Seal the Deal

Seal the Deal

May 6th, 2010 @ 5:15 pm by Mrs. Frog
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I’m guessing many of you already know where this post is going. A little background on how I arrived at my extremely awkward new wedding thoughts… bear with me.

I had the fun opportunity to spend the weekend in town at a local resort with MOH Big Apple. It was a nice little staycation and very needed during all of the wedding madness. While there, a wedding took place on Saturday and we were lucky enough to be on a patio overlooking the cocktail hour. We may or may not have spied on the guests.

Later that night, we were heading back to our room after dinner and as we walked up, we passed the honeymoon suite. It was located next door to our room! The wedding party had decorated with little tea light candles and flower petals. It was just too cute!

Soooo… that got me thinking. How awkward is the thought of people knowing you are “sealing the deal” the night of your wedding?!

Relatives, Parents… GRANDparents… it’s just a bit creepy to think that they all know of this “tradition”—it makes me think of the movie Just Married—has anyone seen it? Frogger and I love that movie (and I’m sad we’ve lost Brittany Murphy at such a young age). There is a part in that movie where her character has these exact thoughts:

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Sarah: “Oh my God tomorrow my parents are going to know I’m not a virgin anymore!”

Tom: “Sarah, no… You haven’t been a virgin since college.”

Sarah: “I know. I know. But tomorrow they’re going to know for sure that I’m not a virgin. And they’re going to know that you deflowered me, oh God!”

Now I’ve been to many weddings and I’ve never once thought about the bride and groom “on their wedding night” – but now, as my time approaches I begin thinking of things I never have in the past. And well, it’s just a tad unnerving to think of family members having thoughts anywhere near these awkward ones.

Please tell me I’m not alone… or after reading this, I’m not alone because you are now thinking of it thanks to moi. Misery loves company, friends.

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rachel_leigh (message) 1,106 posts, Bumble bee

I was just thinking about this yesterday. It gave me the willies.

5/6/10 @ 4:53 pm (reply)

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Miss Olive (message) 548 posts, Busy bee

You, my lady, are not alone. I have often thought the same thing. And I have thought it about other newly married couples. Not thought about them sealing the deal, but about them knowing that their families know that they did it. And, I love that movie also!

5/6/10 @ 4:54 pm (reply)

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littlemissfiance (message) 1 posts, Wannabee

I’ve thought about this a good bit - and it is a bit disturbing.

5/6/10 @ 4:56 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pug (message) 3,753 posts, Honey bee

i have not thought about this. but now i am. thanks.

5/6/10 @ 4:57 pm (reply)

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moderndaisy (message) 6,607 posts, Bee Keeper

I’ve actually been dreading getting comments from people about it. I hate it when people do that, it’s none of their business and should be private.

5/6/10 @ 5:00 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Frozen Yogurt (message) 2,685 posts, Sugar bee

Ha, I’m with pug, I hadn’t thought of it, but now oh man, I’m thinking of it.

5/6/10 @ 5:01 pm (reply)

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alivoo01 (message) 2,622 posts, Sugar bee

Recently, lots of weddings I’ve been to, the bride and groom have always been too tired following the wedding and are usually hosting guests at their house so it’d be weird to seal the deal with 15 people at your house. Then again, it’s been mostly Asian weddings where there is no send off and the party moves to the bride and groom’s place after getting “kicked out” of the reception location. None the less, I just got the chills thinking about your post. Thanks. haha!

5/6/10 @ 5:03 pm (reply)

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Miss Seashell (message) 1,713 posts, Bumble bee

YES! This is why I am bothered by “the morning after” brunch. It feels icky to me. Post coming soon!

5/6/10 @ 5:03 pm (reply)

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Adriana Barrantes

Well, I guess since I married already having a daughter people was not shocked thinking if i was a virgin or not hahaha but well, we were so tired after our wedding we went straight to bed and slept until 11am next day!

5/6/10 @ 5:04 pm (reply)

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Miss Jellyfish (message) 1,450 posts, Bumble bee

Hahaha I’ve definitely thought about this. So disturbing! Funny thing is, I hear most couples are too tired to do it on their wedding night anyway (esp if they’ve done it before).

5/6/10 @ 5:07 pm (reply)

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Twista (message) 804 posts, Busy bee

I was at a wedding of two people last year who had “saved themselves” for marriage. It wasn’t awkward until the pastor made a comment about how the couple will now be able to give all of themselves to each other, or something to that effect. I’ve never felt so awkward for another person before in my life.

5/6/10 @ 5:10 pm (reply)

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Sarah

I had never thought about it until the day after my cousin got married. We saw him in the elevator and my mom turns to me after he was gone and says “So do you think he became a man last night?” I was totally shocked but it was kinda funny.

5/6/10 @ 5:10 pm (reply)

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HisButtercup (message) 155 posts, Blushing bee

I actually hadn’t thought about it, but seeing as my FI and I have been living together for a year, I don’t think it’ll be quite as awkward. It was definitely WAY awkward telling my folks that we were moving in together, though!

5/6/10 @ 5:14 pm (reply)

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MissChirpie (message) 730 posts, Busy bee

@Twista: I’ve been to weddings like that too! Soooo awkward! For my wedding though, everyone knows I’ve been living with my FI for the last 3 years. No big secret that our wedding night won’t be our first time.

5/6/10 @ 5:14 pm (reply)

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Miss Cola (message) 2,868 posts, Sugar bee

Haha! Mr. C and I were just talking about this last night, saying if we get tired during our after party, I’m just going to stand up and announce that I’m going to bed, and look pointedly at Mr. C. I KNOW our friends will think “gee, the newlyweds probably want some alone time” and it will be an easy way to end the after party and get everyone out of our suite! LOL, I guess this is the opposite of the not wanting people to think about it, but oh well, I don’t care!

5/6/10 @ 5:15 pm (reply)

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thebriz (message) 448 posts, Helper bee

We already live together, so it’s not a big deal but the day will be so long and after we are done, getting our things together, heading home, etc., even if we were staying in a honeymoon suite, most folks probably wouldn’t think we’re doing anything. I’ll have been up since before 7am and unless I get my second wind, I fully intend to sleep that night, lol!

5/6/10 @ 5:17 pm (reply)

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Treble Clef (message) 109 posts, Blushing bee

I agree, so creepy! I mean, most of my relatives already will have assumed…but it’s still gross to think about.
I feel the same about lingerie showers–I don’t want to open that kind of stuff in front of everyone!

5/6/10 @ 5:29 pm (reply)

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hrev2010 (message) 416 posts, Helper bee

Funny story. My FI and I were having dinner with my cousin (12), aunt and uncle. My cousin casually asked what we were going to do on our honeymoon. My uncle got after my cousin about how that was not appropriate. My cousin was honestly wanting to know what sightseeing fun stuff we were going to do and my aunt scolded my uncle for having his mind in the gutter. FI and I both began to blush!

5/6/10 @ 5:29 pm (reply)

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Cornhusker (message) 274 posts, Helper bee

I guess living together I haven’t thought about this, I just assumed that when we bought our house that the family was aware there wasn’t two twin beds in the master bedroom! ha

5/6/10 @ 5:36 pm (reply)

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meticulousladybug (message) 65 posts, Worker bee

funny. I actually overheard a young lady greeting a mutual girfriend, she was apparently just back from her honeymoon: “Giiirrrl! I’m having SEX now!!!!”

I thought it was hilarious!

5/6/10 @ 5:37 pm (reply)

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