ 1:17 pm (reply)

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Farfromachildbride (message) 1,006 posts, Bumble bee

Word.

5/6/10 @ 1:20 pm (reply)

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Miss Hermit Crab (message) 3,564 posts, Sugar bee

i’m totally with you on this one!

5/6/10 @ 1:20 pm (reply)

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Miss Snow (message) 916 posts, Busy bee

YES! Because, in the end they *do* care. We call it “don’t caring until you care” because they (whoever *they* is) don’t care as long as they agree with your choices… If they don’t, you’ve done all this hard work and all the sudden they want to make changes, voice an opinion, etc. We’ve forbidden “don’t-care-until-you-care” in our household

Yes yes yes to this post!

5/6/10 @ 1:21 pm (reply)

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Jen112010 (message) 3 posts, Wannabee

I feel your pain! This phrase is so frustrating! He always says I don’t care but then he doesn’t like the decision I’ve made! Well too bad, I’m not playing those games!

5/6/10 @ 1:22 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Frozen Yogurt (message) 2,685 posts, Sugar bee

Yeah, not good. But even “whatever you think” pisses me off. Have an opinion!!

5/6/10 @ 1:22 pm (reply)

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Miss Thimble (message) 807 posts, Busy bee

Ugh! Sing it sister!!

I hate those 3 words. So much. And even their ambivalent less harsh equivalents. I listen to him ramble on about his iPad; why can’t he muster up the patience to talk through invitation design or care more about the ceremony? I want to know what his expectations and wants are. Nutso, for reals. Silly boys.

5/6/10 @ 1:23 pm (reply)

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winter (message) 1,333 posts, Bumble bee

OH MY! After three months of my husband saying “i dont care” and “whatever you want” i had a total meltdown and cried for almost na hour about when I ask him I am asking for his opinion becuase it was OUR wedding not mine. He finally realized that he had to give his opinion and when he did things went a lot smoother. He finally realized that I wanted to make this as special for him as for me.

5/6/10 @ 1:24 pm (reply)

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Bee

Mrs. Pug (message) 3,753 posts, Honey bee

yup, sounds familiar. it ruffled my feathers a bit that he didn’t care about things that were important to me, but in the end i stopped asking, and after the wedding he kept complimenting me on what a great job i did. and i got to take all the credit because he didn’t do anything! ha!

5/6/10 @ 1:24 pm (reply)

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alvina (message) 807 posts, Busy bee

hahah. I just decide then cause I probably had a preference and just wanted his input.

5/6/10 @ 1:26 pm (reply)

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Miss Seashell (message) 1,713 posts, Bumble bee

Yes. Additional rule: If you “don’t care” now, you don’t get an opinion later.

5/6/10 @ 1:26 pm (reply)

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Lillindy (message) 7,974 posts, Bee Keeper

I crossed that dreaded phrase in the planning process and even still now in the home decor process…it drives me nuts!!!

5/6/10 @ 1:30 pm (reply)

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missvintage (message) 571 posts, Busy bee

oh, I am SO with you.

5/6/10 @ 1:37 pm (reply)

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Twista (message) 804 posts, Busy bee

I hate “I don’t care” in all part of life.
Me: What do you want for dinner?
Fi: I don’t care.
Me: Well we can have tacos, burgers or chili cheese fries.
Fi: I don’t care.

DRIVES. ME. CRAZY.

5/6/10 @ 1:37 pm (reply)

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