Weddingbee Blog

Screw the details! Maybe we can just have a giant balloon heart?

Thank you again for your overwhelmingly massive response to my ring dilemma discussed here, and here. I seem to be suffering from an inability to actualize a lot of my projects lately and actually making a decision feels really good.

I think I’ve come to realize that the wedding is now, gulp, four months away and all these things that have been hypothetical, ideological, aspirational or otherwise written and debated and discussed need to start happening. I need to make decisions for realz now. Double big gulp. It’s go time.

I’m trying to focus on the details that really DO matter to us and forget (or find cheap/quick/pretty) alternatives for all the rest. I actually went to IKEA a few weeks ago and spent $20 on ALL the frames for our table numbers. Score. Done.

Here’s a sneak peek at a (very) annotated version of THE LIST that remains:

1. My dress. I’m not in love with it, and since it was so cheap I’ve always told myself it was no big deal to find another one. Ha. Ha. This one deserves its own post.
2. Bridesmaids dresses/attire. It’s time to actually take our bridesmaids shopping and find some fabulous (and affordable) vintage goodness.
3. Our cranes need to be completed and strung.
4. Build my bouquet
5. Make our ceremony broom
6. Order our rings
7. INVITES. Need I say more?

And the list goes on…

I’m not overwhelmed by the particular tasks themselves (in fact I’m super excited about most of them) and yet I’m strangely sad about all the details that we won’t have based on what we decide to go with. It’s super silly, I know. sigh. Sometimes I think all this thinking/blogging about our wedding makes it even more difficult to actually make a damn decision because we tend to over-analyze every little thing. We have way too many options and that makes it easy to overlook the simple, “perfect for us” but maybe not the prettiest details. Ya know?

I guess you could also say that I have a fear of detail commitment. Big time. I have too many ideas and we don’t have the time/money/tenacity for all of them. The choices we make now and move forward with will shape the look and feel of our wedding, and that makes them seem kinda important, ya know? And that has me waffling over seemingly simple decisions. And that in turn makes me feel foolish. I’m a busy lady and I don’t have time to fuss over trivial details. Oh wedding planning, you really are a beast!

But now that we’ve made the paramount wedding band decision maybe it won’t be so hard to make (gulp) another important decision. I can (sort of) already feel my rusty wedding decision making gears cranking into action, although I’ll admit it could just be my stomach growling, and so it will all fall into place effortlessly* and I’ll look back on this waffling/stressing/indecisiveness and just laugh.

*Or not. Because I think effortless is the biggest lie ever told to us brides/awesome people planning weddings. There’s usually a ton of thought, work, and love behind making something look effortless.

So here’s to putting in the work when it’s worth it and taking that damn trip to IKEA when it’s not!

Anyone else annoyed by their own indecision? Taking a trip to IKEA this weekend? Waffling on trivial paramount wedding decisions? Any secrets for snapping out of it and just making a damn decision already?!